So I've been thinking today, is being trans such a horrible struggle? I don't really think so. To me it's an adventure. You see, an adventure doesn't have to always be some amazing cool escapade, there's hard times in adventures, and good times as well. There's always small victories along the path that'll eventually lead to the grand finale of the adventure. At least that's the way I see it.

Big hug! Life IS what we make of it, no question about that. I like your attitude. Hugs, Devlyn

It is a pretty epic adventure, but the leveling system is too subtle.  Also, every epic quest needs a princess, a chest, and some phat loot.*

Note: for some, this adventure may contain a princess, a chest, and fat loot.

For me it was a struggle up to the point of starting my transition. Now it's an adventure, and I'm loving every minute of it.

I agree in spirit. It's exciting in a way, discovering yourself and progressing along the path to femininity or masculinity.

On the other hand, society is cruel. Every adventure has an element of loss and dispair, but it seems uncaring to think of those who don't make it as failed adventurers. It is a struggle to be who you're meant to be in the face of overwhelming adversity.

Quote from: Bethany Dawn on September 04, 2013, 06:04:53 PM
For me it was a struggle up to the point of starting my transition. Now it's an adventure, and I'm loving every minute of it.

Bingo!!1!

+1, struggle until I realized what was happening, adventure ever since!

It's a little of both. Okay a lot of both. 
But so worth it so far.

Quote from: Horizon on September 04, 2013, 06:01:52 PM
It is a pretty epic adventure, but the leveling system is too subtle.  Also, every epic quest needs a princess, a chest, and some phat loot.*

Note: for some, this adventure may contain a princess, a chest, and fat loot.

The epic quest here is to become a princess

Quote from: -Emily- on September 04, 2013, 06:25:21 PM
The epic quest here is to become a princess

I'd say no plumber needed.... but you know it sure would be nice to have someone reroute the plumbing and do a little carpentry on the rest of me as well. 

Quote from: Christine167 on September 04, 2013, 06:28:02 PM
I'd say no plumber needed.... but you know it sure would be nice to have someone reroute the plumbing and do a little carpentry on the rest of me as well. 

You dont wanna be a princess?

Quote from: -Emily- on September 04, 2013, 06:34:16 PM
You dont wanna be a princess?

I'll take lady in waiting if they can do something about this bit of pipe sticking out between my legs. 

Off topic, but I love the new avatar, Christine! Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on September 04, 2013, 06:37:06 PM
Off topic, but I love the new avatar, Christine! Hugs, Devlyn

And now my adventure is feeling "squishy" with a side of blushing. 

Quote from: Bethany Dawn on September 04, 2013, 06:04:53 PM
For me it was a struggle up to the point of starting my transition. Now it's an adventure, and I'm loving every minute of it.

Precicely. Even though I have to "pretend" most of the time, every time I get to be myself I treasure and explore and just have fun.  Besides that I figured there's two ways we can look at this. One, you can be miserable and mope around. Two, you can treasure those precious moments and enjoy the little things through your adventure. I'm slowly figuring out that you're only as miserable as you allow yourself to be. No matter how stressful or tiring things get there's never a legitimate reason to feel miserable over it (other than truly bad occasions like loss in the family etc.).

Quote from: Jasriella on September 04, 2013, 05:53:00 PM
So I've been thinking today, is being trans such a horrible struggle? I don't really think so. To me it's an adventure. You see, an adventure doesn't have to always be some amazing cool escapade, there's hard times in adventures, and good times as well. There's always small victories along the path that'll eventually lead to the grand finale of the adventure. At least that's the way I see it.

Life itself is meant to be a struggle.  The struggle is how the species is kept alive.  In Nature it is cope and adapt, or perish.  Those who can deal with the uncertainties, and overcome adversity have the competitive advantage.

If you are not struggling, you are not growing.  Solzhenitsyn noted that it is the struggle that makes us strong.
The adventure comes from the attitude of those who struggle.  I am reminded of those who left their homes, families, and fortunes to travel to, explore, and settle new lands.  They knew it would not be easy, but they tackled the challenge with a sense of adventure and a quest for improving their lot.

If we move into discovering who we really are, with trepidation, we stand a good chance of losing who we are.  It is something I have to remind my self about constantly.  Good enough is not good enough.

Well sure, being transgender is both and more.  I also agree with Bethany Dawn and Beth Andrea that the adventurous part of being transgender is transition.."..and loving every minute of it."  For me the horrible part was about not understanding and then denying myself for too long. 

Kia Ora J,

Life is what you make it ! "If one changes the way they look at things-the things they look at change !"

It sounds like you have found the formula/key...So go with the flow and enjoy it...



Metta Zenda

See it's what I've come to realize is that the longer you deny yourself....well yourself..... The more it seems to be a struggle. It shouldn't be that way. Yeah nature oops'd and I got stuck with the wrong chromosomes at conception, and even if there wasn't a way to match mind and body, it wouldn't stop me from trying to be me. I finally got to that point a few years ago that I was going to do this and be a girl after I'm out of the military. Unfortunately I didn't come to that conclusion sooner but I will say the experience the military has given me and the skills I have now I can't say I totally regret enlisting. It's just all one big adventure.

Somewhat off topic, my biggest fear is being trapped, stuck in a rut, and not being able to move forward with my life. I get that feeling kinda often and there's times I have cried over the feeling of being totally helpless especially when a week ago it was confirmed by another member that I could get discharged if I'm found out. What's worse is to everyone around me on a daily basis, I can't cry in front of them. I'm supposed to be a tough guy and tough guys don't cry.

Anyway.... Yeah I'm going to have struggles in my adventure, but we do have something that CIS women don't, what most CIS women take for granted. We can truly appreciate and love the little things, something so sime as buying my first bra. When I got home and put it on I was so proud of myself and so giddy I wore it every day for a week and then bought more. It was my first moment of being feminine, all by myself, and the most joy I ever felt besides holding my daughter when she was born.

I'm starting to think that if for some reason, if I had a past life as a female and when I died I wanted to truly experience life as a male, that I don't regret that decision. I can't say if I have the choice ill ever do it again, but this life has been one hell of an adventure so far and I'm starting to appreciate more the little things as I wait for my enlistment to end. I haven't been on my antidepressant medication for a month and I'm certain I won't need it anymore.

Quote from: Kuan Yin on September 04, 2013, 11:57:44 PM
Kia Ora J,

Life is what you make it ! "If one changes the way they look at things-the things they look at change !"

It sounds like you have found the formula/key...So go with the flow and enjoy it...



Metta Zenda

I'm quite unfamiliar with most of everybody here, bu would I be wrong in guessing you follow the teachings of Buddha?

Quote from: Jasriella on September 05, 2013, 12:03:05 AM
See it's what I've come to realize is that the longer you deny yourself....well yourself..... The more it seems to be a struggle. It shouldn't be that way. Yeah nature oops'd and I got stuck with the wrong chromosomes at conception, and even if there wasn't a way to match mind and body, it wouldn't stop me from trying to be me. I finally got to that point a few years ago that I was going to do this and be a girl after I'm out of the military. Unfortunately I didn't come to that conclusion sooner but I will say the experience the military has given me and the skills I have now I can't say I totally regret enlisting. It's just all one big adventure.
I'm supposed to be a tough guy and tough guys don't cry.

Anyway.... Yeah I'm going to have struggles in my adventure, but we do have something that CIS women don't, what most CIS women take for granted. We can truly appreciate and love the little things, something so sime as buying my first bra. When I got home and put it on I was so proud of myself and so giddy I wore it every day for a week and then bought more. It was my first moment of being feminine, all by myself, and the most joy I ever felt besides holding my daughter when she was born.





I'm starting to think that if for some reason, if I had a past life as a female and when I died I wanted to truly experience life as a male, that I don't regret that decision. I can't say if I have the choice ill ever do it again, but this life has been one hell of an adventure so far and I'm starting to appreciate more the little things as I wait for my enlistment to end. I haven't been on my antidepressant medication for a month and I'm certain I won't need it anymore.
I'm quite unfamiliar with most of everybody here, bu would I be wrong in guessing you follow the teachings of Buddha?

Jasriella I appreciate your upbeat perspective and completely identified with your "first bra" experience.  Yes giddy and more.  And yes indeed, there is nothing like being denied to make the "the little things" very special.  I hug myself often just putting on my new clothes.  The military was tough for me too but please do not buy into that tough guys don't cry stuff.  I saw tough guys in Vietnam piss their pants and cry for their moms.  Being human comes with tears included

Every adventure is a struggle. Wouldn't be much fun if Frodo just waltzed on into Mordor and dropped the ring in now would it?