My husband is trans. I knew this going in. 5 years ago, he started hormones while I was pregnant (and newly off meds). I thought long and hard and came to the conclusion that I could not live this type of life. We both agreed to terminate the pregnancy and file for divorce. As fate would have it, we got along so well, even overcoming loss. We became friends. I had full time employment and a nice condo in mind for my daughter (from a previous relationship) and me.
Then he said he did not like the hormones, this wasn't for him, and convinced us to stay. Must be a fetish. He was wrong. So we stayed together and he then became sick and hospitalized and on a ventilator for 2 months because of blood clots.
Now, we just had a baby girl, in addition to our toddler boy and my now tween. I haven't been feeling myself...lots of change and emotions. He pointed the postpartum finger down my throat, and I will see the doc on Monday. During these last 2 months I resigned from my job to stay at home with the kids and have been an emotional wreck. I found a letter from a female friend of his that I felt was too intimate for a married man. He is always on the phone with her. Even in our bed...for years. In my state, I told him if he wants to be with someone else, who am I to stop him?
Via email he tells me he is starting hormones again. And somehow this is my fault. Within the last 2 weeks, he has seen everyone he needs to see and has been taking hormones. Wow, that is quick service! All I see is someone taking advantage of a sick person. I am not sure how being trans is my fault.
Anyone going through or have went through something of the like?
