Thank you Alexis and Brody for sharing your charged, loving and dramatic life with us.  I have followed you from this computer distance but feel a real warmth for you and concern about your hassles.  Yes we create many of them ourselves? 

We all need forgiveness along the way as we/I will surely FU again.

Quote from: Brody Brown on September 13, 2013, 01:58:46 PM
^-^hi all. Brody here.  thank you for all the support you have given my fiance because her saddness and fustration was due to my lack of being some what of a smart or caring person. i messed up, i admit it.  i feel horrible and wish i could take it all back but i can't.  i have some issues to deal with and its hard yes but its no excuse for what i did, but im human right?  but yes your right, i have a very loving, compassionate and lets not forget forgiving, fiance.  shes taken alot of grief from me over the years and yet still loves me.  damn am i ever luckey.   i am sorry if i upset anyone, my anger and impulsiveness added with beer never makes for a good ending.  but thank you again for supporting her and me and i hope everyone has a better weekend then im going to have. (bruising and cuts from all of this mindless crap) 

Brody, there are no excuses for domestic violence.  This time you ended up in the ER.  Next time you may end up in jail.  You need to get your act together.  I suggest immediate domestic abuse counseling.






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Quote from: Jamie D on September 13, 2013, 02:26:16 PM
Brody, there are no excuses for domestic violence.  This time you ended up in the ER.  Next time you may end up in jail.  You need to get your act together.  I suggest immediate domestic abuse counseling.

you NEED to stop telling me how to live my life. you weren't here and i never said domestic violence was okay and i didn't give  any excuses. so maybe you should get some counseling on how to talk to the mentally ill.

Brody, I'm really glad you are ok!  *hugs*

Hope you're doing OK, Brody. I'm an alcoholic, I've done some silly things, you put them behind you and move on. Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: Brody Brown on September 13, 2013, 05:32:05 PM
you NEED to stop telling me how to live my life. you weren't here and i never said domestic violence was okay and i didn't give  any excuses. so maybe you should get some counseling on how to talk to the mentally ill.

Brody, you did make excuses.  You blamed your actions on "anger, impulsiveness, added with beer."

I am a little surprised that anyone here would applaud spousal abuse, including striking your partner, and trying to kill her by burning your apartment down.

You also posted a "help" emoticon.  Seeking counseling is my helpful advise.  The first steps toward changing your behavior is to admit you have a problem, and then act on that.

You may not like the message, but the alternative is killing yourself and/or your partner - which you almost did.

Quote from: Brody Brown on September 13, 2013, 01:58:46 PM
^-^hi all. Brody here.  thank you for all the support you have given my fiance because her saddness and fustration was due to my lack of being some what of a smart or caring person. i messed up, i admit it.  i feel horrible and wish i could take it all back but i can't.  i have some issues to deal with and its hard yes but its no excuse for what i did, but im human right?  but yes your right, i have a very loving, compassionate and lets not forget forgiving, fiance.  shes taken alot of grief from me over the years and yet still loves me.  damn am i ever luckey.   i am sorry if i upset anyone, my anger and impulsiveness added with beer never makes for a good ending.  but thank you again for supporting her and me and i hope everyone has a better weekend then im going to have. (bruising and cuts from all of this mindless crap) 

Quote from: Brody Brown on September 13, 2013, 05:32:05 PM
you NEED to stop telling me how to live my life. you weren't here and i never said domestic violence was okay and i didn't give  any excuses. so maybe you should get some counseling on how to talk to the mentally ill.

Brody, I know people make mistakes and they move on, and I am really glad your fiancée gives you love and support. But, I don't think what Jamie said was wrong; I do criminal prosecutions with the law firm I work at, every Wednesday we go to court and do file after file of guys (some girls too) who punch their spouse in the face. Most prosecutions for our department, along with the others in the area, are pretty much 50% DV and 50% DUIs. Reading the opening post, I am surprised you aren't facing charges. In my jurisdiction, if the police came for what was described in the OP, there would be an automatic "no contact" order put in place between you and your fiancée, and likely the charge won't be dropped until you did 20 hours of DV counseling if you're lucky. Whether you like it or not, punching your girl is DV, the other acts in the post sound like a domestic disorderly.

That doesn't mean you're a bad person, but it does mean you should find some help. You said you're mentally ill, but that's not an excuse for hitting someone, and I really hope you work these things out so you and your fiancée can continue living together happily.

I hope you don't hate me for saying that, but I do see this stuff on a weekly basis, and I know things can get a lot worse if things aren't taken care of--likewise, I've also seen many of the couples work together to conquer their problems and they move on. Jamie only made the suggestion with your and your fiancée's best interest in mind, and so do I.





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Brody I hope you are going to be OK and things work out for both of you.Please take advice and make sure this doesn't happen again.Godd luck and best wishes to both of you

Good to see you are OK Brody.

You gave half the world a massive scare, never mind just your fiancee!!

One step and one day at a time.

Hugs

Cindy

Quote from: LearnedHand on September 13, 2013, 06:43:30 PM
Brody, I know people make mistakes and they move on, and I am really glad your fiancée gives you love and support. But, I don't think what Jamie said was wrong; I do criminal prosecutions with the law firm I work at, every Wednesday we go to court and do file after file of guys (some girls too) who punch their spouse in the face. Most prosecutions for our department, along with the others in the area, are pretty much 50% DV and 50% DUIs. Reading the opening post, I am surprised you aren't facing charges. In my jurisdiction, if the police came for what was described in the OP, there would be an automatic "no contact" order put in place between you and your fiancée, and likely the charge won't be dropped until you did 20 hours of DV counseling if you're lucky. Whether you like it or not, punching your girl is DV, the other acts in the post sound like a domestic disorderly.

That doesn't mean you're a bad person, but it does mean you should find some help. You said you're mentally ill, but that's not an excuse for hitting someone, and I really hope you work these things out so you and your fiancée can continue living together happily.

I hope you don't hate me for saying that, but I do see this stuff on a weekly basis, and I know things can get a lot worse if things aren't taken care of--likewise, I've also seen many of the couples work together to conquer their problems and they move on. Jamie only made the suggestion with your and your fiancée's best interest in mind, and so do I.

look, i understand what i did was wrong but i am NOT making excuses, yes, i was drunk, yes, i have mental illnesses, and i was angry and thank you because i feel bad enough as is, but me and my fiance have worked thru this and its not like im some hungry ass DV diviant who punches my girl out daily because it feels good.  its was a mistake.  don't you think if it was that seriious that the POLICE who WERE here would of done something, as in a DV charge or whatever you call it?  they call the shots not me or my fiance.  so please stop badgering me about this, im sorry, what else can i say. i messed up. end of story.






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Quote from: Cindy on September 14, 2013, 02:07:40 AM
Good to see you are OK Brody.

You gave half the world a massive scare, never mind just your fiancee!!

One step and one day at a time.

Hugs

Cindy

hey sweets.  thanks for the nice post.  one step at a time is right.  one day, one hour, one minute.  i will conquer these demons with my fiance by my side.  much hugs back to you.

Just get the help that you need. We want to hear about you getting better.

I am, thank you.  Furry logic is all I have to say. the time will come when i am at my best and the world will know Brody!

Quote from: Brody Brown on September 14, 2013, 07:50:48 AM
look, i understand what i did was wrong but i am NOT making excuses, yes, i was drunk, yes, i have mental illnesses, and i was angry and thank you because i feel bad enough as is, but me and my fiance have worked thru this and its not like im some hungry ass DV diviant who punches my girl out daily because it feels good.  its was a mistake.  don't you think if it was that seriious that the POLICE who WERE here would of done something, as in a DV charge or whatever you call it?  they call the shots not me or my fiance.  so please stop badgering me about this, im sorry, what else can i say. i messed up. end of story.

Well, I wish you two the best .






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OK, I've extensively edited this thread.  Let's remember we're on a public area of the Forums and the following rule applies:

11. Foul or obscene language, and/or subjects belongs on the street, Please do not bring it on to my site.

Now form a line behind this girl:

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on September 14, 2013, 11:29:08 AM
OK, I've extensively edited this thread.  Let's remember we're on a public area of the Forums and the following rule applies:

11. Foul or obscene language, and/or subjects belongs on the street, Please do not bring it on to my site.

Now form a line behind this girl:

i apologize for getting "over heated" i've just had a really rough couple of days and i don't appritiate being told what to do by someone who wasn't here.  but yes, i will form a congruent line behind 'soap in the mouth'.  sorry again. 

I know you did. Glad to see you posting. Now come here and give me a hug.  <hiding soap behind back>

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on September 14, 2013, 12:55:45 PM
I know you did. Glad to see you posting. Now come here and give me a hug.  <hiding soap behind back>

Thank you.  you got a smile out of me, now don't drop the soap!!!  HUGZZZ!!!! 

Quote from: Brody Brown on September 14, 2013, 01:07:37 PM
Thank you.  you got a smile out of me, now don't drop the soap!!!  HUGZZZ!!!! 

And you just got a smile out of me! First time someone has turned my soap picture around on me. I declare today's winner to be Bbbbbbbroddddddyyyyy Bbbbbbbbbbbbbrrrrrooowwwwwwwwwnnnnnnn!

*hugs Brody* I like the new avatar!