I have attempted to come out to my parents and I wrote them a letter and everything. They don't believe that I'm a girl inside. Does anybody have tips for helping me express and feel my femininity?

Well... Hym... When I was your age I grew my hair out and when my parents weren't home I would try to style it like a girl would. However since you know that this what you want then perhaps just asking your stylist to help you come up with some better options for being a guy when you just have be one and girl when you can be one would be good.

Outside if that I would focus on the things that you can fix cheaply for now like practicing your voice and make up.

Adding to Christine's great list when you go out watch girls and see how they walk, sit, move and even stand. You can practice these things in your room in private. Another thing, eat right and stay hydrated. Take care of your body and do some cardio. If you can, buy magazines to stay on top of fashion, makeup and just being a girl. There are lots of things you can do now, just let your imagination go. Take care baby! Here is a BIG HUG to start you off right. 

Hello, Little One.

I have some tips for you...I was 18 when I had surgery and that's nearly 40 years ago.
Be yourself.  Do the things you dream of.  If you want to look like your profile picture, then practice. 

Look up support services near you on the internet.  Go and visit a Dr who will support you.  Your parents don't own you, you do. 

You will only have this life, and as you get older it will go faster & faster, so make good choices for you, now, and work at them.

Because of your age, you have the choice not to think of yourself as transgender...but as a girl, and a woman.

How you "think" about yourself is very important, just as knowing you are really a girl is.

Practice being you, I suspect you will become like I became...natural!

But remember, try and make good choices, because choices can sometimes be wrong, and you have a wonderful chance to make good choices for you.

You've taken the first step...the world is your oyster!

Hugs and contact me if you need to.

Hope XO

Quote from: kaylagirl0806 on October 28, 2013, 11:05:51 PM
I have attempted to come out to my parents and I wrote them a letter and everything. They don't believe that I'm a girl inside. Does anybody have tips for helping me express and feel my femininity?

Don't try to make them believe, they already feel they know you. I had to go through the same thing with a few people. They only will remember you as they knew you until they get use to seeing your feminine side. Just be yourself relax and let it flow out without fear. If you are a girl inside, it will come natural. here is a tip, go somewhere you can be alone. and start talking like you talking to someone about something. lets say a guy is hitting on you. think about what the guy is saying to you and respond to it, it should come out naturally because there is no one there to judge you. Keep finding time to do this and you will be able to express yourself and it will look natural and not forced. Good luck

Trust your instincts, Kayla ... people will tell you that you're just imagining it, or it's just a phase, or a fantasy, or not real. They'll tell you that you'll grow out of it, or you can make yourself into a 'real man', or that you're an abomination against God, or a freak, or a pervert ...

... and you may - as many of us have done - think that all these people, some of whom will claim to be experts, must be right. So you may be tempted to try to put your female nature to one side, or deny it, or will it away, or just go with what everyone is telling you.

But don't do that.

Listen to your heart. Feel what you know to be true about yourself. And if what you feel is that you are female, then believe that. Because it won't go away and it can't be "cured". It's who you are.

Be that girl ... and grow into the lovely woman you deserve to be.

Quote from: kaylagirl0806 on October 28, 2013, 11:05:51 PM
I have attempted to come out to my parents and I wrote them a letter and everything. They don't believe that I'm a girl inside. Does anybody have tips for helping me express and feel my femininity?

Is there a counselor or someone at your school you can talk to? An adult friend who might help explain transgender to them?

Does your school have a gay/straight alliance? Is there a PFLAG chapter near you? Any other LGBT support organizations? It might help to get in contact with them and find some allies there.

If none of these things works, try assembling some literature for your parents. Look for facts about transgender, how it affects people, suicide rates, age at which people "know" etc.

Your parents may not understand transgender and may need a little education. You may need to keep at it, so they don't think it's a "phase".

Good luck, Kayla. Being LGBT with parents who don't understand is one of the tougher trials a teen can face. We're here if you need us.

I was in much the same situation when I was a teen (back in the  late 1950s and early 60s) and I began living part time en femme, whenever I could get away from home for a  weekend or a few days. Eventually I started living 'out' even when I was at  home (just not overt in front of my folks). My bedroom looked pretty much like any other teenage girl's room, my girl clothes went in the family wash (and would reappear on my bed LOL!) but not a word was ever said.

(My folks never did accept it. I hope you fare better in this more enlightened world!)

It's not easy being a TG teen, but it's not easy being a parent of a teenager, either. You'll win them over quicker if you sympathize with their viewpoint a bit. Parents have a lot invested in their kids (both emotionally and otherwise). The idea of their child turning out very differently than "normal" is something they're not going to accept easily.

Your ally in this is time. Parents tend to think their children are going through a series of short "phases". However, if you are truly transgender you won't be abandoning it in a few months. You'll show an even deeper self-understanding as time passes. The best thing you can do now is to talk a neutral party-- like a counselor-- about your feelings. Then explore your feelings over time. After enough time your parents will have no choice but accept you for who you are.

~ Lyric ~

 Thanks for the feedback Lyric!