My formal introduction.
I'm 43, raised male for the early part of my life and well just different the rest, but I always identified with more things female. I'm 6' 7", 220 lbs, but small frame. I'm possibly intersex with either Kleinfelter's Syndrome (Mosaic) or Vanishing Twin Syndrome (at least what one of my doctors thinks.) Probably a result from being a DES son. From the back I look female already with feminine hips, narrow shoulders and now long hair. I have slight natural breasts (about an A-cup). I do have body hair that I shave, but it's light compared to most men, but everywhere. I shave it about twice a week. My facial hair is once a day like most males. (Just started electrolysis.) I've also had lower T than most males (around 240 on the 150-800 scale) my entire life and for someone of my height, a high voice. (But still somewhat male sounding and have been called ma'am on the phone a few times.) I also look young for my age as most guess my age around 35.
Growing up, I never related to men and my father literally beat the feminine side of me down. I was the only one to carry on the family name and he wanted me to be more masculine (until my younger brother was a surprise birth when I was 9.) He was also ex-military and then a federal agent.
I'm geeky and kinky and pretty active in the BDSM lifestyle. I first went to therapy to a kink friendly therapist who also happens to specialize in the LGBTQ community about 6 years ago. My therapist first helped me (and my wife of 16 years) with BDSM issues with ourselves. (We were both raised in the conservative Southeast US and had some deprogramming to undergo and my wife with her being bi-sexual.) We both have done well and I quickly realized that I was Gender Queer. (My wife is Gender Fluid.) Even in the beginning of our relationship I took the more feminine role of our relationship and her the masculine (but she is still feminine), so it was a good match for us both. Certainly being kinky and in the BDSM scene has helped me discover who I really am. Living in the NYC area has also helped since people are so much more accepting here.
I started to realize that I'm Transgender MTF. I have a wonderful therapists and beginning to talk about these things. I've already come out to my immediate family and close friends. Most (including my 83 year old Grandmother) have been so accepting and supportive. Only my father has negative things to say and even though he knows I was born this way, he believes I should go back into the closet. (My parents have been divorced since I was 12 and both are remarried, my father 3 times.) My wife identifies as queer and is attracted to both men and women. Since I would in a lesbian relationship, I currently don't see the need to complete SRS. Obviously my wife supports me 100% and although she will still be attracted to me, that attraction will most like likely change. (Ironically, she is starting to think that she might be a lesbian and not bi after all.)
Job wise, my wife and I are both self-employed in software database development. Fortunately I don't have any issue there except for maybe clients. Most of which I don't expect a problem with as most are very open minded.
Reading through the forum so far has been interesting and many things I'm looking forward to. Right now I'm taking Finastride for minor MPB for about a month now and have notice less hair loss (some is normal) and things are looking better. Low T has helped things there since genetically my father and my mother's father, had significant hair loss in their 30's and I just started at 43. My therapist have given me her approval for HRT (no letter needed since the center I'm using is using the informed consent method.) I have my first appointment for HRT on December 9th.
That's my intro in a nutshell, look forward to meeting everyone.
-Sydney
