I don't disguise it but I don't advertise it either. Net result is "mostly" stealth, but not trying to make it that way. It just happens.

Now the joke about the hat? It's funny stated that way, but my eldest son, who has turned into transphobic bigot #1 in my life, said if he had his way, every single trans person would have to identify themselves as trans to every single other human being with whom they interact solely so that other human being could choose to discriminate against them if they so wished.

Yes, he actually said this. Needless to say, we don't get along too well anymore.

Thank you for all who posted.

I was interested in these results because I'm moving into a new neighborhood and I was curious how open other women were.

I can't keep it a secret, since I transitioned at work, so everyone there knows what I once was, so stealth is out of the question for me. But it takes some effort to cover my past or the fact that I'm queer.

I'm curious no one chose the 5th option.

I know a lot of women in that category IRL. Either no one like that is on Susan's, or no one wants to admit it (to us or themselves). It even sounded like one or two of the written responses clearly placed their originators in that category.

Quote from: suzifrommd on December 04, 2013, 08:23:39 PM
I'm curious no one chose the 5th option.

I know what I look and sound like. I would not be surprised if I'm clocked on a regular basis.

But the reality is that I don't hide that I'm trans. I've inadvertently ended up as a mentor to some trans persons in my kids' generation, to people that are friends of my kids. So, I try to live up to that. It's terrifying at times. But I stand my by selection: I'm out and active as a trans women. Most people know I'm trans.

I've lived in the same town for 17 years, so the people who knew me know, but since I've been living full time for 27 months, those people treat me as a woman. People who don't know me don't know unless someone else told them and that's doubtful. I look, act and sound like a woman because that's what I am and would be shocked if I was outed. I don't think my family, friends or neighbors would tell anyone who didn't know me before my transition. Like one of the other women in this thread, I just wish I was born female, but I'm happy.

Quote from: Constance on December 04, 2013, 08:33:28 PM
But the reality is that I don't hide that I'm trans. I've inadvertently ended up as a mentor to some trans persons in my kids' generation, to people that are friends of my kids. So, I try to live up to that. It's terrifying at times. But I stand my by selection: I'm out and active as a trans women. Most people know I'm trans.

Actually, Connie, I had exactly you in mind when I put in the 4th selection (No lie. Really. I was thinking of you as the example). I've followed a lot of the things you've done for the trans community. It's comforting to know you're willing to put such a positive public face on Transgender.

Quote from: suzifrommd on December 05, 2013, 05:49:24 AM
Actually, Connie, I had exactly you in mind when I put in the 4th selection (No lie. Really. I was thinking of you as the example). I've followed a lot of the things you've done for the trans community. It's comforting to know you're willing to put such a positive public face on Transgender.

It's things like this that are terrifying!

Thanks.

Quote from: Katrina on December 02, 2013, 06:35:53 PM

Yesh they dont know. But thats cuz there hasnt been any sex! Lol
Still need srs, so.