Quote from: Sheila on July 13, 2007, 01:24:45 PM
I truly believe that she was female, but was not convinced herself. She thought that once the surgery was over with, she would feel 100% female. It doesn't work that way. You have to get through the phase of accepting yourself, by owning who you are. The surgery will do nothing except change the way you look, it won't change the way you feel or how you see yourself. This is why some trans people opt for no surgery.

Self-Acceptance is the most important thing when deciding to transition or not.  Any surgery, regardless of what that surgery is, will not make you a woman.  You have to believe in your heart and soul that you are a woman and want to be female as much as possible before even starting transition, and then take responsibility for the consequences.

This is one reason I am choosing not to get SRS and settle on the much cheaper, less painful Bilateral Orchiectomy.  Perhaps if this person got an Orchi instead of full SRS she would have felt better about herself??

Quote from: LostInTime on July 13, 2007, 02:07:57 PM

One has need of being honest with the shrink/therapist and also to one's self. Without that any journey will be a disaster.

Many think that SRS=cure for all of the bad things in my life. My therapists stated, rather strongly, that this is not the case over and over again and I agree.

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Being transgendered, I had to dig down into the deepest parts of my heart and soul to figure out my identity over several years, and then I weighed all the consequences, both pro and con over 6 months with the help of a counselor before I even began HRT.  If this story is true, the person involved didn't do enough soul searching.

QuoteI just feel like a man with no penis.

As others have stated in this thread, she obviously had some acceptance issues, and if she hadn't figured them out completely in four years of RLE then she shouldn't have had the procedure.

But then each person is responsible for their own lives and they have to face the consequences of their choices...

And we don't know if the story is true...

~Fae

QuoteI just feel like a man with no penis.

A man?

Quote from: Kate on July 13, 2007, 12:21:17 PM
It sounds like everything she did, especially SRS, was done to make herself "feel like a woman." Of course she was disappointed, as it doesn't work that way.

~Kate~

Very well said, Kate.  I also feel that she wasn't a woman to begin with so of course the psychological results are also going to be catastrophic.  A clear example of someone who is not transsexual and goes through SRS for the wrong reasons.  Still, I sympathize with her situation and wish she had had the appropriate guidance when she decided to embark on this major journey.

tink

Quote from: Sheila on July 13, 2007, 01:24:45 PM
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To be hurting that long, sounds kind of fishy to me. I wonder if this is a true story.
Sheila

There are many things about this story that trouble me that also make me wonder if this is not a planted story. I have never met a transsexual that thought getting SRS would make them feel like a woman. They already feel like women. The surgery also sounds suspicious. This sounds like someone who kinda knows how the surgery works, but not really.

Also, four years of RLT and she was still having trouble living as a woman? Going full time for me has been the best thing that has ever happened to me and I am not even on HRT yet. Just the freedom to get to live as the person I believe myself to truly be. I mean, what kind of therapist writes a letter for surgery for someone that has not accepted their new role?

Nothing about this story sounds right to me. Then she says she feels like a man with no penis? If she feels like a man at all, with or without a penis, she should have never had surgery. I don't feel like a man now, nor have I ever. Even if I had botched surgery, I would not feel like a man. This also makes no sense to me.

I am with Sheila on this one. I think this is a planted story to discredit SRS.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Well just because it sounds lousy does not mean it isn't true.  But I hope it's a plant.  I don't want to see anybody go through that.  I wonder why the humiliation lasted so long, or how the surgery could have been that bad, or who this British Butcher is that did a surgery like that.  Or maybe this GUY just didn't understand the process.  The real problem is that he feels like a guy.  He was embarrassed to be seen in women's clothing, and now he still feels like a guy.  Not a very good candidate for the surgery IMHO.

Quote from: Kristi on July 13, 2007, 09:58:02 PM
Well just because it sounds lousy does not mean it isn't true.  But I hope it's a plant.  I don't want to see anybody go through that.  I wonder why the humiliation lasted so long, or how the surgery could have been that bad, or who this British Butcher is that did a surgery like that.  Or maybe this GUY just didn't understand the process.  The real problem is that he feels like a guy.  He was embarrassed to be seen in women's clothing, and now he still feels like a guy.  Not a very good candidate for the surgery IMHO.

I wonder if they were so stupid as to send the patient to a clown with no experience performing SRS?

You really need to do your research carefully when seeking out health care professionals or something is bound to go wrong but having all the things go wrong that this person did is a real one in a million. This letter is so negatively slanted it sounds like anti transsexual propaganda whose only purpose is to scare people away from helping themselves. Also the tripe about surgery can't change what's inside makes it clear that the authors goals is to steer people away from pursuing a transition. Nobody has an SRS to change their personality to the opposite sex they do it to make their personality's gender match their body's gender in order to find the harmony between body and soul. I suspect she may not have been transsexual in the first place by some of the things she says about her post-op experience. For example her feeling like a man after the surgery tells me that she was one before the surgery because like the article said no surgery can change what sex you are inside.

I think the gal had bad surgery, granted, but she should have sued the doctor for screwing up the SRS. Last time I checked you didn;t leave behind part of the penis in surgery.