Does anyone else here get it alot? How do you deal with it and cope?

For the last 4 months, at one of the locations I do home health care out of, both my Co workers at that location since going full time have done nothing but make my life miserable.  I go all day being referred to as Thor, He, Him, It, homo, ->-bleeped-<-got, and freak.  They refuse to assist me in moving patients, they wont help me clean and sanitize the work place. They literally spend their days belittling me.  I have brought this to every level of managment our company has.  I literally had a meeting in person with the Company owner just yesterday.  She said she would get it taken care of, but have little confidence in her word, seeing as my House supervisor, Area Supervisor, Regional Supervisor, and State supervisor  didnt get it to stop/fire the offending parties.    Also all my requests to be removed from that location and work at a diffrent house have gone totally ignored, or told we are to understaffed to transfer me to a new work assignment.     And to further rub salt into my wounds, they called me earlier today and are forcing me to pick up MORE hours at this location that has been nothing but emotional trauma to me.             Any idea's on how to handle this if the Company owner doesnt stop this ->-bleeped-<- from continueing?

I supervised people and it's pretty clear that if there's a complaint someone must investigate.  If the owner does nothing you can give a call to EEOC and get some advice.  Federal law protects you from workplace harassment, and EEOC can check into it if no one else has, plus you're protected from dismissal just for calling to get advice or to file a complaint.

The link below doesn't specifically mention transgender, but federal regulation, and guidelines include gender identity.

I don't know how far you want to take this, but at least you have some phone numbers at EEOC to call if you want clean and clear advice.  I hope it works out and you don't have to file a complaint with the feds.   

http://www.eeoc.gov/laws/types/sexual_harassment.cfm

http://www.eeoc.gov/contact/

I am so sorry Teela I not sure what to tell you, but it sounds like Kathy does.

I swear if it is not one thing it is another people are just cruel... Keep swimming Teela, Susan's will be here for you to vent.

Hope everything works out!

-hugs- <3

Quote from: kathyk on September 19, 2013, 10:31:27 PM
I supervised people and it's pretty clear that if there's a complaint someone must investigate.  If the owner does nothing you can give a call to EEOC and get some advice.  Federal law protects you from workplace harassment, and EEOC can check into it if no one else has, plus you're protected from dismissal just for calling to get advice or to file a complaint.

The link below doesn't specifically mention transgender, but federal regulation, and guidelines include gender identity.

I don't know how far you want to take this, but at least you have some phone numbers at EEOC to call if you want clean and clear advice.  I hope it works out and you don't have to file a complaint with the feds.   

http://www.eeoc.gov/laws/types/sexual_harassment.cfm

http://www.eeoc.gov/contact/

Alrighty, if nothing gots done now that ive talked to our highest level of managment. Then it will be EEOC time,  only time will tell.

don't let too much time pass. making your workplace better is important not only to you, but also possible other employees who might be harassed without you knowing, or future employees at the company. it's also important for the patients, they deserve better than to get subpar treatment just because your colleagues are more interested in harassing you than taking care of them.

excuse the crude word choice, but it sounds like your company has made the mistake of employing bitches rather than women or men at that particular location (no offense to dogs, sorry you lovely creatures). a real man or woman would know what really matters and how to handle employees who get out of line.

Hi Teela,

I'm sorry to hear about your coworkers and even more so the response of management.
It sounds like you would probably, well almost certainly, have grounds to go to the EEOC.
But I would ask if that is really worth it?  Why not move on?  Are there other facilities near you?

I worked as a Nurse's Aide for 3 years after transition.  Going into a new job where no one
knew an "old me" was great.  I never had problems getting help with transfers.  And the other girls
were so happy, wondering how I was so strong.

There is definitely something to be said for making a workplace better for the next person.
But would it be easier on you to take the experience you have and get a fresh start?

Are you hoping to go into nursing/healthcare?  Nursing was such a rewarding job.  I wish I
would have found it when I was younger.  There is a nursing forum Allnurses.com you might
enjoy checking out.

Best Wishes,
Elaina

If nothing was being done I'd start to get pretty pissed and talk back

"you two seem awfully concerned with my sex life, what do you guys do together after work that I should know about?"

"you know I'm technically not a ->-bleeped-<-got but you're still a douche for saying that"

"you talk to me a lot... like what you see? You sure you're not into transfolk?"

And if they get physically violent, call the cops

Just saying this is what I would do... Don't let sniveling cowards walk all over you

I don't really have any advice to offer beyond what has been said, but you seem like a stronger person than I and a lot of others would be to keep going through that.

Hugs,

Akira x

Just a thought...

A lot of businesses, coworkers, supervisors, managers, etc. have been fired or otherwise punished for the kind of discrimination you've been subjected to.  If I were in your shoes I think I would consider starting a collection of links to these stories and start emailing them to the offenders (or the entire company).  Give them something to worry about.

~ Mara ~

Quote from: Marissa on September 20, 2013, 03:00:14 PM
Just a thought...

A lot of businesses, coworkers, supervisors, managers, etc. have been fired or otherwise punished for the kind of discrimination you've been subjected to.  If I were in your shoes I think I would consider starting a collection of links to these stories and start emailing them to the offenders (or the entire company).  Give them something to worry about.

~ Mara ~

That might be seen as harassment, but printing them out and pinning them up would have the same effect.

Teela - document everything.  Names, dates, places, quotes.

Quote from: Jamie D on September 20, 2013, 04:30:06 PM
Teela - document everything.  Names, dates, places, quotes.

For sure, and just to add, due to some other suggestions, don't do anything to them in retaliation, keep your behavior above reproach.  Don't give them anything to complain about concerning you.