Ok, so here's the story -- it's been almost a year since I truly came out to myself and my then girlfriend (now wife). Since then I began seeing a very good gender therapist (who I absolutely love and adore), but my wife has been dealing with this on her own as we've been waiting for my therapist to line up some time for some one-on-one assistance for her (she's not interested in participating in a group as a first step and I don't blame her). He expects to make arrangements for my wife shortly. I really feel like I've made lots of progress over the past year just in dealing with being transexual and having open conversations with my wife. My therapist has caught on that I've kind of slammed on the brakes and slid things back a bit and doesn't seem too thrilled, but it's just the place I feel like I need to be in right now. So, I guess here's my question. Isn't it kind of ok to sit on the plateau for a while and just kind of be ok with things as they are and me as I am today and NOT have to make any more decisions about what tomorrow's next steps are, especially in light of the fact that my wife has been dealing with this on her own? I'm having a hard time dealing with balancing out my own needs while trying to be courteous, kind and thoughtful to my loving, caring, supporting and amazing partner. Your thoughts, ideas and opinions would be much appreciated.
Xoxo,
Terri
