Hi, JayCee, and welcome!
I can't answer your questions, but if I may throw in my two cents on your situation, (and this is just my opinion based on what you have shared) I wouldn't let being trans stop you from being a part of your daughters life. I understand your concerns, but there are lots of trans people who have families and are raising children. In my opinion, the thing that confuses children the most is the misleading concept the binary gender system sets in the first place. But western culture is becoming more open to the reality of the gender spectrum all the time, and much of that is because people are being more exposed to it and more educated on the subject. I would have reason to believe that it would, in fact, be beneficial for your daughter to have you in her life. You are her parent, for one, and growing up with a trans parent would probably make her into a more understanding and open-minded adult than she might be without. Also, consider this, she might grow up and be a perfectly wonderful accepting person and then be angry with you for not being in her life because you thought she wouldn't accept you.
I say this because I have a 3 year old niece, who I am partially raising, and I have had to put a lot of consideration into how my transitioning might effect her and my relationship with her. Ultimately, I'm probably going to do it someday, and I'm always going to be a part of her life (hopefully
). So I guess I'm just gonna have to roll the dice and let the chips fall where they may.
Sorry, I feel like I might be getting a little up in your business.
Obviously, I don't know your situation fully, so I can't tell you what the best decision is to make, that's up to you. But I wanted to share how I feel about it in general. Good luck with everything and congrats on breaking down those pesky walls!
