Hello guys and dolls, and welcome to Nero's Pointless Poll of the Day!

It was brought up in another thread that transsexuals lie to validate themselves. That most transsexuals share this dirty little secret.

What have you fibbed about regarding TS stuff?

Why did you feel the need to fib about it?

Poll is anonymous, no one can see who voted what. So, please be honest.
As always, I love detailed replies.

Nero


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Sorry Nero but my life is pretty much an open book, nothing to hide I'm afraid, no dirty little secrets

Steph (I'm so boring)

Sorry to disappoint you, Nero.  I'm pretty much all disclosed here and it's all true.

Kristi

I picked other and that Id explain.
I'll be honest here......  I actualy told a lie of omition... maby more than that.

Ive omitted that I had a small amount of breats groth when I was a young teen, bu not enough to really notice or brag about so why talk about it...
Ive omitted things and information reguarding the relationship my ex and I had.... my private life though is exactly that... so dont ask cuz I wont tell 
and Ive omitted that prior to finding a theripist I did attempt to self medicate...  but with out the proper info it turned into a futile attempt and unnecicary expence.

Any lie, even a fib is synomymous of dishonesty.  I'm not dishonest.

if you lie about anything in transition, its only to yourself, and lets face it, if your lieing, somert aint right...


i get accused of lieing about my hrt results ALL the time...
apparently one cant get a near c cup and female fat distribution in 6 months, and the fact my voice has changed from male to female, and my facial hair turned velus.... apparently im a bare faced lyer who should get her facts right before atemtpting to convince experienced people that im a ts on hrt...[/tonge in cheak]

i even had one person say i was a natal female who mascaraded as ts for attention (LOL)

Nero,

I have been straight forward about who and what I am. I don't care to impress anyone, so there is no reason to lie about anything. While it is no sin to be transsexual, it's no great honor either, to take from the line in Fiddler On the Roof.

I don't come here to be validated in that way. I seek validation by finding others who have experienced that same thing as me. Those who are farther down the road can tell me what they did and those not as far as me, I can them what I did. This helps defeat this incredible sense of hopelessness we all feel at times. I don't know why it's comforting to hear someone speak about how horrible their experiences have been. For some reason I feel better knowing I am not the only one that has felt these things.

I also think it's a "takes one to know one", kind of thing. This is a tough bunch to bull->-bleeped-<-. Most have spent their lives hiding the truth about themselves, they are pro at spotting someone trying to hide who they really are. I am not saying people don't embellish themselves, but for the most part, I believe I can tell who is full of crap and who is not. At least about this one subject. But even if I am fooled, I am certainly out nothing. It doesn't hurt me in any way if someone does not tell the truth about themselves.

As far as I am concerned, it benefits me in no way to lie to myself or others about who and what I am. Any benefit I might receive from coming here, could only happen if I confront my situation openly and honestly. It was tough to get to a point where I could do that, but once I did, it felt so good I could never go back to deceiving myself or anyone else.

Other than my early denials about being TS and since the time I came out of the closet, I have been straight up about who I am and what I want to do.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Nothing.

I do not need justification, validation, and/or acceptance from anyone. To quote the great philosopher/sailor, "I yam what I yam."

Nothin. Notta. I've been blatantly honest about everything, including my horrible photographs. I don't see any reason to lie. I'm 25 years old, FtM ts, married to a beautiful (no lie there) soon-to-be 20-year-old MtF ts named Aria, whom I met through the susan's chat. I live in Santa Cruz, California. My dad and brother disowned me when I came out, but my mom still talks to me occasionally. I have short blonde hair, am 5'6" (though I try the whole high-soled shoe thing), and fairly overweight, though I'm working on that. I have size 38B breasts, if anyone cares. They're not perfect for binding, but I manage through Underworks binders and larger clothing. I have a fair amount of facial hair for someone with XX chromosomes, though it's blonde and fairly thin. My voice is low, but not as low as I'd like. And though I say I'm perfectly happy the way I am, that's not ALWAYS the case... about 5% of the time, I dream of the changes that occur with testosterone. I've just prioritized, that's all. Let's see... born in Ohio, raised in Indiana, have lived in those places in my life as well as Colorado, New Mexico, and California. World traveler. I love ethnic food, particularly Greek and Indian. I like women primarily, but gay boys can be cute on occasion. I listen to all music except folky country and most rap. I'm an open book, folks. I try not to discriminate against people unduly, and judge actions by the actions themselves and not by the people committing them. I'm just a beach bum, folks. And a smart one at that. If anyone's missed anything, ask me.

Dino

oh, and there's the name changes... used to be Rafe, now I'm Dean/Deano/Dino. Yippee. And my first name is soon to be, legally, Sebastien. Have fun.

Dear Nero,

I picked other.  On this forum I am quite honest but my identity is hidden to such extremes that omitted details might have explained some of my actions.  Frequently I delete my posts if I feel they are too revealing or embarrassing.

In my real life I do not hide my identity but I hide my gender issues.  TG is a continuum from cross-dressing to cross-gendered and several branches in-between.  I do not fit anything exactly and only admit that I am different.

I do not consider it lying when I omit gender details in real life.  I consider it self-preservation.  People tend to think you are crazy if you tell them you have gender issues anyway.

When I have trouble explaining something on this forum it is because I tend to be either confused or do not want to give details that will reveal my identity.

Although I am not an exact fit to any category I have enough similarities to the diverse individuals on this forum that the many discussions have been helpful in allowing me to learn and better understand myself.   

Pointless polls are not pointless at all.  Thanks.

I think what Nero means is lying to trans folk, therapists etc in transition.
personally i dont qualify my being stealth as lying. im not, being a boy was lying...

nero means in a deceptive sense, where not telling someone your ts isnt included...

Only to me Physchiatrist when he asked if I was self medicating.

I told him no.

Buffy

my gp knows i am, and hes suggested for official purposes that i 'stop' but my two word strong language was taken as a no

I've known quite a few transsexuals and have found that the most common lie they tell is to their doctors. That is to say they lie about not being a smoker so they can get on hormones. Before I quit almost three years ago I lied about it too.

oh i forgot, women dont smoke...

Fibbed?  Well maybe I fibbed to my parents after they beat me the first time, pretending I was stopping.  Maybe I fibbed to the shrink after the first time they threatened to put me away.  Maybe I fibbed to the school administrators after they caught me dressed and in the girls restroom and they were going to punish me.

But as an adult and especially here at Susan's, No.


Sarah L.

Sorry Nero, I haven't fibbed about anything about my TS. I did hide as younger until I came out about my being TS. When I came out there has not been any dishonesty about me. I'm out there for all to see and I don't even hide online either. What you see and read is who I am. I'm really kind of boring.
Sheila

I haven't fibbed about anything exactly, but I do tend to withold the tidbit about my bisexuality until I feel comfortable. For instance, I didn't say anything about that here for a long time.
When you're an ftm who also sleeps with men, people tend to get the wrong idea. One of these erroneous ideas is that an ftm shouldn't 'use' that part. Another is that you have sex as a 'female'.
Ok, technically as far as the physical parts. But I've never been a 'bottom' and I've never had sex without being in complete control of the situation. (I now realize that was a subconscious thing to preserve my 'manhood' or whatever)

So, anyway, I don't like to reveal that right away because people instantly get the wrong idea of what kind of man you are.

Other than the fact that I'm 283 years old, nothing really, but I also tend to hold experiences of my personal life very privately, especially instances that involve romantic relationships....    Whar can I say?  I'm not pefect! 

tink

I've been pretty honest about my past, all things considered.

If anything, I may have at some stage implied that I was aware of my issues with gender identity a few years prior to puberty. I may have got carried away, pressure to be a "real TS" and fit in with everyone else, all of that. It wasnt true, gender only became an issue for me once puberty also became one. I really wish I hadn't tried to misrepresent myself in an effort to fit in more, it still gets to me that I may have done that at one stage or another. I couldnt care less now, I'm secure in my own identity and don't need the validation of ridiculous labels and elitest community thinking to feel good about myself as a woman.

I'm happy for people to know my truth. I dont care that people know I didnt feel any incongruence with my physical being to that of my mental being until puberty and testosterone came along, I dont care if people know I abused drugs prior to transition, and I honestly don't care if people read my opinions on things and feel like they need to conclude that I'm not TS or I'm not a woman. I'm past needing validation from people I havent ever met to feel good about myself. I know who I am, and I'm happy for it.

Megan