Hi Megan,

I'm the OP for National Coming Out Day Post and I have a question, I'm doing a presentation October 29th at Out and Equal's annual convention entitled "Coming Out in Prime Time." Would it be possible to use a few quotes of your for my presentation, all identifying information deleted (Susans Place and your Screen name)?

Your story is a powerful reminder of what we all go through as we come out, first to ourselves, then to family, friends, and co-workers.

Been a while since I updated this thread.

Well after coming out to my parents it was rather difficult as even though they were accepting they really didn't actually show me any support at all. Everything could be explained as to why I felt the way I did and if I just did X solution then I'd be cured of this and nobody would be inconvenienced by the prospect of me changing genders. It was really hard of me but eventually as I could disprove each and every one of those little cure scenarios with real life things that I DID try doing they finally realized that all of this was true and that this is the path in life I have to take or there was a very very good chance that this time next year I might not exist on this earth anymore. They didn't see all of this as a life and death struggle like I had been the entire time until we started to really talk about my feelings in depth and why I came out to begin with as my Mom has said over and over that I never showed signs as a child and that was because I got bullied for my physical looks as a young kid and I knew if I was getting teased and beat up for just having big ears then what would happen to me if people knew I didn't feel like I was a boy and so I created a Mt.Everest of fear early on that kept me hidden deep in the closet until my emotions filled up to the breaking point and blew that door away.
They eventually came around to the point where we are at now where me and my mom are actually closer than ever before and me and dad actually talk instead of just grunting and nodding at each other like Neanderthals. Things are going great and I can't believe it to be honest as after all the fears I created for so many years were just that, fears and not the reality of what would actually happen. They have even seen me as I actually am when I helped my mom make thanksgiving dinner and we have been working together on my makeup skills!

So yesterday I finally came out to my sister and brother in law and things went very well. Once again it was the I created fears that were just irrational and untrue. They were cool about everything even though my sister did take the stance my mom did at first when I came out she came around pretty quick as we all talked about everything that I had gone through with my parents. We actually talked for an hour and a half about everything that I've been doing and I even showed them my body, legs, arms, nails and even the fact that I have been wearing my undergarments at my parents house for well over a month now. Even my parents hadn't noticed that I was wearing my sports bra! Haha. In all they were great and said I have their full support and am welcome at their house anytime. I can't believe how well things have turned out and I think it's because the signs of unrest and deep depression has been evident on my face for quite some time as we have a big family portrait in my parents living room and everybody is smiling in it while I can barely muster what looks like to be a smile.

For the first time my mom even referred to me with my REAL name! It's pretty much been the norm that I've been called my legal name and he this and him that for the past two months and this stopped my heart and felt so good. It feels so good to feel like I'm alive for the first time in my entire life. 

Just... Congrats, i feel sooo happy it all turned out well for you hun.

Quote from: Xhianil on December 02, 2013, 12:02:53 PM
Just... Congrats, i feel sooo happy it all turned out well for you hun.

Thanks Xhianil,
It has been a lot of work to get to this point but my family is coming around. I still don't know if they will ever fully accept me as my mom has voiced her own fears of not being able to be seen out in public with me...ect but as long as we are all talking then I have hopes that everything will turn out well.

Quote from: Megumi on October 14, 2013, 12:42:09 AM
like a drag queen [king]

Do it! 

Megumi you worked hard to educate your family and yourself.  I completely share the "created fears" obstacle.  Now you seem to be realizing the well deserved fruits of your labors to help your family understand.

Congratulations on this evolution and the "real" you being better known.

Quote from: Tessa James on December 03, 2013, 12:04:08 PM
Megumi you worked hard to educate your family and yourself.  I completely share the "created fears" obstacle.  Now you seem to be realizing the well deserved fruits of your labors to help your family understand.

Congratulations on this evolution and the "real" you being better known.

Thanks Tessa

Quote from: musicofthenight on December 03, 2013, 10:38:51 AM


Do it! 

Haha I just might!