Is there any other way to get rid of GID, only transition? Right now I can't go to a therapist because I'm out of a job and I don't know when I can work again. I feel that this is just too much to handle right now with my depression and anxiety. Everything just feels unreachable and unrealistic to me. It's just feels like a fantasy so I gave up on for ever doing that and hoping to find other means for coping. I feel completely back into a corner and it's unbearable, it's literally killing me. So I've was just wandering if there's any other means I could try? Also, does gender dysphoria fluctuate? Some days it's seems that I can just stay where I'm at and other days it's just kills me.

FYI, I also don't have any privacy so I really can't do anything that's not considered "gender appropriate".

Quote from: world on August 08, 2013, 10:32:29 AM
Is there any other way to get rid of GID, only transition? Right now I can't go to a therapist because I'm out of a job and I don't know when I can work again. I feel that this is just too much to handle right now with my depression and anxiety. Everything just feels unreachable and unrealistic to me. It's just feels like a fantasy so I gave up on for ever doing that and hoping to find other means for coping. I feel completely back into a corner and it's unbearable, it's literally killing me. So I've was just wandering if there's any other means I could try? Also, does gender dysphoria fluctuate? Some days it's seems that I can just stay where I'm at and other days it's just kills me.

FYI, I also don't have any privacy so I really can't do anything that's not considered "gender appropriate".

My GID used to fluctuate in that sometimes it seemed like I was OK with being a guy and other times just angry, sad and upset that I wasn't a girl. But I really don't have a severe case of GID though and can cope with doing things that help. At least I know and am sure of who I am even if everyone else don't. Now, I don't worry about what's between my legs or other's for that matter. A girl is a girl and a guy is a guy regardless of the genitals they or me were born with. This helped and helps me in overcoming GID but like I said, my level has never been crippling like so many other's is.

What is gender appropriate? There are smooth guys and hairy girls. Some guys have long hair and some girls have short hair. A lot of guys are wearing two earings nowdays and a lot of women don't even have pierced ears. Cispeople do all of these things so "gender appropriate" I guess is how you look at things, demographics, generational perceptions and so on. Even if I wasn't trans I would still practice the art of hair removal. Much cleaner ya' know. Again even if I wasn't trans I would I would still have long hair 'cause I play in a rock band plus I can wear more feminine clothes and actually get away with it without feeling self conscious. So if I was cis I would still look like I do now, I just wouldn't be trans.

No privacy? I assume your parents? They can be stubborn when it comes to appearances. When I was young, mine gave up because I was just as stubborn and set against the way they wanted me to look. You can always make excuses as to why you are doing things like shaving, growing long hair, dressing a certain way and so on. If you want to alter your appearance do it a tiny bit at a time and chances are no one will notice too much.

For me, there were a few things that helped me get by without transition that lessened my dysphoria. The first change I made was altering my style to something more androgynous; I started wearing v-necks, skinny cutoff shorts instead of long baggy shorts, and a few other changes. A bit later, I started shaving parts, and later all of my body hair. I also had a haircut that people told me made me look like a lesbian. It wasn't what I was going for, but I was happy to hear it.

Now I am not far from starting HRT, but those were a few changes I made that helped lessen the dysphoria until I was ready for transition.

It's totally normal to have varying degrees of dysphoria day to day, or in different situations.

Well I do things that I can get away with but they just doesn't seem to help a lot.

Quote from: Jess42 on August 08, 2013, 11:03:18 AM
No privacy? I assume your parents?

Sociopathic older brother actually

Hey World I have to admit when I read your post I had to go back and make sure I didn't post it.
There seems to be similarities, I also am not in a position to go to therapy, I also have varying levels of disporia, I also have no privacy.

I have often thought of suicide but the thing that pulled me through and kept me alive this far has been hope. I have hope that I can have a better life, I have hope that I can be the person I want to be. Hope is what kept me alive when antidepressants were forcing me to commit suicide. 

So remember life is hope.

As for privacy what I did was get a thick bathrobe and wear what ever I want under it when I have to use the bathroom I share.

Quote from: Evey on August 08, 2013, 11:13:57 AM
For me, there were a few things that helped me get by without transition that lessened my dysphoria. The first change I made was altering my style to something more androgynous; I started wearing v-necks, skinny cutoff shorts instead of long baggy shorts, and a few other changes. A bit later, I started shaving parts, and later all of my body hair. I also had a haircut that people told me made me look like a lesbian. It wasn't what I was going for, but I was happy to hear it.

Now I am not far from starting HRT, but those were a few changes I made that helped lessen the dysphoria until I was ready for transition.

It's totally normal to have varying degrees of dysphoria day to day, or in different situations.

I was thinking rocking more androgynous style along the lines I'm not really hyper masculine anyways so I might get away with certain changes.

Quote from: White Rabbit on August 08, 2013, 11:29:46 AM
Hey World I have to admit when I read your post I had to go back and make sure I didn't post it.
There seems to be similarities, I also am not in a position to go to therapy, I also have varying levels of disporia, I also have no privacy.

I have often thought of suicide but the thing that pulled me through and kept me alive this far has been hope. I have hope that I can have a better life, I have hope that I can be the person I want to be. Hope is what kept me alive when antidepressants were forcing me to commit suicide. 

So remember life is hope.

As for privacy what I did was get a thick bathrobe and wear what ever I want under it when I have to use the bathroom I share.

Suicidal thoughts have been bothering me too. Hope dies last. I guess I still exist through sheer force of will. Antidepressants were forcing you to commit suicide?

yeah they were taking a mood disorder and swinging it massively out of control the ups were insane and the lows were really really bad.

Instead of suicide why not not just transition privacy or not. Surely that is the better option between the two. There is never going too be a good time too transition. It will always be something. At least for me. But you can do stuff like laser and low dose HRT that won't change you too much but should lessen dysphoria.