Judith,
         I can picture that perfectly, you have good descriptive skills and left me feeling as I was there watching you. Sounds like you have truly arrived lady, kudos! Oh btw, thanks for a lovely evening I so enjoyed it albeit vicariously. 

Well done Judith!  Jealous - of course I am.  I might not get that far but I'm working on it.

More male fail, coming at me pretty regularly now.

The weekend of Nov. 2-3, I went to the Texas Ren Fest near Magnolia, Texas. I went with several friends, many from out of state, and one, a cisgender female who is one of my best friends who saw me Friday night and insisted that I've slid further across the gender continuum than I believed myself. I told her I wasn't planning to deliberately present female, just be my androgynous self. She said fine and that she would be sticking with me the entire weekend to count the number of times I was gendered female and gendered male.

Now what I wore were women's sneakers, which is what I usually wear, women's jeans, a gender neutral t-shirt Saturday, a feminine purple blouse Sunday, my hair down, my silver stud earrings Saturday and my favorite hoops Sunday, and my favorite feminine cap to cover the male pattern baldness on top. I admit to carrying a purse, just because I find them so darned handy. Oh, and I wore a white woman's sweater since it was cool both days, enough that short sleeves weren't quite comfortable. Now I've not done facial hair removal yet nor was I wearing any makeup. The facial hair removal starts in December at E3000. And while I've got the male resonance pretty much suppressed, I don't have much higher pitch because of the paralyzed vocal cords. And that was me going to the Ren Fest.

By the end of the day Sunday, when I was preparing to drive my friend back to the airport, she was having the last laugh. Over the course of two days, I'd been directly gendered female 17 times (Ms., Miss, Ma'am) and indirectly numerous others ("you ladies") and I'd been gendered male exactly 0 times. As we left the Fest walking back to the car, her only words, aside from a giant grin, were "Told ya!"

Then to ram the point home, twice this week when I was out and about not trying to present female at all, I was again gendered female.

I guess it must be getting obvious. For personal reasons, I'm sticking to my longer term plan to come out at work in late February or maybe early March (after annual evaluations are complete). I'll be doing the legal name and gender change in the second half of 2014, again for personal reasons, but given that I'll nearly be done with E3000 by late summer next year, I'm starting to feel really good about when I go full time.

Under other circumstances, I'd probably just move ahead now but things aren't that simple so I'll stick to my current timetable. But it's good to know that I'm starting to fit in and be accepted.

Last month I had a few shopping errands to run and, since the days were getting warmer, I wore a simple black tee and khaki cargo pants with sandals and baseball cap. The thing to keep in mind with wearing a tee is that they are increasingly unable to hide my developing chest area, that is, my boobs! With a loose tee it's generally not that noticeable and it's not like my breasts were even at A, or if they were it was only only just... this tee wasn't particularly loose though. The short sleeves of a tee also show off my skinny hairless arms; plus wearing a cap hides my thin hairline and, as a result, makes my face appear more feminine. Or so I like to believe. However, the main point is that I was in no way attempting to pass as female. Male clothes and no adornment to the contrary - no jewellery or makeup or anything of that nature.

So where I'm getting to with this is that I decided to get my lottery tickets checked at a random news agency. Six of them had accrued in my wallet over the last couple of months and I was none the wiser as to whether I'd struck it rich or not. Not, as it turned out. But as the guy behind the counter delivered the bad news he said "Sorry, man". Or was it "Sorry, m'am"?(!) I only wonder because I don't think I've ever been called "man" by a shop assistant before; and it just seems a bit overly casual especially for an Indian as they usually call me "sir". So maybe, just maybe this guy took me for a woman. A big maybe but I'll take what I can get! 

A guy I dated messaged me on Facebook today. He said he was working with a charity group that was making fun of "transies", and how you can tell they're guys. He told me that he said he has a friend that's trans and they'd never know... talking about me.

...sounds like a "great" charity...

Quote from: LizMarie on November 09, 2013, 10:15:51 PM
More male fail, coming at me pretty regularly now.

I don't understand why this is a fail - I thought you wanted to be seen as female?

Quote from: LizMarie on November 09, 2013, 10:15:51 PM
But it's good to know that I'm starting to fit in and be accepted.

Oh yes it is good!  Congratulations LizMarie!

Quote from: MaryXYX on November 11, 2013, 05:24:07 AM
I don't understand why this is a fail - I thought you wanted to be seen as female?

Oh yes it is good!  Congratulations LizMarie!

I was thinking the same lol, but it's brilliant that you had a lovely weekend

Quote from: judithlynn on November 05, 2013, 07:35:25 AM
Well I think I must have really passed this time. Last weekend I went to an all gay women's club in Melbourne for the first time. Alone as my straight girlfriend cried off at the last moment. Well I summed up courage and went arriving 2 hours after it opened

I was probably a bit over dressed as most women were either dressed very boyish or manly, with only four women in feminine dresses (me included). But I am a lipstrick femme, so my makeup and nails/toenails were all in matching pink and I had on one of my prettiest dresses and  with matching shoes and handbag  and felt a million dollars.

Anyway a really friendly soft butch women approached me  and  she asked me to join a group of women at a table. As the evening wore  two of them wanted to dance with me and then one bought me drinks and then kissed me pretty passionately telling me that I was very pretty and that I looked gorgeous. The club had a drag act and a great DJ.

It was a great atmosphere and there was some great women there.

Well I went onto have a great night...getting home in the early hours.............

my sexuality was never questioned, Of course I have very small hands and feet, no Adams apple and my make up was flawless (mind you I did have a full leg and bikini wax, a full facial and eyelash and eyebrow tint that afternoon) so with my skin really glistening and of course incredibly soft now from nearly 12 months on HRT, I seem to pass completely.

Judith

Mmm getting frisky Sis!!

Congrats.

I was hoping you are OK but then you certainly seem to be!!

Cindy

Oh! Some of you may not be familiar with that phrase. It's called male fail because you're failing at presenting male even when you didn't actively try to present female.

"Male fail" is that moment when you begin to realize that continuing the male charade just isn't working too well anymore if at all. It's a wonderful thing to realize, that suddenly, even without trying, people are seeing you as female, even when not primarily dressed female.

Well for me it was when I enter a store and men smile at me and women shoot me dirty looks. 

Quote from: Heather on November 11, 2013, 01:48:58 PM
Well for me it was when I enter a store and men smile at me and women shoot me dirty looks. 

That's normal ask my wife, she is a hot looking chickster has the flattest tummy, terrific figure and is a stylish dresser, she gets that from other women all the time and gives them the "Eat your hearts out ladies" look in return.

The evil women are usually close to menopause. They're the worst =/

Not really sure. I was at the pharmacy using my Avodart prescription, and the clerk started getting all weird after reading what was he supposed to give me. Then he semmed to snap and finally realize things "No, nothing", and he went to get it. When inquired he said something about the prescription type, and whatever, but it totally felt as trying ro change the subject.


When you are buying something that in the box says "Only for men, women and children should not touch this", and the clerk has doubts about selling you that, it can't be a bad sing, can it?

A girl in her early 20's came up to me and asked me how "Lila" was doing.  She said it was nice to see me again and asked how I was.

I was like, ooooh, I'm fine, thanks.

She was like, you remember me dont you? I used to babysit your daughter, Lila. Julie, don't you remember me?

I was like....uhm, I'm Hailey actually.

She was shocked! She totally thought I was this Julie mom who has a daughter names Lila.
Apparently I have a twin out there lol.

I guess that means I pass?

Quote from: Heather on November 11, 2013, 01:48:58 PM
Well for me it was when I enter a store and men smile at me and women shoot me dirty looks. 

Like when the "Baptist Ladies Group" learned that I have 12 children.  They were just so envious of my good figure!

Quote from: HelloKitty on November 12, 2013, 08:22:00 AM
A girl in her early 20's came up to me and asked me how "Lila" was doing.  She said it was nice to see me again and asked how I was.

I was like, ooooh, I'm fine, thanks.

She was like, you remember me dont you? I used to babysit your daughter, Lila. Julie, don't you remember me?

I was like....uhm, I'm Hailey actually.

She was shocked! She totally thought I was this Rachel mom who has a daughter names Lila.
Apparently I have a twin out there lol.

I guess that means I pass?

I would definitely say so.  That's funny...and awesome.

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on November 11, 2013, 10:27:41 PM
The evil women are usually close to menopause. They're the worst =/

You're so right about that, one menopausal woman yelled at me and said, "You have no idea what hot flashes and night sweats are like!" I thought (oh really bitch? When your gonads are gone and you go without hormones for awhile hot flashes and night sweats are part of the program) Not worth going there with her though.

Here's an unusual one. Today I was at a customer of mine doing some maintenance on their video surveillance system. I was watching a replay of a recording a few minutes old when I saw a girl walk out of an office and past a camera. For a second or two I thought to myself "Hmmm...who is that, I haven't seen her here before". Then I realized it was me 

Quote from: MariaMx on November 15, 2013, 11:34:32 AM
Here's an unusual one. Today I was at a customer of mine doing some maintenance on their video surveillance system. I was watching a replay of a recording a few minutes old when I saw a girl walk out of an office and past a camera. For a second or two I thought to myself "Hmmm...who is that, I haven't seen her here before". Then I realized it was me 

This makes my day.