So just the other day I finally came out to a couple of close friends. Of course I was prepared for the worse. I was shocked by what they said.

"It's about time you were honest with us, we've known for a while."

What?

Apparently I just act like a woman in a man's body. Lol.

So I was wondering has this happened to anyone else? And what was your experience?

Quote from: Phyliciaraine on October 23, 2013, 11:41:02 AM

So I was wondering has this happened to anyone else? And what was your experience?

I had been growing my finger nails and hair long and had pierced my ears. A bunch of people were "it's about time", others were "we thought something was up with you", but there were a shockingly large number who were totally shocked.

Quote from: Phyliciaraine on October 23, 2013, 11:41:02 AM
So just the other day I finally came out to a couple of close friends. Of course I was prepared for the worse. I was shocked by what they said.

"It's about time you were honest with us, we've known for a while."

What?

Apparently I just act like a woman in a man's body. Lol.

So I was wondering has this happened to anyone else? And what was your experience?

Yep, happened to me.. I got reactions like, 'What took you so long?' and 'Tell us something we don't know.' and my personal favourite, 'Derrrr!'

Seems I was far worse at being a guy than I ever thought I was..

Lol all my closest friends said to me "I'm not surprised, you would obviously be much happier as a girl", none of them were shocked or surprised in the slightest, even when I came out to my wife she was like "no ->-bleeped-<-, it's so obvious, the way you act, talk, feel, do anything... You ARE a girl and everyone can see it"

I almost didn't know if I should feel complimented for being seen for who I am or worried that my deception skills were not as good as I thought lol

I even had a friend tell me "the moment I met you, i saw a woman, I felt half tempted to take you dress shopping." It made me laugh

All my male friends that I told were undoubtedly surprised because I never acted like myself around them, I was always the overbearing, obnoxious, loud, crass, angry tough guy male around them so I don't blame them. Either I'm good at pretending to be male or their just not very attentive.

The friends I got to know in the 2 years before coming out (mostly the GFs of male friends) were not surprised at all really. I guess we just understood each other too well when the whole group was going out and they did not see me at all like a threat to their relationship. The guys quite a bit more, but even for them it was not much of an issue that I was hanging out with their GFs at parties a lot giggling about whatever . My mom was expecting me to be gay, transsexuality was not part of her image of how the world is. My dad was devastated but he never noticed much anyways.

It happened to me a lot,a friend I sold a car to said it was previously owned by a lady(this was 8 years before I came out!)

I have yet to experience any 'surprise'. There are a few persons that seem to have wandered off, and I don't really know why.

And I think I would be wrong thinking it was any of this.

I have been only disappointed by the inlaws to date, and I am mostly disgusted, as I have always tried to acknowledge the overly pseudo Christian like nature of the one brother in law. I say pseudo Christian, because as far as I am concerned, he knows as much about being one as any Muslim terrorist.

It takes more than a lot of blathering about Jesus and how great he is and how totally unworthy a person is and how totally grateful we should be to make a person a real Christian. And today, all I am seeing in him, is a lame excuse of a human. And someone that would so casually discard me after my never doing anything to deserve it.

Otherwise, no, I have never really been given any sign of having shocked any one. Maybe I've always just seemed odd to the point it didn't shock them.

When my partner told our closest friends about his transition and how he felt, the response from his best friend was "I've thought there was something like this going on for a long time but I didn't know how to approach you about it" and they've known each other for about 25 years Noone seems to be particularly surprised about any of this at all. It was the same when he told me. I just knew

I took the dive into telling my friends and family I was a lesbian almost a decade ago.
I recently came out to them as transgendered. The response from my parents?

"Yeah... we've been talking about this since you were three."


But admittedly, unlike some of the rest of you, I never really made an effort to fit in with my gender. The height of my attempts included wearing boyfriend fit girl jeans and engaging in a scattered handful of hour long to two day long 'relationships' with dudes to appease my mother (all the while managing to never even kiss one of them--score).

I think that most people can see through the papery defenses we all construct. It's the struggling to fit in that makes us so obvious because people that feel natural in their bodies don't even give being what they are a second thought.
Being the gender you are should be as easy as breathing air; I, personally, can't wait for the day when that's the case with me.

I came out to my wife about a week ago and we have had a couple  talks since then. The last time we talked she said that she knew I was different than most guys and just thought I had more a feminine side than she had. Umm  guess i didn't hide as much as I thought.