My family on my mom's side is very loving and accepting. I have 2 gay uncles (on that side) and no one cares. My grandma recently let all of my cousins and aunts and uncles know I'm trans, and nobody has a problem with it. But we're having dinner with everyone for thanksgiving, and it'll be the first time seeing them when I'm out of the closet. I can't help having anxiety over it and I know I'll be awkward. I'm most worried about them loving me, but not liking the trans part and being fake to me. So whats you guyses experience with family like this?

My family (especially my siblings) doesn't hate gays, but my parents are more in favor of gender binary rather than transgender.  When I lived with them, my parents didn't like it when I "dressed like a boy".  My parents only see me as a girl.  I never came out to my parents.

Quote from: 4736251 on November 26, 2013, 09:09:37 PM
My family (especially my siblings) doesn't hate gays, but my parents are more in favor of gender binary rather than transgender.  When I lived with them, my parents didn't like it when I "dressed like a boy".  My parents only see me as a girl.  I never came out to my parents.

Yes that's how my dad is... It's rough huh
I'm lucky to have my mom's loving family. But with my dad I don't even bother.

I had the same kind of feelings a few years ago when attending my grandpa's 90th birthday party.  I hadn't seen him or the rest of the extended family since my start on T, and it was kind of stressful for that reason.  I guess I don't care too much about my extended family, but my grandpa and I are (well, were) born on the same day.  As my birthday buddy I felt closer to him in a way.  He didn't care one bit.  We had a blast.  Ate some food, and called it a day.  Since then I've seen my extended family a few times with no stress about it at all.  Usually they just tell me I'm lookin good or something.  I say thank you, assume this is non-trans related, and move on.

I'm sure you're situation will go equally as well!  They sound like a pretty open bunch.   

Quote from: GnomeKid on November 27, 2013, 01:35:49 AM
I had the same kind of feelings a few years ago when attending my grandpa's 90th birthday party.  I hadn't seen him or the rest of the extended family since my start on T, and it was kind of stressful for that reason.  I guess I don't care too much about my extended family, but my grandpa and I are (well, were) born on the same day.  As my birthday buddy I felt closer to him in a way.  He didn't care one bit.  We had a blast.  Ate some food, and called it a day.  Since then I've seen my extended family a few times with no stress about it at all.  Usually they just tell me I'm lookin good or something.  I say thank you, assume this is non-trans related, and move on.

I'm sure you're situation will go equally as well!  They sound like a pretty open bunch.

Thanks! My grandma and I kinda have the same relationship

I wish that my family was more accepting.  Today I told my dad that sometimes I pass as a guy (which was really stupid of me, this is totally my fault) and he got mad at me.  He said "you're a female whether you like it or not".  That made me think that there's nothing I can do because my family will never see me for who I am on the inside.  I'm just going to keep my mouth shut until I have enough money for top surgery.

I was adopted into a VERY religious, right wing, republican conservative family. Need I say more? OK! I am the plague, pestilence, four horsemen, perverted, degenerated hell bound spawn of Satan. That is the polite version. I am sure glad pre-meditated murder is still illegal here in the U.S.  I am over it now though as I get to live the rest of my life as ME, not an imitation. 

I've been in quite a few groups where people were talking re: families. Some people accept right away, or nearly right away. This is obviously the easiest. Some seem to take several months. They just need some time. I think there are many in this category. And some do EVENTUALLY come around though very slowly.

Jessica, I am quite impressed by your qualifications. Doesn't sound too encouraging. But even some of them come around. They decide it's better than being gay, sad fact  but that's the truth.

--Jay

At least your whole family knows, my mom told my aunt I was gay to save herself the problem of telling her I was transsexual.  Anyways my plan is to come out to everyone, accept me or not, I don't care anymore..I want to be free and myself. I don't know why must I feel like I owed you something when all I'm trying to do is be myself.