I am starting to LHR next week, and I know this may belong in the laser section, but it's not really a question about it, per se. My question is once I get laser, and I don't have much hair and my skin is pale with dark hairs so it should zap a lot of them quickly. But after that I imagine my lower face will be much less bulky and more narrow (it's already narrow and round) but it will be smooth too. The only thing that makes me pass as a male is if I show off beard shadow. No beard shadow, no pass as male. Even in business casual male clothes I get gendered female sometimes. So will laser really effect the lower face and make it less bulky and much more smooth rather fast? How do I explain that? My boss is really cool so she prolly won't care plus I work for a women's magazine and talk about fashion all day with her and she knows I have a BF so yeah. I'm just wondering what were other people's experiences after laser. What changed?

You don't. Them asking you to explain puts you on the back foot. You have to learn to turn it around. After all what business is it of theirs and what gives them the right to accuse?

I feel that you are a hard worker Joanna. So in your case use that to your advantage and ask them "don't you have some work to do?" Or "have you finished your project yet because the client is waiting on an update". That shuts them up fast and sets the tone as a woman would for authority which is good for being promoted. I have watched the behavior and have started to mirror it from the woman that I work with. The ones that do the above don't get asked personal questions with negative impact. While the ones who do not often get questioned repeatedly and dragged into projects that they had no intention of being a part of. With practice it doesn't sound "bitchy" and is quite professional.

Joanna

I've not had an issue so far. Had a very heavy shadow all the time and now clear skin on my face.
I love it and don't care what others think.
After each session the shadow is much more obvious and nearly impossible to be clean shaven for about a week.

Only one girl noticed and made a comment that I was cleanly shaved.
I smiled and kept doing my job.

Anyway most people are busy with their own issues so don't notice what is right in front of them anyway.

Sounds like your new job is going great.
Give it time and don't worry.

J

Does it take away bulk in the lower face. Not that i'm very bulky but I feel like laser should make your face more narrow by eliminating all the follicles. My work won't care it's just you can only do so many things before someone has to ask you something. Or not. It's just that I'm going on injections soon and having my dose upped. Im on a lowish-end-of-normal dose regimen and surprised I changed this much. I work with all women so people talk. or Gossip.

Quote from: Joanna Dark on September 20, 2013, 11:47:58 PM
No beard shadow, no pass as male.

Wrong . Actually, nobody gives a damn and I have not been asked any questions about my facial hair. In my opinion, LHR does not reduce the bulk but rather exposes the smoothness of Your facial skin, which can be easily explained by "dropping some extra 15-20 kg in 3 months (!!!)" and looking more healthy now ("You dont believe me, dude? Go for it and try for Yourself" - all the guys I knew have added in weight recently and I am the only one who suddenly dropped the weight significantly - I just met a couple of my acquaintances in model exhibition, while being dressed in andro and such - and I got 0 questions asked about my appearance and new "image"). So, unless we go for that attention and try to make extra fuss about it - nobody will ever care. And let it remain that way .

If I go out with beard shadow dressed male, I get sir'd. If I go out with it covered up, even in male clothes, I get miss'd. I was miss'd in hyper male clothes the other day. In front of a crowded train and nobody whispered or laughed or anything. So apprently everyone thought it.