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Summer and transitioning

Started by Lesley_Roberta, July 17, 2013, 03:36:31 PM

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Lesley_Roberta

I mentioned in another thread, but I feel strongly enough to mention it as it's own subject.

Summer makes transition harder and impacts me more so.

Summer means light dresses and skirts. It means nice light tops and trying to cover up while uncovering at the same time.

Summer is all the sexy clothing, that likely is so way past the margin for some of us.

Summer is swimming, and trying to figure out how to look like a female with something that normally in today's age, rarely covers anything. And that means revealing all of what you might not have to conceal in the first place and the hell of concealing all of what you might not normally have as much trouble concealing in any other form of clothing. Because a bikini doesn't leave much room for illusion.

Summer is all sorts of fun, that just isn't any fun in some cases, because, it's no fun being TG at a nudist resort if you haven't swapped the parts yet.

I like the green of summer, but the heat is no friend. Wearing a wig on a day like it is right now is not my idea of fun.
And while it might be ok to go braless if what is in the bra is real, it is a challenge to go braless, if what you normally have in a  bra is an illusion. And on a brutally hot day, an illusion rapidly loses it's thrill. You don't want to be the only female stuck in a bra and not even have actual breasts needing the bra.

My thoughts are predictably MTF centric. I suppose a FTM person will have some input on this line of thinking. Not sure what there slant on it would be like. I suppose being FTM and the only one not walking around with their shirt off enjoying the sun would be a drag. Not being able to do so because of something normally concealed would be a downer.

I never experience hassles with being hot and sweaty and feeling my clothes all sticky and way to much icky cruddy feeling between the legs thanks to 'it', in the middle of the winter. I have some clothes I simply would prefer to wear during a nice crisp dry day in the winter. And winter is a season when a nice comfy night gown is a lot more fun.

I suspect transition will be a long process for me, unless after 50 years life actually cuts me some slack (not waiting for that though).
I suppose I will dislike summers more than winters over the process. I will be moody about clothing more so thanks to what I can't wear in the summer than my choices for the winters. I will still want to get a nice skirt and some good high boots. But I am sure most days in the winter I just won't be in as much of a rush.
But I have been bummed out about needing shorts since January. And I expect the snow will be here before I have new shorts and the season to buy them will have yet again come and gone.

I am seriously looking forward to fall and not just because I don't like the heat.
Back to shorter days, more sleep, less stress over clothing, and an urge to putter away on hobbies indoors and not always fixated on what I am not able to choose to wear. And winter will mean Christmas, and I plan to finally enjoy asking for things fit for a woman this year and not hold back. I don't need a model, or a book, or a game. I need breast forms, wigs, make up, lingerie and nice clothes for summer 2014 :)

Now if life could just have me accidentally suddenly discover a few hundred thousand bucks for all the expensive parts of transition..... :)
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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Emily Aster

Yeah summer is rough. I have to make up excuses about why I can't come down for visits to family that lives at the beach because I'm not out to them yet and I really don't want to listen to the giant lecture about how men should never ever shave their legs again, or the one about how men should never wear white sneakers again, or the one about how men don't have long hair again, or the one about how men must wear shorts that hit the knees again, or the one about how purple is a girl's color... yet again.
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Lo

I think most transgender people have a special place in their heart for hating summer heat, lol. I consider myself really lucky to not mind bikinis, but I do feel much more at home in in the rashguard and wetsuit.

Wearing multiple sports bras and/or binders in the heat DEFINITELY sucks. Especially since I can go through sports bras like that faster than underwear, and then run out of clean ones well before I have enough dirty laundry to do a load. Bleh...
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Soren

From the male side- sweaty binders that adhere to the skin with sweat. Having to wear pants because leg hair is straight and legs are too feminine. Possibly layering and/or wearing long sleeves to cover fleshy non-masculine arms. Having to wear darker colors so your sweat doesn't make your shirt see-through and your binder visible. And of course, everyone staring at you because you look like you're dressed for winter.
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Shannon1979

Definately relate to that. Not having any HRT yet i have to use quite some makeup. Plus i have work i have to wear black jeans at the moment because i am having trouble finding light weight womens trousers that will fit me. with all that and the wig i end up feeling like i am melting. when i am walking into town to get the bus i deliberately start out early so i can spend some time ducking in and out of shops to get into there airconditioning. I never though thatr i who hates the cold would be wishing for autumn and winter but bring it on. :angel:
Mountains can only be summounted by winding paths. And my path certainly has taken a few twists and turns.
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wanderingamoeba

It's been so humid there have been a couple of days the past couple of weeks when I couldn't even THINK about putting on a binder because it would inevitably get caught up around my armpits and I'd be stuck, meaning I had to settle for a sports bra or two, which made for some very uncomfortable shifts at work. But I can say I am very grateful that a wig doesn't fall anywhere into my presentation ever. I'm dripping by the time I get to work as it is; that just sounds miserable. :(
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Shannon1979

Quote from: wanderingamoeba on July 17, 2013, 07:04:46 PM
It's been so humid there have been a couple of days the past couple of weeks when I couldn't even THINK about putting on a binder because it would inevitably get caught up around my armpits and I'd be stuck, meaning I had to settle for a sports bra or two, which made for some very uncomfortable shifts at work. But I can say I am very grateful that a wig doesn't fall anywhere into my presentation ever. I'm dripping by the time I get to work as it is; that just sounds miserable. :(

the wig is horrible, but we have to do what we have to do. it's made worse by the fact that my hair is now getting longer under the wig. It's not long enough to have styled yet but long enough to be really irritating in the heat LOL. :angel:
Mountains can only be summounted by winding paths. And my path certainly has taken a few twists and turns.
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Lesley_Roberta

I have let the hair that I can still grow, grow out long as much as it is interested in doing, but sadly, a full head of hair will not be happening for me regardless of how long I wait.

I figured letting people see me with unusually long hair (the hair that I still manage) would at least allow them to make a disconnect from my days of always short hair. But it is also fine hair and it doesn't sit well, blows around too much.

When I allow myself the funds to invest in a wig, I plan to adopt it as my real look, and the real hair will get cropped so as to not be an intrusion. I will be using the wig 24/7 all year outside of the home. The challenge is finding a 'look' that seems correct for me. I am planning to let my neighbouring hair salon friend just go with her own judgement likely.
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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Shannon1979

Quote from: Lesley_Roberta on July 18, 2013, 06:35:40 AM
I have let the hair that I can still grow, grow out long as much as it is interested in doing, but sadly, a full head of hair will not be happening for me regardless of how long I wait.

I figured letting people see me with unusually long hair (the hair that I still manage) would at least allow them to make a disconnect from my days of always short hair. But it is also fine hair and it doesn't sit well, blows around too much.

When I allow myself the funds to invest in a wig, I plan to adopt it as my real look, and the real hair will get cropped so as to not be an intrusion. I will be using the wig 24/7 all year outside of the home. The challenge is finding a 'look' that seems correct for me. I am planning to let my neighbouring hair salon friend just go with her own judgement likely.

It's definatly worth investing in a high quality real hair wig. as they are longer lasting and obviously more natural looking. mine is of good quality but is not real hair and as such has a few issues. I only hope i can make it last another 8 weeks or so as i think my hair will be just long enough to do at least something with by then.
Mountains can only be summounted by winding paths. And my path certainly has taken a few twists and turns.
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