I'm sure there are a couple of ppl here w/ an SO in their life, despite being trans and all. How does it happen? You see, I am MtF, and want to be w/ a guy eventually, but I can't see that happening, since the glbt community is quite small here and not the best place to be....it's really hard sometimes, plus I think I'm kinda shallow....even tho I'm trans and I need to take all I can get...

Phoenyx

The biggest thing is honesty. I am happily married to a wonderful lady and I am m2f IS. Since realizing my ISism I never hid it from her. The other thing that makes it work for us is I make her a part of everything I do or feel and try to watch her comfort zones too. For example, if she wants to go somewhere, say a movie, as 'husband and wife', I dress coservatively and wear transparent makeup rather than skirt or dress and regular make up. If we are around her family I do the same thing so she doesn't hear flack. The one thing I recently learned to do which helps a lot more than you may think is avoid labels. Yes, I am women as is she, but I just call us a happily married couple, not lesbians. The label lesbian would bother her and I know that. Labels is something society gives to us but we don't need to use them. It's the same way as society labels me an IS, but I just say I am woman. Labels are blah!! As for finding someone to love, well, love finds you, not the other way around. You may think the community is small, but you will be surprised how many are really there just afraid to admit to it bacause of society. Good luck,
         Kim   

What is SO? an American term no doubt but what does it mean?

SO= significant other (another dang label) 

I renamed the topic to clear things up.

Kim, I have to agree with you. I do not like labels either. I'm MtoF, post op (3yrs) and still married to my wife. We have been married for 38 years. I'm not a lesbian nor is she. We are two people who are a couple. I think calling someone by some label is derogatory. I understand that some labels are needed, but most are just trying to catorgorize you into some little box that I'm not in. I don't like the term significant other either. I have lots of people that I know that are very significant to me, but I have only one partner in life.
Sheila