I don't know how much of a struggle it's been for me. In fact it seems really simple and my life is a million times better. The struggle was before. Now it's more like a dream and I hope no one pinches me.

Struggle and pain of an emotional and physical nature. The adventurous part is seeing good changes take place as part of getting through the struggles. 

Quote from: Jasriella on September 05, 2013, 12:03:05 AM

I'm quite unfamiliar with most of everybody here, bu would I be wrong in guessing you follow the teachings of Buddha?

Kia Ora J,

Let's just say I live it, breath it, sleep it...

If one continually 'thinks' life is a struggle( consciously projecting anxious thoughts)-then sure enough it will be a struggle!  "If you fear you shall suffer-you already suffer what you fear !"...

Metta Zenda

I'd be lying if I said I agree. To me, most things are a competition and usually it's not an easy one either. That's why I think of it more as a struggle. To me, it's serious and there are many risks involved as well as a ton of money at stake. I feel I have to win and get what I want out of it. There are certain things that I would have trouble living with. For example, if I got stuck in transition due to running out of money, certain close friends or relatives hated me for it, I could never pass, etc. I would have a really rough time. I'm glad some can think of it as an adventure but I lack that feeling of security to think of it as something like that.

I just can't wait to start mine! I'm really excited thinking about it!

im loving every minute of it but at the same times its been one hell of a struggle.  most financial assistance programs in my area are run by churches and when they notice my gender says M  on my ID I get shown the door.

Struggle = 51 years,
Risk = wife, job, child, siblings, me
Need = 100%

Why, to save what is at risk.

I would not say an adventure but my struggle is changing and I am embracing and liking me for who I am and not is spite of me.

Adventure would be nice, perhaps in the future.

Quote from: Cynthia Michelle on September 07, 2013, 07:03:40 AM
Struggle = 51 years,
Risk = wife, job, child, siblings, me
Need = 100%

Why, to save what is at risk.

I would not say an adventure but my struggle is changing and I am embracing and liking me for who I am and not is spite of me.

Adventure would be nice, perhaps in the future.

That breaks it down well for me too. It's an adventure where the difficult, climactic trial comes at the beginning, not near the end... so yes, it's a struggle that may turn into an adventure... with luck.

And it seems like absolutely nobody understands the "Need = 100%" part. My wife is still saying I chose this path and I could choose to not go down it... um, nope. Neither thing is true.

Struggle. It's like every time I take a step forward, I take two steps back.

To me life in general is an adventure. There are always ups and downs, little struggels. compleat with failures and sucsesses alike. In the transition, its just another path in this grand life adventure that i am on

Just saw this thread, an interesting one.

I was so so terrified. I had nothing to gain, everything to lose.

Once I took the first step the Warrior Princess came out.

Adventure? Total.
Fun? Oh yes.

Difficult? I hesitate saying in knowing how some of us struggle but compared to his life, or his attempt at it, my life could be a Taylor Swift song.

Sing the sad bit but get ready for the big finale.

I have never ever ever been so happy.

Regrets? Get real!

Im finding it a huge struggle at the moment!!!
Mainly because im still in the mindset that i need to keep it all to myself otherwise people will disown me! and the need to come, out and be me is getting more and more!!!!

Im seeing a therapist now though so hopefully she will help me come out and fully accept my trans feelings, and then the struggle can start to turn into an adventure!!!

x

Zoe one of the most succinct bits of advice I have heard is:  Secrets get toxic over time.  I magnified and compounded my fears for decades.  I was wrong, most people could care less about us and are quite busy with their own big deals.  You just might be able to find people who want to hold your hand or slap you on the back in support.....

Quote from: Tessa James on September 08, 2013, 06:41:38 PM
Zoe one of the most succinct bits of advice I have heard is:  Secrets get toxic over time.  I magnified and compounded my fears for decades.  I was wrong, most people could care less about us and are quite busy with their own big deals.  You just might be able to find people who want to hold your hand or slap you on the back in support.....

Thanks Tessa, and i agree. Its starting to get harder and harder to hide my feelings now!! i need to be me, and its getting to the point where im becoming quite reclusive and spending so much time on my own, i feel as though i'm in a bit of a difficult place at the moment!!!

But my therapist said she is going to help with my confidence and help me come to terms with, and accept the fact that i am transexual, and i feel that this is a very important step. And i need to accept myself before i can start the adventure of transitioning!!

Zoe
x

I agree with those that said it is a struggle (in the negative sense) until the journey starts. Then it still is a struggle but at the same time an adventure. So much to explore. I must say transition and the aears after were the most exciting in my life - I learned so much about life, people, the world and did meet so many interestin people. Actually I feel a bit bored now that this is like 10 years in the past and I finished university and have to deal with the lesser exciting adventures of finding a job, funding for research projects, a nice place to live and such. Back then it was parties, queer events, discovering feminism and queer activism and being hit on by boys or girls depending on the kind of party or event. Its really like frigging puberty and last about as long as well and when its over one is a bit split about it being a great time but also one filled with so many utterly embarassing situations - but it was seriously weitd to be 24 and basically in full puberty like a 16 year old. 

Oh and I agree that every adventure of course also has enemies, villains and obstacles in it - this is what transgender life has more of than others, but this makes the adventure more adventurous, right