So I've just got back from my first ever date. I met the guy online a while back and we spent a lot of time chatting, texting and talking on the phone so a face to face meet was the obvious next step. He knows I'm trans, he knows my whole situation, I've been very honest right from the start and he has never pushed me to move at any pace than what I'm comfortable with. I've only been out in public once previously dressed, so my second ever time was to be on a date.. I don't do things by half it seems lol


Anyway, we met in a Starbucks for a coffee and a general chat. I didn't dress too over the top, black cardigan and white patterned leggings with pink faux leather fur topped boots and day to day sort if make up. Casual, understated but I was happy with how I looked. My wife took me and dropped me iff, telling me how gorgeous I looked as I got out of the car. I walked in nervous, not because I was a trans girl, but simply because I was meetings someone new for the first time, the same way a cis girl would. He bought me a latte and we sat down, after a few minutes of nerves on both sides we relaxed and just had the best chat, he's so sweet, listens, just makes me feel really good about myself and not at all self conscious... He said he was proud to be sat with such a beautiful women and didn't give a ->-bleeped-<- what others thought.. It was really fab! He only had an hour for lunch but we chatted for 30 more minutes without realising, making him late to get back to work.. We hugged before I left and I had the biggest smile on my face as I walked back to the car, my wife commented on it as soon as I got in... She was asking me all kinds of questions including 'would you do him?' Hehehe now if that's not proper girly chat I dunno what is!

Days like today just really go to show me how much better I fit into the female role than I ever did as a man.... I will never be truest happy until I at least begin to transition... If feel like this, and can achieve so much so soon, I can only imagine what HRT and other things will do for me.. For now I'm just really happy I get to be the real me, if only for a little while... For now!


Saz xxxx

Congrats! It sounds like you had a wonderful time.
I'm impressed with your wife - she seems extremely supportive!

Yes, indeed, I was about to comment that You have very supportive and understanding spouse . And getting back to the point - we need more details
So...  "would You do him?"

Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on October 25, 2013, 10:45:40 AM
Yes, indeed, I was about to comment that You have very supportive and understanding spouse . And getting back to the point - we need more details
So...  "would You do him?"

Yes!  Do tell! 

But seriously, I'm ecstatic that you have such a supportive and loving wife.  It's a rare person indeed that would actively encourage her spouse to date!

Sazzy,
     How exciting for you, nice fellow and what a sweetheart for a spouse, that kind of supportiveness is almost unheard of!

So... what'd you tell your wife?

Hehe you girls are bad! I love it

I told my wife, that yes, I so would do him lmao..

Thanks for the comments, I showed my wife your replies and told her how lucky I feel and how much I appreciate her support.. She smiled as she read what you had all said, so I'd like to really say a huge thank you to you all!

Quote from: sazzy on October 25, 2013, 06:00:27 PM
Hehe you girls are bad! I love it

I told my wife, that yes, I so would do him lmao..

Thanks for the comments, I showed my wife your replies and told her how lucky I feel and how much I appreciate her support.. She smiled as she read what you had all said, so I'd like to really say a huge thank you to you all!

I think we all vicariously enjoyed being on your date with you and imagining what was coming next!   

Quote from: sazzy on October 25, 2013, 06:00:27 PM
I told my wife, that yes, I so would do him lmao..

Unless you're both swingers ... bad move.

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on October 25, 2013, 07:53:32 PM


Unless you're both swingers ... bad move.

I wouldn't do necessarily say that. While my wife would probably never encourage me to date, we've talked about sex partners, she's not lesbian and knows I'm bi. So we've discussed our options and she wants to make it work.  You might consider it "swinging" but it's about making a loving relationship work.

That is so awesome dear. I am so very happy for you. Congrats....
I would love to be able to even consider my first date ever....

But now your on your way.

Would love to see a pic of your outfit. I just love leggings....

Quote from: Nicole_nikki_e on October 26, 2013, 02:41:03 AMYou might consider it "swinging" but it's about making a loving relationship work.

"I don't mind if you want to sleep with somebody else. As long as you love me." That's not being a swinger? Maybe I'm just the jealous type but there's no way I could handle my husband straight up telling me he would sleep with someone ... unless there was a "but I married you" at the end of it.

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on October 26, 2013, 07:14:41 AM
"I don't mind if you want to sleep with somebody else. As long as you love me." That's not being a swinger? Maybe I'm just the jealous type but there's no way I could handle my husband straight up telling me he would sleep with someone ... unless there was a "but I married you" at the end of it.

It's more complicated when you're married, become a woman in body, and your wife isn't a lesbian... I think that's considered an "open relationship." Swinging is when couples change partners with other couples (and/or a jazz dance craze).

Quote from: kabit on October 26, 2013, 08:48:12 AM
It's more complicated when you're married, become a woman in body, and your wife isn't a lesbian... I think that's considered an "open relationship." Swinging is when couples change partners with other couples (and/or a jazz dance craze).

Uh - Yeah I tried that back in 2005, nearly was divorced because of it, not a good plan for me. But we need to recognize Sazzy's fun  new experience and congratulate her for having the nerve to meet someone in a safe place and enjoy being appreciated as a woman and refrain from the urge to dump on her picnic with our own sense of morality (Alaina). It's unusual that a wife would be so supportive, it's a sure thing that we couldn't be so lucky, but we don't know what their personal relationship is all about and it's probably none of our business and rude for us to comment on it.

Quote from: Shantel on October 26, 2013, 09:10:04 AM
Uh - Yeah I tried that back in 2005, nearly was divorced because of it, not a good plan for me.

Never heard of someone so against dancing! (Ohh... you meant the other . . . )

Quote from: Shantel on October 26, 2013, 09:10:04 AM
the urge to dump on her picnic with our own sense of morality (Alaina).

Uh... yeah. That's what I was doing. Sure.

Ever think just maybe I was giving her some insight as to what her wife may REALLY be thinking? No.. No way. It's about what I think is moral.

Watch out for the holy crusade from the transsexual with the dangerously short skirted dress on the internet. She may tell you how to behave!

I'll play along with your game though. OP: What a wonderful thing that your wife wonders if you'll sleep with a guy. There's nothing wrong that can come of that and I bet she thinks it's so adorable that you'd like to sleep with somebody else.

Alaina, get thee to a nunnery! 

This place is getting hot...

Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on October 26, 2013, 10:33:09 AM
This place is getting hot...

Alaina and I are buds, she's a big little girl, she can take the heat!

Quote from: Shantel on October 26, 2013, 10:35:36 AM
Alaina and I are buds, she's a big little girl, she can take the heat!

But I am not sure if others here are just as thick-skinned and flameproof as the two of You . If the hell will break loose - the innocent civilian population (i.e. women) might suffer -  as usually.