So there it is.

There are things I will be taking some time to cope with, to realize, to arrange, meetings, and sessions and all the rest.

But in a nutshell, until I get off my under motivated backside, and GET THE DAMNED WIG!! as well as actually stop pretending my waist will magically shrink (I doubt I am going to just become a size 18 simply because of need), and just go and procure a realistic sized skirt or two (unless I find the patterns and make some myself, fortunately I am sufficiently skilled to do such a thing), nothing of merit will be happening in my life worth a damn.

Lesley Roberta, YOU are not trying hard enough.

I am supposedly going to a wedding in May of next year (my sister's older daughter). I want to be wearing the right head of hair, and as I see it, my wife is not the only one that will need to save up for a decent looking dress. Yeah yeah yeah I don't wish to upstage the girl on her special day, and my showing up in a dress, even a plain ordinary thing is sure to say a lot. But my clothes are starting to say 'time to get rid of' and I don't feel like spending rare and precious money on guy clothes when it costs plenty for women's articles.

I'm a woman, and I couldn't care less how much trouble that might be for some to cope with
Hey I didn't come out, just to confuse and confound people, and then not do anything eh.

Lesley is a woman. It means yes, I wear woman's clothing, which is no more peculiar than commenting on your mother for wearing woman's clothing. Of course she does.

You go girl, its  time that you live your life as the women that  you are. it might be shocking at first to them at first but then they will be expecting you to be in one. There is no time to waste.

I at least have a secret weapon. Two local plus sized cis female friends that likely would enjoy shopping with me and be in on all the chuckles with me finding something to buy.

I agree, it's about you, not them, you live your life how you want.

Yep.

Hugs,

Jen

Quote from: Lesley_Roberta on September 22, 2013, 10:45:27 PM
I at least have a secret weapon. Two local plus sized cis female friends that likely would enjoy shopping with me and be in on all the chuckles with me finding something to buy.

I wish I had that. you are quite lucky to have that

So one of my girlfriends says she also has a wig from a lass that had experienced some temporary hair loss (since regained her hair), and I told her about the one I had that our Cindy graciously sent me.

I am thinking of visiting her this week and see what we can manage to accomplish trying them out. I need someone other than just my own eyes and opinion involved.

what type of a wig is it? I need to inquire about some high quality wigs. I brought a size 18 dress today  and it didnt quite fit me with the expectations that it would fit snug. my waist is size 8 in the dress but the shoulders are just too narrow. Skirts will have to do.

Oh if only I had informed answers

I think both are 'synthetic' and likely 'adjustable' as well as middle length styles at most.

Size 8? what are you, a broom handle

Alas, I seem to be something muuuuuch bigger than that.

Quote from: Lesley_Roberta on September 24, 2013, 06:33:52 PM
Size 8? what are you, a broom handle

Alas, I seem to be something muuuuuch bigger than that.

Not always a bad thing, i am so skinny (not by choice) that it kinda hurts.

Don't know what size I am but since I lost over 40 pounds I fit in dress a couple of sizes smaller. I have broad shoulders so I can't get anything that's too snug.

Quote from: gennee on September 24, 2013, 08:25:33 PM
Don't know what size I am but since I lost over 40 pounds I fit in dress a couple of sizes smaller. I have broad shoulders so I can't get anything that's too snug.

that seems to be the big problem with me despite my skinny size. i would almost always have to tailor fit custom made just for me. I am pretty much. I feel like a broom stick.

Quote from: Lesley_Roberta on September 22, 2013, 09:22:54 AM


Lesley Roberta, YOU are not trying hard enough.


Lesley is a woman. It means yes, I wear woman's clothing, which is no more peculiar than commenting on your mother for wearing woman's clothing. Of course she does.

You have given yourself tough terms and maybe that is what you need?  I like to say "take my advice, I'm not using it"  But then some are more routinely serious than others.

So very good to have friends to be out shopping with.  I sure needed my hands held to start.  Now I look back a few months and wonder why I was making such a big fuss about myself.

Of course you need clothes woman.  Have fun shopping for yourself.

What I would give to have my 2 friends and the wife take me to Penningtons and strip me to the skin, throw away the guy clothes and outfit me from the skin out.

Ok I suppose they might not want to reeeeeally do that too literally I am not pin up material here

I do though wish I could go shopping with say 5 thousand bucks, and just buy a full week set of clothing one outfit a day from lingerie to outer articles. A couple of dresses a couple of skirts and some good looking slacks for the other 3 days.

I so want to just pitch my guy clothes. They are getting worn too.

I don't worry about going full time, I simply can't afford enough clothes to do it.

Told the wife, I wanted to max out the credit card, and just tell Mastercard, ok you were the idiots that gave me credit in the first place. But I'd never put the family in financial disorder like that though. Now if it was just me though hehe

Quote from: Lesley_Roberta on September 22, 2013, 09:22:54 AM
So there it is.

There are things I will be taking some time to cope with, to realize, to arrange, meetings, and sessions and all the rest.

But in a nutshell, until I get off my under motivated backside, and GET THE DAMNED WIG!! as well as actually stop pretending my waist will magically shrink (I doubt I am going to just become a size 18 simply because of need), and just go and procure a realistic sized skirt or two (unless I find the patterns and make some myself, fortunately I am sufficiently skilled to do such a thing), nothing of merit will be happening in my life worth a damn.

Lesley Roberta, YOU are not trying hard enough.

I am supposedly going to a wedding in May of next year (my sister's older daughter). I want to be wearing the right head of hair, and as I see it, my wife is not the only one that will need to save up for a decent looking dress. Yeah yeah yeah I don't wish to upstage the girl on her special day, and my showing up in a dress, even a plain ordinary thing is sure to say a lot. But my clothes are starting to say 'time to get rid of' and I don't feel like spending rare and precious money on guy clothes when it costs plenty for women's articles.

I'm a woman, and I couldn't care less how much trouble that might be for some to cope with
Hey I didn't come out, just to confuse and confound people, and then not do anything eh.

Lesley is a woman. It means yes, I wear woman's clothing, which is no more peculiar than commenting on your mother for wearing woman's clothing. Of course she does.

We would all love to go out and instantly fill our wardrobe with girly clothes and stuff that validates us, sadly most of us cannot do that. I have spent the best part of 5 years gradually getting myself to the point recently where I gave my boyfriend ALL my remaining male clothes, it felt DAMN good and he is NEVER gonna run out of socks again

I have got to the point now where I feel like I am cross dressing when I wear male clothes!

My advice, start slowly. My local supermarkets are a great place for more anonymous shopping specially as they open late or are even 24 hour.

On another note how about growing your hair? Is that an option for you? I know many guys will never manage to grow a long luxurious head of hair that a lot of MtF's desire (me included) but if you could it would make you feel so very good, and it can be worn in a male fashion if you need to pass as male at any point. Up until my hair got halfway down my back I could still hide it under a beanie or a baseball cap when I needed to (when visiting my dad until he finally realised what I was going through as I was too much of a coward to tell him)

Alex

p.s. A pair of shoes you REALLY like is worth a lot to make you smile and remind you you are on your way.

No, the hair situation is classic male pattern hair loss at the top centre.

Some call it a comb over, but all I am doing is brushing it from left of center to right side like I have done for 50 years. It is not my fault there is not a lot of it to brush across the top.

Will hormones increase hair growth? Well I can hope I suppose, but, I don't really expect the bald patch to close over. Heck if it could, well that sure will encourage me to lose the male hormones in a hurry eh I want my hair back oh so much more than an ability to ejaculate sperm (which truth be told I don't want at all any more).

Clothing it is so expensive, but, without a female looking head and that means hair, I have almost no interest in putting on female clothing all so I can be a balding older man in a dress. Because there is nothing that is going to make it look otherwise until the hair is conquered. Alas I need to get around to exploring this challenge. Been letting myself get distracted this week though.

But it will happen. I will take the one wig with me, and then go visit my friend and I will sit there at her place and we will check out what I look like with a woman's hair do on my head. I expect we both laugh our asses off initially

Once I am past that barrier though, I expect an explosion of shopping for woman's articles, just cliche things. And all my friends are basically "Lesley, you don't need to spend a fortune for common ordinary woman's clothing". And it's true, I am not always going to a fancy dinner or a wedding or a party.

Damn though, but I have been having this day dream, a variation of a Ranma episode (that's an anime). I am at the wedding, and I am wearing a really nice dress, and actually wearing high heels (even though I don't like them) and dancing rather well (for a short span of duration no doubt) and I get a guy ask me to dance, and he's so over whelmed by me that he steals a kiss from me while dancing (that's the scene from Ranma by the way and they were skating actually). I have been wondering, 'what would I actually do, if I looked really nice, and a guy kissed me out of the blue and without warning?'. I don't like guys. But, I do want to look good enough to tempt one

Yeah I know, gotta walk before I run, so it is a given I need to walk before I can fly.

Sadly I know one thing, the hormones will NOT regrow hair that has already gone, it WILL arrest the loss of any more in most cases though.

As for the Facial Laser treatment, I had a gap of a year between my 3 and 4th session and the hair growth was still dead in certain cycles of my beard growth so it does work, at least for me (pale skin dark hair, makes me ideal apprently)