Quote from: Shaina on December 05, 2013, 11:48:00 PM
We had a vigil for him today.

It was so sad but so wonderful to hear about all of his accomplishments.

He was an angry young Marxist when he was imprisoned but something happened to him in during those long years in prison, he had some kind of spiritual epiphany because when he emerged and later became President of SA he could have been even angrier and vicious, vindicating himself and his people against the white apartheid crowd, but instead he emerged a man of peace and championed healing and forgiveness. I believe that was his biggest accomplishment.

Quote from: Beth Andrea on December 06, 2013, 08:52:58 AM
I have been so traumatized and depressed in my life...and now I have a chance of creating a happy life (good job, great GF, more friends than I've had in my whole life combined)...and yet I am afraid of just accepting that I *can* be happy, so much so that I've actually caught myself thinking of ways to sabotage my own good fortune...

Is becoming happy and content supposed to be painful? I hope it's just fear of the unknown, of change....

I feel you. When you've been depressed for so long, it's VERY hard to think that it can get better because you've been used to the crap for so long. It's almost like you can't believe you can be happy because you're used to being so sad that that sadness has become part of you. It's a strange feeling but you'll find your happiness eventually.

Quote from: Beth Andrea on December 06, 2013, 08:52:58 AMIs becoming happy and content supposed to be painful? I hope it's just fear of the unknown, of change....

That's likely and pretty common. There's also the fear that you'll get your hopes up, but something will go wrong. Take the risk. It's worth it.

I'm wondering if liking "the growly thing" more in metal is a phase or a little more permanent. I wonder why I am liking it more.

Everything's closed today due to national festivity and I need to find something at home that can be used to bind my chest before tomorrow at 13:00. I am in the kind of situation where people are going to notice, specially whoever has not seen me in more than a year.


Apart from duct tape I don't have a lot of things around, and my sports bra still allows the breasts to be seen. Damn.

ik wens alle nederlandse leden van deze site een prachtig sinterklaasfeest!





Sometimes i miss the whole dutch culture.

Quote from: Edge on December 06, 2013, 12:42:50 PM
I'm wondering if liking "the growly thing" more in metal is a phase or a little more permanent.

I suppose that it depends on the individual. I've been into that style for a long time and I still enjoy it as much as I always have. As a matter of fact: It will be 23 years exactly one week from today.

These days I can go from:



to this:

pretty easily

I'm thinking smaller thoughts - mostly about the weather here today. It's a real temperature of -28 C, and it feels like -37. I am thinking that I don't like winter.

Quote from: Peregrine on December 06, 2013, 02:08:32 PM
I'm thinking smaller thoughts - mostly about the weather here today. It's a real temperature of -28 C, and it feels like -37. I am thinking that I don't like winter.

Meh...it is what it is.

What got our first winter storm of the season and it isn't that bad, really. We have lots of nice fluffy snow. Now, once it freezes and it turns into that evil snow crust, it isn't so fun anymore.

Bad mood. I failed my permit test by 1 measely point.

Quote from: Edge on December 06, 2013, 12:42:50 PM
I'm wondering if liking "the growly thing" more in metal is a phase or a little more permanent. I wonder why I am liking it more.

Quote from: Miss_Bungle1991 on December 06, 2013, 02:06:19 PM
I suppose that it depends on the individual. I've been into that style for a long time and I still enjoy it as much as I always have. As a matter of fact: It will be 23 years exactly one week from today.

I was one of those growly singers back in the 90s. I've never lost my love for that style. I think once you devolop a taste for it, it no longer sounds to you however it sounds to people who are put off by it. It'd be hard to get back to that place of not being able to "hear" it, I'd imagine.

Personally I love the bands that mix it up. It's like any heavy sound -- know when to use it and when not to.

This song is a great example of that:

Quote from: ~RoadToTrista~ on December 06, 2013, 03:41:42 PM
Bad mood. I failed my permit test by 1 measely point.

Awww, that sucks. Well, I bet you will pass it next time.

Quote from: Jillian on December 06, 2013, 03:55:26 PM
Personally I love the bands that mix it up. It's like any heavy sound -- know when to use it and when not to.

I love it when bands mix it up especially when it's in the same song. I like contrast.

Quote from: Edge on December 06, 2013, 04:27:59 PM
I love it when bands mix it up especially when it's in the same song. I like contrast.

Mr Bungle was pretty good at doing that. My Dying Bride are good at it too (even though they had a much narrower musical scope compared to Mr Bungle.)

Quote from: Edge on December 06, 2013, 04:27:59 PM
I love it when bands mix it up especially when it's in the same song. I like contrast.

So do I. I just like music to be interesting, whatever the style. I want to experience it. I want to have to listen many, many times to hear all the intricacies in a song.

Quote from: Miss_Bungle1991 on December 06, 2013, 04:36:20 PM
Mr Bungle was pretty good at doing that. My Dying Bride are good at it too (even though they had a much narrower musical scope compared to Mr Bungle.)

Oh definitly! Mr Bungle's first album is probably on my top 10 'best albums' list. There's really nothing else quite like it!

Quote from: Jillian on December 06, 2013, 04:51:12 PM
Oh definitly! Mr Bungle's first album is probably on my top 10 'best albums' list. There's really nothing else quite like it!

Yep. I like all three of their official CD's. The demos can be hit or miss, though. Not that I am picky about production values. I've heard stuff recorded on boomboxes and cheap tape players that blew my mind. I've also heard recordings that were made in 72 track studios that were completely hollow and soulless.

Quote from: Peregrine on December 06, 2013, 02:08:32 PM
I'm thinking smaller thoughts - mostly about the weather here today. It's a real temperature of -28 C, and it feels like -37. I am thinking that I don't like winter.

Minus anything makes me shiver! Where do you live? Plus 32 F here and cold enough to freeze to death!

If hair replacement for transwomen involves plugs, rugs or drugs, does hair removal require razors, lasers and tasers?

BTW, Jillian and Miss Bungle-  I think Opeth is AWESOME!  I recently saw them at a tiny venue on the Sunset Strip along with Katatonia from the VIP table next to theirs.  They played a lot of older material this time with the death growls.  I didn't think Mikael still had it in him after the last tour.

Quote from: Jill F on December 06, 2013, 05:22:58 PM
BTW, Jillian and Miss Bungle-  I think Opeth is AWESOME!  I recently saw them at a tiny venue on the Sunset Strip along with Katatonia from the VIP table next to theirs.  They played a lot of older material this time with the death growls.  I didn't think Mikael still had it in him after the last tour.

Opeth is all right. I've only been to a handful of live shows so I could get an idea of how that would have been. It's pretty awesome watching a band that you really like live. But then again, I've been to a couple of smaller shows where I've discovered some really cool local bands. The bad part is when they break up a few months later.

Round and round the mulberry bush.........

........ the monkey chased the weasel.