I post wherever I find it appropriate to post. I have that feeling I don't really fit into any specific category, androgyne the most but it's not the most active part of the forums so I appreciate reading around. Suddenly I find something I can contribute on regardless of what's between my legs and my ears. And that's what matters to me.
Another thing that matters, is that you can learn to enjoy presenting the way you want to present and allow yourself to feel how you want to feel. And only you can answer that, although others can come with ideas. Terminology is fancy as you can come up with something solid, something to categorize with (and many people appreciate the simplicity of at least a somewhat appropriate definition of themselves), but I really really hope it's okay to not "have" to fit into a certain category.. otherwise I'm screwed. :p