This may be a stupid question but I was thinking today as I go out more dressed as me, which toilet do I use if I am in town? I feel I could not use a male one as this would be a little dangerous, I think, but then I think that could apply to a female loo too. I am pre-op

hugs and kisses

Nigella

What I did in early transition was go to a gas station and ask for the washroom key and go to whichever one they handed me.

Can't remember if they lock the loos at petrol stations in the UK though, so that might not be helpful. But do try and look for single person bathrooms. That'll take a fair bit of stress off.

Dennis

If you're presenting as female, use the women's room. Based on your avatar pic, I think it'd be risky to use the men's room. Or find a single person room if available.

zythyra

Zythyra and Dennis, thanks,

I thought it would be dangerous if I used the men's room. Not many single loos in UK mostly when you are out they are either separate male or female communal loos.

I suppose I will have to just go for it whenever I need to use a loo. Just didn't know if there were any legal stuff that could get me in trouble.  Did think about asking the doc for a covering letter.

hugs and kisses

Nigella

Hi Nigella,

I would get a Docs or Phsychiatrists letter, It always help to carry one.

It is a public order offence for a man to use female toilets, but pre-op TS (and I did) should have no problems using the Ladies.

You only have a problem if someone actually complains to the police.

Just dont do what one of my friends did ... she stood up to pee and gave herself away.

Buffy

I stopped using the mens room when I started scaring the men out of it.

Buffy, Lisbeth you made me laugh,

I guess I will ask for a covering letter just in case.

Thanks for helping me through my thought's

hugs and kisses

Nigella

If I had to, I would use the female restroom, but I have not used a public restroom in about 6 years.  Hate the places, I think they are filthy (I'm a tad OCD about germs).

I always think that mens or womens as I need the toliet about 60 million times a day. However I have get gone into the mens as I feel to un-confident to go in there and I normally use the womens when are no women in there however I got caught the other week going into the ladies in the cinema and she looked at me very strangely. However I was bursting and didn't perticually care....

You're a lady now, dear.  Use the ladies room.  I haven't seen the inside of a men's room in a very long time.

Bev

Judging by your pickie, I'd say the women's.

Thanks girls,

I thought the ladies should be the right choice, just didn't want to get in some kind of trouble. I will ask for a covering letter though. Just wanted to run my thought's on this past others who have been there and got the tea shirt (ladies top), lol.

Hugs and kisses

Nigella

Quote from: Nigella on July 10, 2007, 01:41:20 PM
Buffy, Lisbeth you made me laugh,

Made you laugh?  You should have heard the noises they made when they saw me!  Can you say "startled?"  And the looks on their faces when I came out!  Shear terror!  LOL!  That's when I decided I had to stop going in there.

Having had a couple of very uncomfortable moments in ladies' rooms recently, and partly inspired by Melissa's post about pushing your comfort zone, I decided to take the plunge and use the mens' today, and so while I was out and about in the course of the day I used three  different ones, and didn't feel any sense that anyone noticed or cared.  I think I'll still prefer unisex or single use ones for awhile, but after today I don't think I'll hesitate to use any one if the need arises and it's the only one available.  I'm glad I got through that mental barrier.  Feels good.

wow Rob, that's awesome.  Did you use a urinal?

You know Going to the women's room is scary the first few times, but after a while it's just no big deal.  LOL or Men's room in the case of Rob.

Relax and enjoy the woman you are.

Beni

Quote from: J.T. on July 11, 2007, 11:28:51 PM
wow Rob, that's awesome.  Did you use a urinal?

No, I used a stall, and will probably continue to do so indefinitely.  Haven't yet mastered any ways of standing up to pee, even well enough to do it at home.  Still working on that.  One small  step at a time.   

safe bet is also the disabled loo. most places hand the key over without comment...

Quote from: Rachael on July 20, 2007, 04:26:02 AM
safe bet is also the disabled loo. most places hand the key over without comment...

Thats what I am trying to do at the moment... well at least until i get my man-go!

Quote from: Rachael on July 20, 2007, 04:26:02 AM
safe bet is also the disabled loo. most places hand the key over without comment...

Last year I set up a meeting to discuss a video project we're doing on transgender people in the church.  We were going to meet at a Bruger's in Minneapolis.  When I got there I found a sign on the restroom door that said, "You must present an ID to receive the restroom key."  As soon as everyone showed up, we moved the meeting.

Posted on: July 20, 2007, 12:20:56 PM

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Quote from: Beni on July 11, 2007, 11:47:42 PM
You know Going to the women's room is scary the first few times, but after a while it's just no big deal.  LOL or Men's room in the case of Rob.

Speaking of scary, back in the days when I was part-time, I would go to church every Sunday as Lisbeth and would stop in a local gas station to get a cup of coffee and fill up if needed.  I started to worry about what would happen when I had to go to the bathroom there.  After all it was my neighborhood, and I didn't pass very well.  So finally one morning when I needed to go, I screwed up my courage and headed for the restrooms.  Heart pounding I walked behind the display racks and got there.  And it was a unisex bathroom.