Calling the police is a good idea, but it's likely that won't solve the problem in itself.  They may not do anything other than filing a report and or they may take slight action that could provoke her to take further action.  I'm not bashing the authorities, but they are usually powerless to prevent something without hard evidence or monitoring the situation 24/7 (which won't happen).  Whatever you do, please be aware of your surroundings and be on the look out for anything odd.  Your mother may just be grieving and might not have real intentions to follow through with her plans, but make sure you realize the severity of the situation. 

Call the police. YOu need to really as if it continues and you decide later, they will have previous information and complaints to establish a pattern.

It sounds like she is having a breakdown. I mean, you said she wasn't particularly religious before and that changed and you have never heard her talk about aliens or guns or anything or act in this scary way before as I recall? Her behaviour has changed greatly and she sounds like she needs proper help for her own good.

Oh Lord no... just caught this thread..

But yes, report this to the police, try and find a way of getting your mother into psychiatric care (ideally of the secure institutionalized type) and change your daily schedule.

Sending hugs and positive vibes.

Mum's and dad's can say stupid things at times. My dad said before I started living as Bethany, "can't you not do it for 12 months, so we can get use to you being Bethany?"

What I would do is move, like now!!

You need to do what you HAVE to do. It's just about YOU and no one else. I know she's your mum, but you should NOT care what she wants/thinks.

You need to be happy with YOUR life and be the girl you always have been.

Do what they want and you will not be happy at all!!

Wow, I'm just chiming in for a little moral support; I don't really have much to add. Beyond ... just wow. I might be worried for your dad's safety as well. Yes, moms can say crazy things (mine is 80, and eastern european, so I know, although she handled my news with such grace and dignity and only a few question over a glass of wine that I feel guilty even mentioning it in this thread...) but actually saying I've got a gun and I've thought about using it on you is something straight out of Misery. I'm so sorry....

I haven't been on Susan's much lately and just stumbled on this thread. I'm so sorry you are going through this with your family, Anna!.  (((HUGS)))

Thanks everybody, sorry I haven't been on in a while.  I've talked with my Aunt and Uncle (her sister and brother), and they have no idea why she's reacting like this.  My uncle was even surprised at just how religious she seems to be now!  We'll see if they follow through with their threats (and hopefully exaggerations)...

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Hey <Male name>:

The UM Family weekend is October 18-20. But, to put your mind to rest, I have booked a hotel. It also looks like I have first pickings this year to register. Registration begins August 15 and that's my day at 1:30 p.m.!

I would love to invite you, but I'm afraid you will no longer look like my son as the days progress. As I said earlier, you are changing both yourself and your parents. I have read where some parents have hoped for 11 years for their son to change their mind!!!!! Both your dad and I will not do that. Because you have hurt us so to the point where your dad dreams of shooting himself in the head in the shower because he has been a failure at fatherhood, we are only going to give it a year .... March 11, 2014. After that, we are going to be done because I will not allow you to destroy our happiness. I love your father too much to destroy him.

As I said, I will always love you and I am thankful that I had 24 years of being a proud, joyful parent to you. But ..... it's not all about you.

MOM

Quote from: Anna! on July 28, 2013, 09:11:29 AM
Thanks everybody, sorry I haven't been on in a while.  I've talked with my Aunt and Uncle (her sister and brother), and they have no idea why she's reacting like this.  My uncle was even surprised at just how religious she seems to be now!  We'll see if they follow through with their threats (and hopefully exaggerations)...

I really don't know what to say really your mom just keeps getting worse and worse. I think she needs some serious help. I'm glad to see you back on here I've noticed you haven't been on here lately. 

Quote from: Heather on July 28, 2013, 09:30:15 AM
I really don't know what to say really your mom just keeps getting worse and worse. I think she needs some serious help. I'm glad to see you back on here I've noticed you haven't been on here lately. 

I fear that she's getting the wrong kind of help.  She just joined a group called "help4families", a group I've seen described as "Reinforcement for Christian families who don't accept a member's ->-bleeped-<-".  I don't have high hopes

Yeah, I'm back!  I didn't actually mean to leave (see my post in "What Are You Thinking v5"), but hopefully I'll find time to keep posting

Oh dear, what can I say.

The way things are looking it seems like there may need to be a DSM-6, DSM-7 and DSM-8 just to keep track of your mother.

Can you afford to move to a new address and get a private mailbox? When I still had roommates, I had their names listed in the phone book and on bills, but I still didn't feel that I had enough of a buffer from my family. I needed a mailbox address that I could use for everything but the Registrar of Voters and the DMV. I never gave out my residence address to anyone else but close friends.

It really does sound as if your mother is losing it. I, too, think you should seriously consider talking to the police.

Anna, I am so sorry to hear about how your parents are still reacting, I hope you have distanced yourself from them to be safe. Please print up these emails from your family and bring them to the police.

Praying for your safty, and sending you hugs.

I'm sorry it's still going poorly.  Her comment on how "it's not all about you" while she is doing something hurtful towards you reminds me of how my family has been acting.  I like how she tries to turn it around and act like you are the one being selfish.  Yeah, disowning your child and kicking them out of your life is the child being selfish and making it all about themselves .   Given the way things have been turning out, you may want to be the one to distance yourself from her and not the other way around.  I really hope it gets better Anna. 

The letter is so toxic you're best to to ignore them totally. If this were my situation I'd report her for threatening to murder you and I'd call 911 to report that your father is threatening suicide.

As much as she is convinced that your friends around you are influencing your decisions in life, the same surely has to be said for her. Have you asked her about the groups and the people she takes counsel from in relation to your transition?

Reading all this is so sad and painful. I hope your ok and doing well after this, i don't have the words to describe how you must feel, but it makes me so so angry to read some of the outrageous and shocking statements from your mother.. my goodness!

Oh and the comment she made earlier about can you feel the presence of the Archangel Michael? I think she was implying that she was praying for you and asked for help.

Quote from: Bardoux on July 29, 2013, 06:30:43 AM
As much as she is convinced that your friends around you are influencing your decisions in life, the same surely has to be said for her. Have you asked her about the groups and the people she takes counsel from in relation to your transition?

This is what I was thinking.

Anna, you said something earlier about her joining "help4families." If that's the case, it's possible that she's just getting some really bad advice. Scare tactics, etc. Of course, in this situation it's better to play it safe and keep your distance (or move if you can!) but it sounds to me like a lot of what she's saying is calculated BS. Either way, she's bullying you and mistreating you so you're right to distance yourself from it.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

But after reading everything, I just want to tell you how impressed I am by you! You're so incredibly strong!

I'm wishing you the best in this whole messed up situation, and I hope it all works out for you. You deserve happiness.

I think my mom heard about me updating facebook.  I got this text message while I was at a game night this evening:  "we are not your parents.  You are not welcome in our house.  Change your last name".

I ended up leaving the game night to join a smaller group of friends to vent, and now i'm going to go to bed and cry myself to sleep.

Quote from: Anna! on August 16, 2013, 11:36:49 PM
I think my mom heard about me updating facebook.  I got this text message while I was at a game night this evening:  "we are not your parents.  You are not welcome in our house.  Change your last name".

I ended up leaving the game night to join a smaller group of friends to vent, and now i'm going to go to bed and cry myself to sleep.

That is just horrible! I'm so terribly sorry Anna nobody deserves to be told that by a so called parent. This behavior of theirs totally disgusts me. They are not worth your tears they are terrible parents and they don't deserve a daughter as good as you. 

Sounds like they have given up their rights as parents(at least she has) not that it seems they could be called good parents anyway. Sorry this just steams me up that the people who should have 'unconditional love for you can be so hateful towards you wanting to be happy, last time I checked that is what real parents want for their children 'To be happy'.

Thanks you two.  I've had some sleep and i'm feeling a bit better.  I'm guessing that this will take at least a few days to recover from.