So last year, I came out to my mother and father as a cross dresser. They're divorced, and one lives in New Hampshire, while the other is in Florida, so I had to tell them on two separate occasions.
Last year, my ex wife forced me to end our marriage, because she was unaccepting of me in general... not just the cross dressing... like, I wasn't allowed to do anything but sit at home on the couch, and I even got yelled at for that. So I'd clean, but I wasn't cleaning right, etc. Then she'd drag me to parties as arm candy, and I was really just sick of being treated like a piece of meat. So I ended that one, and had to explain it all to my parents.
My father was okay with it. In fact, he said "Well, I was expecting Gay, but you're a crossdresser? Hell, I've put on your mom's dresses a few times. Whatever."
My mother was a little less okay with it, which is surprising. She said "Well... that's weird, but you're still my son."
So over the past year, I've been a lot more truthful to myself. I've discovered that I am a lot more comfortable in life as a woman than I am as a man. I wear pretty conservative clothing, I don't go to drag shows, I stay out of gay bars... I just like living as a woman a lot more than I do as a man. So my current wife and I are working toward getting me closer to being what I actually might be. We've both talked, and as we go deeper into my past, everything starts to click...
When I was 14, I posed as a girl online. I still do today. In fact, this is the only forum where I don't have to pose as a girl, and I don't have to compensate for a lack of maleness when I "be respectful" as a guy. I don't flirt with anyone, and I don't post pics of myself... I just... present female.
The goal for the rest of the year is to get on HRT, and eventually start living full time. I made my boss aware of this a few weeks ago, and she said she was completely fine with it. When I asked her if this was going to effect my job, she assured me that as long as I continued to do great work, I'd be an employee there. (I'm a merchandiser, so I don't have to interact with anyone.)
The other day, I called my mother up and told her I am transsexual. She kinda threw a fit... She was more concerned with how I was gonna look, whether or not I liked men, what people would think of me, what family would think of me, and weather or not I was going to go through with SRS. I told her I'd cross the SRS bridge when I came to it, but I'm into women. And even so, would she judge me differently if HRT changed me and I liked men? She said she didn't know, and I had to remind her that one of her daughters is a lesbian. She said I'd always be her "son" and that she'd always love me, and hung up.
So that didn't go too well... I'm really worried about what my dad's gonna think. He's ultra catholic, born and raised in Vermont. I don't even know if I can tell him.
My current wife and I met about three years ago. We'd been really good friends, and one day last year, I heard she was pregnant, and the father abandoned her. So I offered to help her out with raising the kid so he can have two parents. I made her aware that if we were to pursue a relationship together that there's a chance that I could be going through a lot of gender related changes. I told her "Look, I don't know if I'm gonna stay a guy, grow breasts, keep my penis, lose the penis, etc." and she replied "Then you will be whatever you are, and I will still love you for who you are."
We got married in March, and she's helping me toward my gender related goals. Our son is a beautiful little blond haired, blue eyed boy who is super chatty and flirty with all the ladies that pass us. I'm proud of my family. Its the rest of life that I'm worried about. I have a lot of family to deal with, and they're all pretty unopen to this type of thing.
-Fane
