I've been waiting that my ex-wife will notice my small/bigger steps..
On monday I was wearing much more make-up than earlier and now my ex-wife reacted to it.

We had a long discussion today about my gender, cross-dressing and all related things. She was a little bit disappointed that I haven't had the courage to tell these things when we still lived together. She was a little bit shocked, but I think I managed to give her some answers. At least she told that it was a relief to her to hear these things.

But basically cross-dressing was ok for her to understand and accept but still she would like that I should keep it private. It was quite difficult to explain why I'm wearing make-up daily and why I want to have more androgyny/feminine appearance.

She was also worried how our 10 year old son or his friends will react. She was afraid if our son will be teased because of me. So she wants that I should be really sure before I start changing my appearance too much. I know that this is a small town and rumors will go around quite easily.

But anyway.. I feel great that I could talk about this issue to my ex-wife.
I might still love her very very much and I don't want to hurt her .

Congratulations on the small steps you are taking to coming"out", Dweia. The fact that you and your ex can talk about this is a plus. I admire the both of you are having each other's well being in mind as well as your son.

All I can say is do what you feel is comfortable to you. It was over a year before I really felt totally comfortable with being a crossdresser. Good luck and keep us posted on your progress.

Gennee

I will try to  post more often, but finally today starts my summer holiday..

So I'll be off-line most probably next 4 weeks 

Quote from: Dweia on July 13, 2007, 03:12:48 PM

today starts my summer holiday..

So I'll be off-line most probably next 4 weeks 

You lucky Bitchyou!  Have a great time!... 

LLL&R

Maebh

Congratulations on coming out. It's always a hard thing to do, but once we make the effort iit becomes so much easier.

Quote from: Dweia on July 11, 2007, 02:58:15 PM

We had a long discussion today about my gender, cross-dressing and all related things. She was a little bit disappointed that I haven't had the courage to tell these things when we still lived together. She was a little bit shocked, but I think I managed to give her some answers. At least she told that it was a relief to her to hear these things.

But basically cross-dressing was ok for her to understand and accept but still she would like that I should keep it private.

My mom feels the same way, that I should keep my cross-dressing private. I really think that it embarasses her, because of the people that she knows. I'm not bothered by it. I'm just being more me when I am a woman. 

Wish you lots of luck with your future cross-dressing.

Gina  [/color]

It is difficult to always know the line between self-expression and causing embarrassment to others.  My wife has no problem with my dressing at home and has even accompanied me to some support group meetings where I was dressed en femme.  But she does not want our children to know--they are all grown and living away from home.  While it would not bother me, I respect my wife's wishes.  The prejudices against crossdressers may be irrational, but because of these prejudices those around us may be hurt needlessly.  If I can avoid them being hurt I will.

I'm back 
Not so good weather in Finland, but at least the temperature raised quite high on my last holiday week. Whole week very sunny and  25-29 Celsius 

Quote from: Louise on August 08, 2007, 10:21:15 AM
The prejudices against crossdressers may be irrational, but because of these prejudices those around us may be hurt needlessly.  If I can avoid them being hurt I will.

So true.. That was the one issue my ex-wife was worried about so that my son won't be hurt.

Well it was quite interesting to noticed that the first thing what I did when coming home was to dress fully. I missed during my holiday only one issue : I couldn't were make-up at all.  Now I'm wearing mostly a little bit mascara and my nails are polished with more unnoticeable colors.

I'm sort of in the same boat as Louise. My preference for femme undies and nighties is okay as long as I keep it to ourselves. I have only fully dressed a few times while I was widowed and went out a few times.  I remarried 3 years go but due to my age (71) I feel a little restrained to fully dress out of respect for my wifes  acceptance of my underdressing. Fortunately I told her about my CD desires before we got married.I can still feel my feminine side while keeping within reasonable bounds. A little respect for our partners tolerance goes a long way towards a better relationship in my view.

Jaimee