Just wondering has anyone ever considered, if its possible with your career, only wearing dresses and skirts? Im asking because if you think about it they are basically the most feminine thing anyone can wear, but on the flip side with them being less clingy a perfect tuck isn't needed where as with some jeans and every pair of yoga pants it is. Only downside i can think of to wearing a dress or skirt all the time is if it gets cold during winter that cold air would chill you in a totally different wau, especially if you don't wear leggings or nylons under them.

The Sad truth is we can't wear those magnificent things all day everyday, it gets too cold and they arn't always acceptable clothing for some fields.

it would be nice and don't forget the heels

Dresses and skirts look nice and when bought/sewn right, can go for any body shape. Unfortunately, the weather here in Michigan prevents me from wearing mine out this time of year, although I did wear mine with tights to a TDoR vigil two weeks ago, telling myself that this suffering isn't nearly as bad as what others have to go through.
Fortunately, one of the pairs of jeans that a friend handed down to me doesn't reveal much, if anything, if I have it a little lower on my hips than I would like. I just need a belt to hold it up.
Which also brings up the belted dresses, like my own. That adds a lot more, shall we say, professionalism, to the outfit, making it more work appropriate.

Here in texas it's already snowed once, it gets cold all over.

There are some professional environments with dress codes that forbid women to wear slacks, oddly enough.  I'm working at one of them.  Boots and leggings can be quite warm, too... so yes, it is quite possible, but you will want a career in some indoor-related professional environment, like software development, legal, some medical, etc. 

Just don't expect to wear a skirt as a fire fighter, electrician, or an oil jobber.

I've been wearing skirts the past two years, I haven't worn pants out of the house save for exercise. The skirts are all ankle length and I wear them as a male. I often get complements on my style, but a lot of stares as well (although no one has ever said something negative to me).

It's possible to do (skirts at least, not sure about dresses), but you'll need different skirts for different occasions (formal, etc) and you might have a lot of difficulty depending on your work (also, stairs suck). Winter isn't actually that much of a problem, but I wear a long coat as well, you can always put on pants under if it's really that cold.

If you want to do it, I'd say try it.

In my Career it is required sometimes. and i dont mind it at all

Quote from: kariann330 on December 02, 2013, 02:39:42 PM
Just wondering has anyone ever considered, if its possible with your career, only wearing dresses and skirts?

Nope!  I'm a jeans and geeky t-shirt kind of girl   (But I do get into a "I want to wear a dress today!" mood every couple of weeks)

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Im asking because if you think about it they are basically the most feminine thing anyone can wear

I caution against doing something just because it's considered feminine.  It's cool if you like dresses, but wear them because you like them and not because "that's what women do"

My personal preference is for dresses and skirts. As I'm tall they are, at the very least, an outward "affirmation" that I'm female. I had a few bad experiences of being misgendered when I tried to pass wearing jeans during my first attempt at transition, so I'm a bit pants-shy. On reflection though those attempts to pass weren't very good and I do need to put that little demon out of its misery. It's a matter of finding the right type of pants and top to go with it I guess.

Quote from: Ms Grace on December 03, 2013, 03:13:25 PM
My personal preference is for dresses and skirts. As I'm tall they are, at the very least, an outward "affirmation" that I'm female. I had a few bad experiences of being misgendered when I tried to pass wearing jeans during my first attempt at transition, so I'm a bit pants-shy. On reflection though those attempts to pass weren't very good and I do need to put that little demon out of its misery. It's a matter of finding the right type of pants and top to go with it I guess.

I don't know why any body would misgender you

Yick. I mean, I love dresses and skirts on occasion but, in terms of practicality, they're a hassle. Car doors, cleaning and maintenance, and then there's the ever present problem of having to deal with chafing between the thighs. Most of the time, I wear jeans, exercise pants, slacks, etc.

On another note, in terms of passability, most chicks don't wear skirts and dresses all the time. Most girls I know/play sports with/am friends with wear skirts/dresses maaaaybe about 10% of the time, if that. The only women that I know who wear dresses and skirts more than that are either: a) very, very strongly feminine in appearance (South American chicks, southern black women, very old school old white ladies), b) Wear them for religious reasons (modesty, faith based dress code), or c) hippy chicks (though they wear them only about 30% of the time as opposed to 10%).

Honestly, dressing overly feminine is pretty stereotypically an early transition thing to do. I mean, if that's your style, cool, but do try to consider what 'you' want to wear as opposed to what you think is the most appropriate for a 'girl'. Do *you* want to be hyper feminine all the time? Will that work with where you're at in transition/with your features? What do you want your style to say about you?

Really consider all this before trying to slant your fashion one way or the other. Otherwise, you'll stick out in ways that will make you far less comfortable than wearing not-pants will make up for.

Quote from: Ms Grace on December 03, 2013, 03:13:25 PMI'm a bit pants-shy.

I am a bit skirt-shy
Really - I feel like overdressing if I do and like people will more likely think of me as trans than when I am not wearing a skirt - I  need to get over that and do some liberation of my feminine sides I guess

Dresses4lyfe!



Just kidding. I wear all sorts of clothes! If not a dress then tank tops with jeans and a cardigan/sweater.

Heels are more occasional for me now, but I still love them!

All I ever wear during the day and casual evenings, are skirts with leggings this time of year. I just brought some magic pink, white, and black knit wear leggings, which I love to bits and just have to wear everywhere. I may raise an eyebrow for a second or two, but they soon get used to it.

as victoria says, i think it might be an over-feminine early transition desire to wear skirts and dresses all the time. maybe a need to 'catch up' on the lost time before that when we were stuck in pants-land.
feminine GGs can pull off anything because their attitude goes way beyond dressing. that is their force, their radiance, to be who they are without any societal constraints. i would love to wear skirts, hose and heels everyday but i imagine that would diminish in time. meanwhile, gotta love the pink fog...

Quote from: Victoria Mitchell on December 03, 2013, 05:52:35 PM
Honestly, dressing overly feminine is pretty stereotypically an early transition thing to do. I mean, if that's your style, cool, but do try to consider what 'you' want to wear as opposed to what you think is the most appropriate for a 'girl'. Do *you* want to be hyper feminine all the time? Will that work with where you're at in transition/with your features? What do you want your style to say about you?

My thoughts exactly. As much as you may want to compensate for a lifetime of not being able to do something, I don't know any girls that wear skirts on a daily basis. And personally, I was never a big fan of skirts to begin with. I'm much more comfortable in a pair of skinny jeans. I also don't like how much pressure wearing a skirt puts on you to be passable. I would much rather someone think "wow, that's a really feminine looking guy", than have them think "wow, that guy is only kidding himself if he thinks he can get away with wearing a dress". It just doesn't make sense to me to try and push things farther than what my passability allows me to get away with.

Quote from: evecrook on December 03, 2013, 03:20:50 PM
I don't know why any body would misgender you

It was early days and there were a lot of things I didn't do right that time, fashion being one of them!

For me, being 6'3" tall, a dress or a skirt is a much easier option because, unlike pants or jeans, I don't have to worry so much about length. Plus I have great legs! 

It's possible that dresses are fashion cyclical. In Sydney, a few years back, just about every woman was wearing pants. However at the moment it seems about only one third are. We're heading into summer so that might have something to do with it!

Skirts and dresses are surely one of the most obvious things we were denied in being what we are. Many little girls get excited about their party dresses, many woman get excited about what to wear to a wedding or other fancy event.  Many of us are drawn to skirts and dresses. 

Having said that it's TPO: depends on the time place and occasion. Skirts are just not appropriate for some occasions and jeans aren't for others. And your mileage may vary on the culture you find yourself living in.

I wish I could find a dress to wear. Being about a foot taller than the average woman where I live most dresses barely cover those bits between my legs

Quote from: Joan on December 04, 2013, 01:49:05 AM
Skirts and dresses are surely one of the most obvious things we were denied in being what we are.

Hmm - I would say the most obvious thing for me that I felt was denied to me was a female body - breasts, hips, genitals, face,... clothing that shows this body were a bit luring, but oddly eneough I really liked girls sport dresses like leggins etc - except of course I did not have the body to match them, so dysphoria again. Skirts were amazingly not that much of a topic for me.

Quote from: Miyuki on December 03, 2013, 11:37:39 PM
And personally, I was never a big fan of skirts to begin with. I'm much more comfortable in a pair of skinny jeans. I also don't like how much pressure wearing a skirt puts on you to be passable. I would much rather someone think "wow, that's a really feminine looking guy", than have them think "wow, that guy is only kidding himself if he thinks he can get away with wearing a dress". It just doesn't make sense to me to try and push things farther than what my passability allows me to get away with.

Yes this is what I thought exactly back then. It also is why I did not have a definite date where I could say the RLE had begun - with HRT more and more people shifted from seing me as a effeminate guy towards seeing me as a bit of a boyish girl. I would have felt odd and actually more like a guy in drag if I would have tried pulling off wearing dresses at that time.
Sadly, this feeling somehow stuck with me and I still do not really feel comfortable in them - I still feel that people would only then notice that I am not that feminine to fit that fashion and then look for the reason for the discrepancy. So that is maybe a tiny bit sad that now 13 years post op I still do not feel comfortable in skirts and dresses, but well - its not that important, but it is a bit nagging at me...