Ok I hear people using the expression 'family' and it annoys me. 'Friend' is special, it's earned after all.

Family, let me explain how family happens. Male meets female and after sex frequently results in baby. That is all that family is to a point.

Now, you can like your family especially if they are easy to like naturally. But you can just as easily hate your family, especially if they do what is required to be unlikable.

Respect eh, it's all about respect, and family has to earn it just like the rest. My son respects me, not because I just happen to be part of the team that made him, but because I made the effort to earn his respect. It was not mine just because I made him.

So if you find out in life that you are any portion or combination of portions of what we call LGBTG well guess what, family may or may not wholly or in parts accept you. There is no reason they get a free pass though just because portions of your family will have arrived thanks to the same process that brought you into the family.

I hear of people agonizing over portions of family that are behaving in an entirely unacceptable fashion, and they need to be told, look they will either accept you as you are, and on your terms, or they will be treated precisely the same way any stranger on the street would be treated and without any special consideration.

People that will not accept me as me, are DEAD PEOPLE!! They have no existence, they are not there, they do not exist. It's that simple.
If they speak to me, the words will not be heard. If they message me, the messages will not exist. THEY ARE NOT THERE.

Being 'family' is not some special status that enables them to break rules ignore proper civility and essentially be jerks.
And no, it is not acceptable for a parent to enforce unacceptable behaviour on a minor. I don't want to hear crap about legal prerogative.
My son respects me, because he has seen me eat a plate of crow and apologize to him when my behaviour would have gotten my son in ->-bleeped-<- if it had been him that had done it. Rules are rules people, and they are not conditional. There are codes of conduct for parents too.

If your family is not using the correct manner of address, tell them flat out to cut the crap, and stop being abusive.
If they perceive you as being 'broken' 'wrong', 'ill', or any of a range of terms that suggest they think 'you have a problem that can be fixed', let them know, the problem is with them.
Stop cutting family endless slack for something you would not let a stranger do to you.

I pick my friends and I have expectations of them as well.
I expect my friends to have expectations as well.
I do not place family in some lofty special level superior to friends.
Nope, my mother father brother and sister, they all have my respect, because they earned it. They were required to earn it though.

All the rest of my family via marriage and other levels of connection, they are all the same in this regard. I reserve the right to delete them from my world. I can tell you right now, my fathers mother, I'm glad she's dead. My sister's oldest, her father, I'd enjoy seeing him in the obituaries.

There are simply tooooo many among us, thinking tooooo much of people all because of a blood relationship.
And the term family is also a term used way too casually.

YOU people here, are my friends. I would never call you family, it would be a demotion in my parlance. You've earned better from me.