As I did not find that in the search function - there is a book in existence called "femalia". I basically is a series of very good photographs of vulvas that look very different from each other. I like that book for two reasons - one is for MtFs who did not have sex with a woman before SRS (like me) to see how different vulvas look like and basically what you are getting yourself into - the other is to take a post SRS look into it and gain more confidence that the outcome was good by looking at the diversity depicted there.

I've just ordered it. I probably need to know what a vulva looks like so I can give my surgeon some kind of input. I'd like mine symmetrical and no hangy bits. That's about all I think I know for the moment. Thanks! BTW, any recommendations?

This and similar titles

http://www.amazon.com/Femalia-Joani-EDT-Blank/dp/B00ERKCL1A/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1378854395&sr=1-1&keywords=femalia

http://www.amazon.com/199-Vaginas-Ultimate-Photo-Collection/dp/1449981208/ref=pd_sim_b_2

http://www.amazon.com/Petals-Nick-Karras/dp/097435628X/ref=pd_sim_b_1

I have Vulva 101 and its the same premise, but this one also has 2! post op women thrown into the mix, and they arent even labeled so you have to guess http://vulva101.com/