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Tips for the first time out

Started by Transphoner, September 12, 2013, 03:34:03 PM

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Transphoner

So I'm planning my first time out dressed as a woman Saturday.

I've never left my room dressed as a woman because the people I live with would totally judge me, and I don't want that.  But I feel as if I would be so much more comfortable out as a girl.  Much more confident, and so much more attractive. 

The Plan is to hit up Ross, buy a new girly outfit, then Sephora where I hear they will do my make up and show me how to apply it, maybe a manicure, and hopefully find a unisex Bathroom to change in. and then just walk around and enjoy my outing in my girly state.

Do any of you have any tips for me?  Any thing that I should be cautious of or know before I do this?
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Danielle Emmalee

Confidence is key, its probably close to the number one thing people that don't pass but probably can are lacking.  Don't wonder what people who look at you are thinking, you're probably wrong and if you're not, who cares?  If it doesn't turn out well, don't give up.  I have literally no experience at all but I think most people who do would probably agree.
Discord, I'm howlin' at the moon
And sleepin' in the middle of a summer afternoon
Discord, whatever did we do
To make you take our world away?

Discord, are we your prey alone,
Or are we just a stepping stone for taking back the throne?
Discord, we won't take it anymore
So take your tyranny away!
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Genevieve Swann

When I first started going out "In drag", I would check in to an inexpensive motel. Therefore being discreet. Afterward go out and do my thing. Be cautious where you go. There are people who seemed to be offended by crossdressers.

FrancisAnn

One easy way is to find a girl/woman friend and be her friend, learn from her. Be yourself with her & maybe her other girl friends. Learn to cook, dance, go shopping, let them give you a make over, doing your nails, hair, talking about boys, life, etc...

Just relax & enjoy your life normally, dress & act normally for a girl/woman.

Have fun, enjoy.
mtF, mid 50's, always a girl since childhood, HRT (Spiro, E & Fin.) since 8-13. Hormone levels are t at 12 & estrogen at 186. Face lift & eye lid surgery in 2014. Abdominoplasty/tummy tuck & some facial surgery May, 2015. Life is good for me. Love long nails & handsome men! Hopeful for my GRS & a nice normal depth vagina maybe by late summer. 5' 8", 180 pounds, 14 dress size, size 9.5 shoes. I'm kind of an elegant woman & like everything pink, nice & neet. Love my nails & classic Revlon Red. Moving back to Florida, so excited but so much work moving
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Transphoner

#4
Plans changed a bit but it was still amazing!  Thank you for all of your tips! :)

Today was absolutely Fantastic. Especially once I had people to hang with.

The day started filled with excitement. I picked up a cab to University Village to make it to my Makeover appointment on time. I got there about an hour early, still in man clothes. I had time to change. I went to the starbucks next door and got changed in the mens room, It took a bit. When I left the bathroom there was a man there waiting to go in and I had a mini heart attack. Jitters! I was dressed without make up. But he just walked into the bathroom after I left. Completely ignored the situation.

I sit down for my hour long appointment at the MAC store. The Store was packed and short staffed so my appointment that was supposed to be one hour was actually two and a half. The man who did my makeup was named Joel. He was a complete professional and taught me a lot. And I think you can all see he did a fantastic job. I did read your comments, and while I know your intentions were pure, I wish I could hear you say them, because reading them as flat as they look just looked incredibly harsh. But I hardly cared because I looked fantastic. So I bought everything we used. Let me just say that was so much more than I was expecting to pay.

Dear lord I had to pee after that though. So I went back to Starbucks and went to the ladies room this time, and the great thing, Not a single person batted an eye. I had to wait outside for a bit and one of the workers was waiting to put soap in the machine I didn't say anything but I smiled and gestured. He did his thing. Then I did mine and women came in while I was doing it and they either had no idea or didn't care. Again  fantastic.

I then found a spa/salon and got my eyebrows waxed and a mani pedi. The waxed eyebrows ruined the make up so I Stopped back at the MAC store and had them touch it up so I didn't look like a red racoon. I then headed downtown. I went straight for my friend David's Starbuck's. I ordered a Iced Chi tea and sat in the corner hoping to find people to hang with.

When no one answered my call even with the bribe of boobs, I went off to the movies by myself. I saw The Family, it was OK, the problem I had with it is the plot moves and develops around some incredibly flimsy coincidences and I couldn't tell if the writers were trying too hard, or not enough. Although I did have to leave part way through and use the bathroom. Tucking gives me TB (Tiny Bladder). I took a peak at myself in the ladies room mirror and was a little surprised by what I saw. The Movie had me so in the story that I totally forgot what I had looked like before the film started. The movie finished and I left feeling meh about it.

I knew it was about time for David to get off work so I headed back to his store and waited for him. While I was waiting a short man on a bike was talking to his friend within earshot of me said, "Do you think that's a woman or a man." I shot him a "back off bitch" look and he shut up right quick. I then left with David and his coworkers to grab some drinks. And OMG it was amazing to have people to talk to dressed as a woman. I laid it all out for them, Phone sex, being a Lesbian, EVERYTHING.

The confidence was so strong through Alyssa that she made Second base with another woman, and had telephone sex, without the phones (Just dirty talk, no actual sex you pervs). Elliot never would have been able to do that, especially not with a woman he just met that night. I'm telling all you ladies right now, Alyssa's got game! When the woman freaked out and said I could never tell her boyfriend she let me do that, I said, "Here's what you do, tell him a lesbian groped you. And you'll still be telling the truth. Plus he'll think it's totally hot." She nodded, "You're right."

We walked Emily back to her place and by this time the Alcohol had really hit Tony and I helped David drag him about halfway to his place. But then I had to go. Friends getting that drunk reminded me of what I didn't like about being a designated driver. Dealing with people who are blind drunk.

I left them at the halfway point and made it to the bus stop about 10 minutes before the final bus. I got a catcall which I know most women hate, but it made me smile. Even if it was from a man I wouldn't even let get his speil out about needing money before waving him off. The bus took me to West Seattle, I went to QFC and straight to the bathroom, had to pee again, plus I needed to change. I did not want to risk my housemates seeing me in drag. It was sad to disrobe this persona I so enjoyed being. I nearly cried, but that could be because ripping off fake lashes hurts! Like a bitch, but the idea of becoming a male again, was definitely a factor. I washed off the make up as best I could with just hand soap. The mascara ran like a bitch and I looked like a racoon. So I kept scrubbing until I was at least reasonable. I turned on my ipod and the first song that played was from the Thrilling adventure hour, It's a dark comedic song called "If You Love Something Never Set It Free." It's as twisted as it sounds. And incredibly fitting for the feeling I was feeling, I loved dressing like a woman, and I never want to set it free.









Edited for profanity.
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Transphoner

Sorry about the profanity, I can be a foul mouthed son of a gun when I'm excited.
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cdjeannie

It sounds like you had a great first time out add the new you. Have you been out much since?

I love going out dressed. Most of the people that see me are very polite. I sometimes get a few snickers but that's ok.

Kisses Jeannie
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Transphoner

Donna,

The house I live in is not exactly copasetic to trans people in any form.  And to be honest I'm still trying to figure out if I want to pursue hormones or stick with dressing.  Either way, I look fantastic as a woman.  If I could leave as a woman and come back as a woman without the fear of being judged, I totally would just dress as a woman all the time.  You're very lucky that you don't need much make up.  I have to have a pit crew do mine.

Cdjeannie,

I was out one other time two weeks ago, I dressed for an open mic,  Can I share the youtube link of my open mic?  or is that a no no?  I'm planning on another outing Saturday to a friend's clothing swap, depending on how this Audition I have on Thursday goes and when they need me, if I get the part. 

People here are just as you described very polite, always call people by the gender they are portraying.  There was only one instance where someone openly discussed whether or not I was a man or a woman.  Any other interaction I couldn't tell if they thought I was a woman or if they were just being polite.

-Elliot
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Transphoner

Well here is the link, I guess if it gets taken down I'll know it was because I wasn't allowed to share yet.

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Ginger Maxim

My biggest problem in my life is I don't have a single person who I could trust, rely on and the biggy, support me with all this.
I do have a "friend" who I told and showed her my things and she took provocative pictures of me for a website I was trying to get on.

She has asked me a couple of times to get "dressed up" and go out with her and her boyfriend. But one big problem is I am not prepared. I mean I would have to shave my entire body, get a proper wig and clothes. I have no one to do my makeup, so on and so on.

It would be amazing if I did get it all setup, but my confidence level is way in the negatives when it comes to my hidden secret.

It would be easier if I had solid friends, a support group that would stand by me through thick and thin. But if my friends found out about this, they would no longer be my friends. Which I couldn't care less as they are not close friends any more with me. Long story.

Ginger
Transgender ??? ???
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Jesss

yeep i dont really have any friends that i would call friends >.< just people iv meet more than twice and occasionally get drunk with.
where do i even begin
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