You know you pass when one of the girls you work with asks who your OB/GYN is, Who delivered your son and asks if your hubby works. So yea.. that's been my week. Oh and for bonus points I managed to answer all questions truthfully.

Who is my OB/GYN? I don't have one right now but a specialist I have to see is an OB/GYN.
Who delivered your son? Dr. Rudasol
Does your husband work? No he doesn't (Because I don't have a hubby)

Quote from: sarahann123 on September 29, 2013, 03:11:35 PM
I was entering a 7-11 for coffee when 3 young guys in front of me and stepped back to allow the lady through first. It was very sweet how they all at once stepped away from the door

I do like it when a scruffy young man steps back to let me get on the bus first.  Particularly when it's someone who doesn't look likely to be considerate.  Yes it is often someone who doesn't look likely.

Quote from: Keaira Raine on September 29, 2013, 06:44:21 PM
You know you pass when one of the girls you work with asks who your OB/GYN is, Who delivered your son and asks if your hubby works. So yea.. that's been my week. Oh and for bonus points I managed to answer all questions truthfully.

Who is my OB/GYN? I don't have one right now but a specialist I have to see is an OB/GYN.
Who delivered your son? Dr. Rudasol
Does your husband work? No he doesn't (Because I don't have a hubby)

I could answer the third honestly enough by saying I'm divorced.  I'm not likely to get the first at my age.

The nearest approximation is women wondering how I could possibly have such a good figure after having so many children.  I tend to smile knowingly and not explain.

Quote from: MaryXYX on September 30, 2013, 09:38:51 AM
I could answer the third honestly enough by saying I'm divorced.  I'm not likely to get the first at my age.

The nearest approximation is women wondering how I could possibly have such a good figure after having so many children.  I tend to smile knowingly and not explain.

Good thinking Mary, "Loose lips sink ships!"

This one was a while back. I forget the context of the situation, but this girl was talking to me about political correctness and goes, "But you're a cishet guy, you don't understand".

Made my day 

When you inform your new doctor that you're transgender and they arent sure if you're transitioning from female to male, or male to female. What an ego boost! Never been happier 

Quote from: ttim0324 on October 09, 2013, 04:38:39 PM
When you inform your new doctor that you're transgender and they arent sure if you're transitioning from female to male, or male to female. What an ego boost! Never been happier 

Oh that would be good!  I don't think I could get away with it but I might try sometime.

I was at a popular gay bar on Bourbon Street that does really good drag shows regularly. A lesbian sat down next to me and struck up some conversation. She then asked if I was gay. I told her no, and she replied "Well then why are you here?" in a frustrated manner. At first I thought she had clocked me, but when I sobered up the next morning and realized she was talking to nearly every girl in the bar, I realized she wanted to get to know me better!

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on October 13, 2013, 08:43:25 PM
I was at a popular gay bar on Bourbon Street that does really good drag shows regularly. A lesbian sat down next to me and struck up some conversation. She then asked if I was gay. I told her no, and she replied "Well then why are you here?" in a frustrated manner. At first I thought she had clocked me, but when I sobered up the next morning and realized she was talking to nearly every girl in the bar, I realized she wanted to get to know me better!

She wanted to give you a "treat" that would have shocked you and her even more! 

Quote from: Shantel on October 13, 2013, 08:46:08 PM
She wanted to give you a "treat" that would have shocked you and her even more! 

lol... I get hit on by lesbians regularly, while men just give me the nervous look like they want to say something but are too chicken.

I've said it enough to be true: women have more balls than men do

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on October 13, 2013, 08:52:54 PM
lol... I get hit on by lesbians regularly, while men just give me the nervous look like they want to say something but are too chicken.

I've said it enough to be true: women have more balls than men do

It's all about fear of rejection by a hot looking chick! When I was a high school kid there was this most beautiful girl.....Years later she and I was talking and I confessed about my fears of even talking to her in high school, she said that it was a shame that I hadn't because she would have welcomed it as all she had to go out with was the same jock who had always considered her nothing more than his personal mattress. You're right, men are awfully backwards around attractive women.

When you swing dance with and end up talking intimately to a guy for an hour before telling him you're trans, then he offers you the slow smile of disbelief and eventually a long hug along with his number.

I would have never thought my dance style passes being that I am so used to feeling uncomfortable on the dance floor!! Twas such a good night

Hooray!!! for Jennygirl.

Quote from: Jennygirl on October 20, 2013, 07:10:30 AM
When you swing dance with and end up talking intimately to a guy for an hour before telling him you're trans, then he offers you the slow smile of disbelief and eventually a long hug along with his number.

I would have never thought my dance style passes being that I am so used to feeling uncomfortable on the dance floor!! Twas such a good night

Sounds like Jennygirl has truly arrived!

My first "male fail" happened a few weeks ago.

My spouse and I went to lunch at this tiny Italian place. I was wearing a compression shirt that is beginning to fail at the task assigned to it, a very loose t-shirt, a pair of women's jeans, my favorite feminine black cap, and of course earrings that aren't too loudly female. I've taken to shaving with a new razor lately, a three bladed razor instead of the old dual and it really has been giving me a nice close shave so the beard is less visible plus I think the higher estrogen dosage my endo prescribed last month is having a small effect on the facial hair too. (E3000 appointment in 2 more months!)

Anyway, there we are in the Italian restaurant. I admit it was a wee bit dark and after the waiter takes my spouse's order, I get "And you, ma'am?" I place my order and I've been working on using my voice with male resonance minimized, which raises the pitch a bit, though not sufficiently for my taste, due to that darned paralyzed vocal cord, and he doesn't bat an eye. He walks off and I grin. My spouse looks at me funny, and I say, "I think I just mis-heard the waiter." She says, "No you didn't. He said ma'am when talking to you." He comes back, brings our iced teas, and says, "Your orders will be out shortly, ladies."


Then, less than a week later, we're at another place for lunch (a Chili's), almost the same androgynous clothing, and we get "What can I get for you ladies today?"

Now as I've said before, raising pitch is very difficult for me due to a paralyzed vocal cord, so my focus has been on eliminating male resonance. I've measured pitch and it just doesn't want to go much beyond about 165 Hz right now with that specific implant in the bad cord. But two days ago I answer the phone and someone asks for me by my male name. I say, "What can I do for you?" And I get a "Well, I need to talk to him, ma'am."


And my final story isn't about passing, but about acceptance.

A couple who I know and am dear friends with have a 5 year old son who has witnessed me working my way through this. A few weeks back, his mother mentioned that we were going to all go to dinner together. That produced the following conversation (I'm paraphrasing from memory) with her boy.

Her son: "I remember Liz! Sometimes Liz is <MaleName> and sometimes <MaleName> is Liz!"

My friend: "Does this bother you?"

Her son looks at her totally confused like should it? He then says: "No! Liz is Liz! I like Liz!"

We had a great dinner and the little one enjoyed getting and keeping my attention.

So cool Liz! The first time my spouse and I were out to dinner and we both got ma'am-ed and you ladies my spouse pointed at me and snickered as if she had just witnessed a real riotous faux pas!

The first time I passed in any way was maybe 6 months before I'd even started considering transitioning and I was in line at the customer service desk at the local supermarket. When one desk became available the girl behind the counter turned to the guy standing closest to her desk, and he pointed at me and said "I think this lady was ahead of me".

Now when I'm going through RLE I was on my way out of the hospital after a voice therapy session one day when a guy handing out flyers followed me for a bit, repeating "Lady! Hey, Lady! Excuse me! M'am!" Nice and annoying at the same time

WHen guys come up and start dancing with you, and asking if you want a drink.......... That is a sign of passing, yes?? Or when im standing by the bathroom, and ladies begin to line up behind me when the bathroom is empty. Also, when I walk in the men's bathroom out of habit and the guard in he bathroom goes whoa, wrong one. Or guys come asking where I am from, like one asking if Im Scandinavian because I am tall for a woman. This was last night........

Would those be some???

Quote from: Ксениа on November 01, 2013, 07:46:20 PM
WHen guys come up and start dancing with you, and asking if you want a drink.......... That is a sign of passing, yes?? Or when im standing by the bathroom, and ladies begin to line up behind me when the bathroom is empty. Also, when I walk in the men's bathroom out of habit and the guard in he bathroom goes whoa, wrong one. Or guys come asking where I am from, like one asking if Im Scandinavian because I am tall for a woman. This was last night........

Would those be some???

Absolutely, and without a doubt!

Well I think I must have really passed this time. Last weekend I went to an all gay women's club in Melbourne for the first time. Alone as my straight girlfriend cried off at the last moment. Well I summed up courage and went arriving 2 hours after it opened

I was probably a bit over dressed as most women were either dressed very boyish or manly, with only four women in feminine dresses (me included). But I am a lipstrick femme, so my makeup and nails/toenails were all in matching pink and I had on one of my prettiest dresses and  with matching shoes and handbag  and felt a million dollars.

Anyway a really friendly soft butch women approached me  and  she asked me to join a group of women at a table. As the evening wore  two of them wanted to dance with me and then one bought me drinks and then kissed me pretty passionately telling me that I was very pretty and that I looked gorgeous. The club had a drag act and a great DJ.

It was a great atmosphere and there was some great women there.

Well I went onto have a great night...getting home in the early hours.............

my sexuality was never questioned, Of course I have very small hands and feet, no Adams apple and my make up was flawless (mind you I did have a full leg and bikini wax, a full facial and eyelash and eyebrow tint that afternoon) so with my skin really glistening and of course incredibly soft now from nearly 12 months on HRT, I seem to pass completely.

Judith