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Not liking long hair

Started by Riley Skye, August 07, 2013, 08:32:03 AM

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Riley Skye

So right now my hair is the longest it has ever been and honestly I am hating it. I don't like how it looks really. I get compliments on it a lot, especially from my girl friends. I'm honestly thinking about getting it and keeping it buzzed, for me long hair isn't the way to go. I understand that hair is a huge sign of femininity but I don't care. I feel secure in my femininity enough to go with the short hair and forget about growing it. Plus it is also really awkward now since a lot has grown back in the past and its very uneven. Maybe in the future I will let it grow back out but for now, for me long hair is not the way to go.
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bethany

Long hair is not for everyone weat it the way you feel most comfortable and rock it! Honestly a lot of women wear their hair shorter.
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Jess42

I'm definately on the other end of the spectrum. If my hair isn't at least to my shoulders I get self conscious. Like Bethany said though, there are a lot of girls with short hair. You could always go for a cute pixie.
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Keaira

I got mine cut the other day. I posted a photo in the "you look fabulous"thread. I can do long hair, but it drives me crazy when it reaches that length where you spend time eating it because its not long enough to stay out of your mouth. I just cannot stand a buzz cut. I had to have it that short while I was in the air forde. Never again!
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Sarah Louise

My hair is almost to my waist.  I get compliments on it all the time, seems people like long grey/white hair.
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Joanna Dark

Well I see everyone is advising you that it's okay to buzzcut your hair and it is but you should get used to never passing. Many women would have trouble passing with a buzz cut. It's very masculinizing. You need a heart shaped face. Even then. Just get a pixie cut and you'll be fine. I would advise against a buzz cut unless you don't care about not passing.Pretty much ever. But I guess does what makes you happy. Know the risks though. 
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Tessa James

We were out and about yesterday with two of our kinda butch friends that identify as a lesbian couple.  They usually sport buzz cuts and cargo pants/shorts with t-shirts.  We talked about rest room hassles and i was surprised that they have had more misgendering experiences than I have!  People are just so sadly reliant on the short hand and quick identifiers of compliance.  Ya, let's all be sparrows or Stepford wives?  I love long hair but I love freedom even more.
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Ltl89

I agree that you should do what's right for you, but I'd ask you to consider whether buzzing is the right thing.  There are plenty of girls with short hair.  That's not a crime.  However, a buzzed head is really difficult to pass with.  You may regret doing that after the fact and it will take much longer to grow back.  Are there any short styles that you have considered.  Some pixie cuts look really nice and feminine.

Having said that, I know what you mean about long hair.  I hate the maintenance, but like the look (after I get it just right.... which never happens). 
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Riley Skye

Well I was thinking about my hair over today and I want it to grow in more evenly, it's becoming the reason why I'm really not liking it now as it all just grew back a number of months ago. I may end up growing it just long enough to be able to cover up my forehead but anyways I will ask my stylist what she thinks I should do with my hair. It's just so irksome at this point.
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Rachel84

I've cut my hair off after growing it out for a couple years a couple times (and always regretted it afterwards).  But there's always that period between the short hair and around the shoulder length hair that lasts around six months, where it's always awkward.  Either it's too long to style properly, or it's too short to pull back.  When it's at that length it sucks, and I've known a few people who would try to grow it out, but quit at that point because you can't do much with it.

I'm not saying to not cut your hair if that's what you want to do.  But once it gets past that weird stage and you can actually do something with it, whether it straighten it or curl it or whatever, it's much more fun and enjoyable to have then if it's just buzzed off.  And it does look much more feminine.  If your willing to stick with it while it grows out, and then still don't like having long hair, you can always cut it off later on.
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BurningBrilliance

The problem with my hair are the split ends that make it almost impossible to manage. I think going to your stylist is a good idea because if you get your split ends taken care of it could make it easier to manage. Also make sure your using shampoo that's right for your hair and be mindful of the enviroment which can also damage your hair. I hear its also good to cycle shampoo's and conditioners so your hair doesn't get used to just one, I'm not sure about that though.

I wouldn't get it shaved though. If your worried about making your hair look nice give it time, love and care.

Hope this helps! ;D

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Jess42

Have some patience because there is a point when you grow it out that it just looks like crap no matter what you do. While growing it out you need to get trims ever so often to even it up. Believe me, if you let it grow and get trims, one time you go to fix it and it'll seem not so bad after all. It'll only get better from there other than the extra care for it in and out of the shower.

As for my long hair, I really don't mind the hastle too much but curly hair is pretty much wash and go and keeping it mosturized plus using anitifrizz products. Mine is just below my shoulders and I ain't gonna stop until its at least halfway down my back. I figured out I don't look good in a bob and had to wait four months for it to grow enough to even be satisfied with it again. Just think about it 'cause it only takes ten minutes to cut (Only a couple of minutes if you buzz it) but about a year to get anykind of length back or longer if you buzz it. Talk with a beautician and let them give you their opinion, a good one can work wonders.

BTW if girls are complimenting you on your hair, you got it made.
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kelly_aus

I had shoulder length hair until early this year, when I realised that it just wasn't me. My hair is now pretty much as it is in my profile pic..
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MaidofOrleans

 ???

Your hair isn't even close to being "long"
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Joanna Dark

Quote from: Kelly the Trans-Rebel on August 07, 2013, 06:51:02 PM
I had shoulder length hair until early this year, when I realised that it just wasn't me. My hair is now pretty much as it is in my profile pic..

I lovelovelove the hair in your profile pic. I think it looks so awesome and want to get my hair like that.
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Riley Skye

Well I had my haircut today and just had it trimmed a bit, going to see how longish, neck length, hair will work out. so far I really like the cut I just got :)
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Michelle G

I love my longer hair!

And one reason I never thought of before is that now I can "hide" behind it when it's longer ;) for many years I've noticed girls do that for one reason or another, now I totally understand!
Just a "California Girl" trying to enjoy each sunny day
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bethany

I love my long hair. It allows me to put it in a tail or bun to cover up a bald spot. I cant afford a hair peice at this time.
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BunnyBee

Hair looks it's worst at the stage between being short and long.  I wouldn't give up on long hair until after you've let it actually get long and see then.  You would have to persevere through the awkward phase, ofc, but you might be glad you did.
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Joanna Dark

If you want to see what you look like with longish hair, you can use a makeover site like Taaz.com. There are others but Taaz is the best, IMO.
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