I've known I was MTF for 3 months now but do my current circumstance idk if it the right time to come out.  I'm currently finishing up school at 20 due to my bad choices/depression. I wanna come out to my parents but idk if it's the right time. I live with my parents. My parents are currently upset with me and want me to finish school. Along with my grandpa being sick. So idk if the stress would be too much for my parents to take. Both my parents know something is going on with me. When I was in NYC at 18 I had a problem happen with my parents catching Perfume and leg shaving cream in my bag. My mother cried and my dad was just in shock. Since then both my mom and dad tried to talk me
at separate times on what's going on with me.  January 2012 My mom told me about something Lady Gaga said and how it's not good to hold things in. Then November 2012 my dad something similar about how he loves me no matter what and how i have to be true to myself and that i cant let my life pass me by like this. All this was before I realized I was transgendered or accepted it.  Last year was a very depressing year and the lowest I've ever felt In my life.  Then this year I started wearing wigs to concerts. They were all short wigs so it wasn't so obvious I was trying to be a girl.  I went to a lady gaga concert and my dads was mad i was wearing a short wig then when I got to the stadium after he dropped me off. He called to tell me he was proud of me for being myself. It made me feel good. I've always done off the wall stuff to give hints to my parents. When I was little my dad found a note I wrote to my 1st grade crush who was a boy. He didn't scold me or anything he just asked me what was it. I was nervous and scared i forgot what my response was. Not to mention I would always ask for Catwomen action figures instead of batman.  However back on topic do you think I should come out to my parents now or wait till I'm finish with Hs and accept to college which would be about 3 months from now. I really want start ASAP but at the same time I'm really scared to tell them.

Sounds to me they are pretty accepting people in general after getting over the shock that most people would have.  That doesn't mean it might not be best to wait.  It might be a good idea to ask your parents if you can see a therapist (find one that has specialized in gender issues and ask for them specifically) because you are going through a tough time emotionally.  You most likely won't be able to do anything transition related anyways until you have talked quite a bit with a therapist.  20 is still really young and it may not be necessary to rush into things.

Hi Princess, welcome to Susans. As Casey said it sounds by whhat you said that your parents sound as though they are pretty accepting, and that they also suspect that there is something that is weighing on your mind. Of course its up to you if you tell them of not, but I think the sooner you tell them the better.

Quote from: PrincessPatience on August 13, 2013, 12:31:04 AM
I really want start ASAP

Well it sounds like you should change your username then  You came here for bad jokes, right? Well, my unprofessional opinion is if it seems like they are going to be accepting, opening up to them and accepting their support might be easier on them than worrying that you are trying to struggle through some pretty big things by yourself.  And it definitely sounds like they are worried and want you to let them in.  I'm sure hearing it will not be easy for them even if they suspect it, but if they want to support you like they say they do, it will be best for all three of you in the long run.