So I ended up coming out to my cousin, and the reaction was kind of less than stellar. Basically she said "It cuts your lifespan out
it's VERY expensive..
I just don't want anything to happen to you.
You're the only thing I have to a blood brother..."
and she went on etc, she told me she dated someone who was trans and found them to be frustrating.
I tried explain that HRT doesnt change how I think or how my mind works. Well maybe less depression etc but I dont know.
its like she's trying to say hrt makes people unstable.
Its just frustrating because we are very close, and the closest thing to a sister to me. I feel like I might loose her. D:
This makes me really dread coming out to the rest of my family.

Kaori, Sounds like both of you care about each other. How often is it that a family member is or has dated a trans person, if the person was in the initial stages of transition, it would be understandable your cousin would be frustrated. Perhaps it may take nurturing her that transition isn't the same for everyone. At least she is trans knowledgeable from her experience, so open to this & she will always have the same soul that is you. With a bit of time she may adjust, I don't see any negatives here. She could be your allie when you come out to family. We don't hurt anyone. Hopefully family love will win on your coming out to family. Don't give up.
Good luck.
Jamei

Maybe try to spend more time with you cousin. Ask her for help with things & let her know that you love her & always want her in your life. Maybe just maybe you 2 can become closer not father away.

Buy her a little present, something nice that a woman would like to receive.

Maybe cook dinner for her one night, nothing fancy, just share a meal together.

Good luck, try & keep your family together.

FrancisAnn I would love to see my cousin and spent more time with her. However we live 4 hours away from each other so This just complicates things even more.  Jamiep, Thanks I hope it does too, However besides my cousin, my family is pretty conservative.  LAst time we talked about trans people my dad said it just "weirds him out"    so I dont know really how Im going to explain all this to him yet.

I like all that FrancisAnn said. It is too bad that you and your cousin are so far apart mileage wise. Do you have access to a car or your own or her that you could get together occasionally?

A lot of people here have kept a log of their journey. I did too from my earliest memory forward. After I was out to my sister, I emailed it and updated her as I progressed. I gave a copy to a very longtime dear male friend, a very understanding & supportive buddy. What you write up could be used as a coming out letter if you think that could be an option to break the ice so to speak. My wife isn't sure that she can tell her Brother out of fear of an unknown reaction. I may talk to her this weekend about printing a copy of my story that she could use in the process. Another tip from people here & my wife thought about is when in person talk out a feeler as to how they feel about or what do they think of gay or transgender people. It may elicit a sense of their opinion or stand. Go from there. All in it's own time. I think your gut reaction will tell you when.

All the best.

Jamie