I thought I would post this as a happy cheery events of recent times.

We don't have easy lives, no matter how we appear we have all suffered. Sometimes we have suffered too much and need to curl up and weep. Society and even those who love us do not and cannot understand what we are, and what horror we go though.

Just over a week ago my appointment for a senior position was blocked, it is a position I already held and the contract was up for extension. I was surprised to say the least.

I met with my two (male) bosses and asked what was going on. Rather sheepishly they said they thought that In had a very high placed enemy who had problems with my gender. I felt sick. I also got angry and told them that I would bring the full force of the law here onto the matter. Not just for me, but for men and woman who do not have my standing and power.

But I still felt sick.

I was leaving and met the CEO in the corridor, he knows me and stopped and asked how I was, I told him I was upset with the organisation and wouldn't mind a talk. We went straight for a coffee, I told him my suspicions and that I had no proof of what had happened and that comments about me had only been made in private. I also told him that I was willing to be pilloried and to bring in the newspapers and to create Hell for the organisation. I had no problems being out in public.

He was visibly angry, a few hours later an investigation had been launched into why my appointment had been blocked and a new contract was emailed to me. These things usually take weeks, this took a few hours.

I felt happy.

At the same time I found out that I could go for surgery, the financial issues had been solved, I won't go into details but Angels walk this earth.

The only block (besides the medical etc) was the opinion of my wife. She is permanently and totally disabled. I am her only support and I love her deeply.

I told her today that I could go for surgery but would not if she did not wish it. It was her decision as her life and happiness is totally tied into me. I would not hesitate not to go for surgery if she said no. No argument.

She asked when, how etc. She thought about it with no pressure from me.

She then said to me "Well it looks as if the toilet seat will always be kept down, and you had better buy me a nice present from Canada."  She then asked me to kiss her.

There is hope for us. People do care. Never ever give in.

Hugs

Cindy

What a lovely ending to your story Cindy...

I share your sentiments.

May it all go so well for you!

XO

Wow! I did not  think Rebecca would be so accepting. I'm very happy for you. I'm also glad you stood up when it counted and that you have laws with teeth to aid you.

Wonderful outcome from a bad start.

I think I can hear you singing for joy from Sydney!

Hugs as you deserve it.

Jen

Aw. That is good all the way around, though the last part brought tears to my eyes 

"and you had better buy me a nice present from Canada"

Is that some sort of indication you might be coming here to seek out the surgery Cindy?

Just asking, as it would be really cool to meet if that was the case.

Either way, glad to hear you have some people in your life that won't take the sort of crap that one person seemed to be interested in serving up.

Nice, Cindy. Hugs, Devlyn

I'm talking to Brassard's clinic.

I thought about posting the other event. I've decided to do so for several reasons. One is that we can achieve, parts of my past are private but I have been probably as worse off than anyone here. But some how got out of it.

So, what I didn't mention, because it may cause jealousy and I have to be careful of that, is that I also went to a local manufacturing goldsmith. I have decided to have a bracelet commissioned to celebrate my life.

It is a husband and wife team, second generation gold smiths. I like their work, obviously

I gave them an outline of the design and they played with it and changed it and I will see the mock up next week.

His wife asked what the change and celebration was so I told them about being transgender and my coming journey and my past. I was obviously the first TG they had ever met and talked to. They were lovely people.

I set a price range, based on what he said, he asked for a deposit, fair enough! so I gave him one. The white gold estimate was around a lot plus their work.

He drew the the heart shape that I want hanging off it, an incorporation of C comprising half of the heart. The C is quite thick with the rest of the heart thinner. The bracelet is white gold links with each link an individual design. It hangs loosely but not enough to slip off my wrist. In the final fitting it will be sealed so that it will never come off. A permanent record of my life, each link a motif of my life. Removed on my death by severing either it or my hand.

As I left I said that I may need to pay in installments, a few dollars at a time. They conferred and then said I had paid for it with the deposit and my life story.

They said they were honoured to celebrate my journey and it was their gift to women who walk my path.

I do not deserve the love that I receive.

There are Angels

Cindy, I am so happy for you
You say that you don't deserve what you are currently receiving but I can't think of many more people deserving of love, admiration and kindness than yourself.
The work thing, that sucks. I felt a hole in my stomach reading the first part of your post. It all worked out though for the best and perhaps it could have been that way from the beginning but again, you put yourself out there selflessly and I for one appreciate it.
I am so happy for you and your wife that you will are looking at surgery! Fantastic!
I also love your idea of a bracelet, I cant think of a lovelier way to treat yourself/celebrate your life. I am a strong believer that we are all who we are because of where and what we have come from, however awful, fantastic and everything in between. You'll need to post pics when it's finished!
Hugs and love Cindy, take care and talk soon.

Quote from: Cindy on November 02, 2013, 08:21:59 AM

I do not deserve the love that I receive.

There are Angels

Cindy - you have rescued me from the darkest depths with your emails, posting, and sharing of life. You deserve all you get and more. Our paths are so different, but yours is inspirational to me and a lot of others and I am glad you encounter angels every now and again. I think they see their sister and are drawn to her, even if she does not recognize her own wings, yet.

Toni

This is the sweetest story to wake up to. Big tears of joy hug. Joann

Cindy! That is wonderful news! And the part about your bracelet nearly made me cry. I am so so happy for you. Thanks for sharing this with us!

Congratulations on having the go ahead for surgery. How neat if we could both be in Montreal at the same time? I'm getting my financial ducks in line and then hoping to land a date in late Feb / early March.

Thanks again for this heartwarming post! I as well hope to meet you someday... That would be a treat!

Cindy,

Glad you got the issue worked out with your job.

Happy you and your wife are doing well in your relationship. That is always something we wish.

I am so looking forward to your visit.

Hugs
Izzy

I won't leave this up, but for my friends.

Pic removed by Cindy

Beautiful and uplifting! Thank you.

Thanks for sharing. It is nice to put a face with the name of your wonderful wife. I can see why you couldn't hide yourself away.

Quote from: Cindy on November 04, 2013, 12:56:02 AM
I won't leave this up, but for my friends.

What a lovely portrait.  The happy eyes tell the story.

OMG thank you Cindy!  Your ability to be so real and share your journey with us so generously continues to be further inspiration.....and gives me a lump in my throat and tears to head off to bed with.

Quote from: Cindy on November 02, 2013, 08:21:59 AM
I'm talking to Brassard's clinic.

I thought about posting the other event. I've decided to do so for several reasons. One is that we can achieve, parts of my past are private but I have been probably as worse off than anyone here. But some how got out of it.

So, what I didn't mention, because it may cause jealousy and I have to be careful of that, is that I also went to a local manufacturing goldsmith. I have decided to have a bracelet commissioned to celebrate my life.

It is a husband and wife team, second generation gold smiths. I like their work, obviously

I gave them an outline of the design and they played with it and changed it and I will see the mock up next week.

His wife asked what the change and celebration was so I told them about being transgender and my coming journey and my past. I was obviously the first TG they had ever met and talked to. They were lovely people.

I set a price range, based on what he said, he asked for a deposit, fair enough! so I gave him one. The white gold estimate was around a lot plus their work.

He drew the the heart shape that I want hanging off it, an incorporation of C comprising half of the heart. The C is quite thick with the rest of the heart thinner. The bracelet is white gold links with each link an individual design. It hangs loosely but not enough to slip off my wrist. In the final fitting it will be sealed so that it will never come off. A permanent record of my life, each link a motif of my life. Removed on my death by severing either it or my hand.

As I left I said that I may need to pay in installments, a few dollars at a time. They conferred and then said I had paid for it with the deposit and my life story.

They said they were honoured to celebrate my journey and it was their gift to women who walk my path.

I do not deserve the love that I receive.

There are Angels

You most certainly deserve the love that you have received, and please don't believe anything otherwise.

Yes, there are Angels. And you, Cindy, are One of Them.

Hi Cindy,
My phone ate my reply so I will reply again.

So glad that your two colleagues had the integrity to tell you what was going on, and that you had the courage to take it immediately to the top. Your are an inspiration for your fighting spirit (and I applaud your success!).

Thank you for sharing your picture and the touching moment between the two of you. Huge congratulations for you on your plans for affirmation surgery.

Thanks for sharing that beautiful encounter with the jewelers. I think sometimes we forget how remarkable we are, and that so many good people want to be a part of the magic of our new lives.

Just wanted to also say that, in my own experience, when I pass major milestones in my life that make me truly happy, I have learned to expect that my high will be followed with an emotional low, as the parts of me that were so traumatized that they never believed this day would come, break down and finally feel safe enough to let all of their feelings out. If this happens to you, please know that it is a normal part of the healing process - and a sign that you truly are getting better - so much better, enough so that your traumatized soul can come out to be accepted and healed. *hugs*

You deserve all the love you are receiving right now, and more.
-Maddie