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My coming out to family

Started by SandraB, November 12, 2013, 12:49:49 PM

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SandraB

So far, my coming out to family has been quite the show. No one has been happy. Everyone hurt. It seems that they all feel that starting HRT should have been a group decision, rather than my own, that they all should have been consulted first and this put to a vote. I'm steadfast in my choice and understand the hurt on both sides, the alienation. And I'm sorry for it all. I know that I'm older. It just took me loner to figure out all out and come to terms with it all; that I can't change. I can change and control what lies ahead though.
To make things more complicated for me, I meet with my boss, who is also my step-son tonight to try to sort things out. I'd never hurt anyone and enough hurt has been spread around already. If he wants me to just go away quietly when it comes time for me for the RLE part, then I'm fine with that. I already know that I'm losing everything that I love at home, but it was either that or continue on as I was. That just wasn't acceptable any longer.
But I'd been dreaming of this for what had seemed like forever, and now and am starting to feel glimpses of happiness within myself.

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brianna1016

Quote from: SandraB on November 12, 2013, 12:49:49 PM
I can change and control what lies ahead though.
Yes you can :)

Quote from: SandraB on November 12, 2013, 12:49:49 PM
I already know that I'm losing everything that I love at home, but it was either that or continue on as I was.
It might feel like you are losing everything at home, but with a little time, your family will adjust. Perhaps not completely but better than things seem now. :)
Quote from: SandraB on November 12, 2013, 12:49:49 PM
But I'd been dreaming of this for what had seemed like forever, and now and am starting to feel glimpses of happiness within myself.
That is a beautiful thing :) Hang on to those glimpses and follow your heart.
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Beth Andrea

A vote?! LOL...if you had to do chemo, would they have insisted on a vote? Or any other medically necessary process?

*hugs*

Don't worry, many people come around once they are better informed...
...I think for most of us it is a futile effort to try and put this genie back in the bottle once she has tasted freedom...

--read in a Tessa James post 1/16/2017
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SandraB

A lot of them are worried about the financial ruin aspect of it all, but I've come to terms with that also. I've been there before and it's only money. Eventually you recover from it. I've thought it through. Wish a few things could be different. Everyone will recover.

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