Quote from: Victoria Mitchell on December 12, 2013, 07:35:05 PM
Hmmmm... lemme think.


The orgasm. Yeah, pretty much the orgasm.

Everything else kinda fades into the background with enough time but there is no ignoring the big O. It's friggin awesome. (Yes, pre-op, cupcakes.)

I totally agree with this, but would like to add the word multiple in front of orgasms.

Quote from: Victoria Mitchell on December 12, 2013, 07:35:05 PM
The orgasm. Yeah, pretty much the orgasm.

Everything else kinda fades into the background with enough time but there is no ignoring the big O. It's friggin awesome. (Yes, pre-op, cupcakes.)

I had to laugh out loud literally as I was reading this. Its so true. Its a bit mean to say this but yeah - its a big plus in post op life - if things go well that is (not wanting to diminish the risks here) - but yeah - there is no ignoring it if it comes 

You're all making this girl jealous! .

Can't wait for SRS... and someone to help me find it

No SRS needed, really. You just have to find out what works for you once your wiring turns on. Mind, I'm still looking *forward* to post-op life but, at the moment, I'm quite sated.

I'm pre-op too, and agree that you just need to figure out what works.

I don't think I could bring myself to do that... I can barely touch the thing below as it is. The thought of it reacting to anything I might exploring myself in other areas is just so revolting to me. It's one organ I want to remain lifeless as it currently is.

O.K. something just dawned on me.  I smell like a woman, and if I forget to use deodorant I don't stink.   Before I tossed out my old clothes I couldn't stand how they smelled.  Eeewwww.

Quote from: SammyRose on December 12, 2013, 08:27:53 PM
I don't think I could bring myself to do that... I can barely touch the thing below as it is. The thought of it reacting to anything I might exploring myself in other areas is just so revolting to me. It's one organ I want to remain lifeless as it currently is.

Protip: The happy place is *below* 'it'.

Today I think my favourite part of being a woman is that I feel people just trust me more and, generally, they are kinder.

The orgasm is a good one, but I think I prefer that long woooonderful time before an orgasm. Even thinking about it makes my tummy flutter.

Quote from: Victoria Mitchell on December 12, 2013, 09:57:00 PM
Protip: The happy place is *below* 'it'.

I both want to know, and not want to know exactly where you're referring to...

Quote from: Victoria Mitchell on December 12, 2013, 09:57:00 PM
Protip: The happy place is *below* 'it'.

Definitely. I was well aware of that even before HRT, and now I'm hoping to try it out again soon once I get the proper 'equipment'. Since 'it' isn't really working anymore, I think it'll help a lot with my, err.. frustrations...

Quote from: Victoria Mitchell on December 12, 2013, 09:57:00 PM
Protip: The happy place is *below* 'it'.

Quote from: SammyRose on December 12, 2013, 10:25:25 PM
I both want to know, and not want to know exactly where you're referring to...

Yea. Just play below it.  After the O and a few deep breaths an odd thing happens for me .... I can't stop giggling and laughing for five minutes.  It happens every time. 

Agh I too am failing to understand what that means "below it"  I don't want to get too personal though...but help a stupid person out here..?

Also I really like that puberty 2.0 comment, its so true...getting used to all sorts of new thoughts and urges. You know I saw partially bald guy other day and he was so just so hot to me! He was strong and manly and it was like his partial baldness seemed so masculine..well I had thoughts that overwhelmed me. I used to be so asexual...as in NO sexuality or desire to be sexual...now I have a very real and OBVIOUS sexuality that even finds a balding guy particularly cute. Whatever is happening it is very real, like a new puberty and sometimes I'm just overwhelmed by the changes.

**Possible Trigger Warning, skip if you're squeamish about your fiddily bits**

Technically, the area right below the shaft but before you get to the perianal area.

Quote from: MiaOhMya! on December 12, 2013, 10:58:03 PM
Agh I too am failing to understand what that means "below it"  I don't want to get too personal though...but help a stupid person out here..?

*Just a warning here, this might be a tad...err, graphic? uncomfortable? for some. Also, assuming here that this is what the others are talking about.*

You can stimulate the prostate from between the legs, either from pressure, vibration, or other ways. It's maybe not as direct as some methods *cough*, but can certainly do the trick. I've also found that having someone run their nails around that area, and even around the scrotum, can feel veeery nice.

Quote from: MiaOhMya! on December 12, 2013, 10:58:03 PM
Whatever is happening it is very real, like a new puberty and sometimes I'm just overwhelmed by the changes.

For sure. A lot of the mental/emotional/psycho-sexual changes have just been quite drastic. I've been super moody and emotional lately, and it's hard keeping my feelings in check not knowing WHAT I'm feeling and HOW to express them most of the time.

My favorite part is no longer being subjected to the casually misogynistic ramblings that pass for small talk among guys.  If you'd be ashamed to say it in front of your wife or girlfriend then you don't need to be saying it to your buddies.  I'll admit I'm biased, but most the women I talk to tend to build their husbands up in conversation while men  tend to tear them down or act like they don't exist.  Is social dysphoria a thing?  I got that.

For me, the #1 thing is the level of social intimacy with other people. As a guy, everyone pretty much holds you off at a distance, and you are treated like this impenetrable emotionless lump who is expected to fend for himself with nothing but the occasional "I feel for you man" to help out. And guys just don't get the chance to really make meaningful empathetic social connections, it's more of a "boys' club" attitude where everyone's just always patting each-other on the backs and doing activities while technically occupying the same space. Where as a girl, breaking out crying in the middle of a sentence is completely 100% normal, and sitting down to do nothing but talk about how each-others' lives are going for hours on end is completely normal as well. That sheer degree of freedom of emotional expression, social empathy, finally actually feeling like I'm emotionally alive and actually making meaningful connections with people, NOTHING can compare with that in my books. There is nothing at all about the male social experience that I'll miss. I hate every single minute that I still have to put up with it.

Thanks for the honest responces Victoria and Ashey...I think my years of sexual inexperience have shown. I have always had very nuorthodox methods of self-pleasuring but that's one I've not heard of.

Quote from: AsheyFor sure. A lot of the mental/emotional/psycho-sexual changes have just been quite drastic. I've been super moody and emotional lately, and it's hard keeping my feelings in check not knowing WHAT I'm feeling and HOW to express them most of the time.

Yeah exactly!! I have also noticed that I have moody times too! It's to the point it get's ridiculous and I apologise to my friends in advance for my mood. Also I have always had anxiety issues, but they've gotten worse like yesterday a woman wasn't in the office who was supposed to give me a voucher for my textbooks. I'd had a bad day, and I just knew I should have phoned ahead before going all the way to campus, and I was just overwhelmed. I went into the restroom and just cried until I could pull myself together...that is NOT cool!

Quote from: kathyk on December 12, 2013, 10:49:25 PM
Yea. Just play below it.  After the O and a few deep breaths an odd thing happens for me .... I can't stop giggling and laughing for five minutes.  It happens every time. 

This is so true for me. At least for the "big O" (there is a "small O" for me too, it happens when i am too tensed up or not in the right mood) - its like giggling for minutes without end. It freaked out a female partner I once had.She felt I was laughing about her but it was not that. I was told that the more often it happened , the less it will be like that. The giggling part I mean. Lets see.
Pre Op, I had two things that I did. One was as it was said before to go for the area where you kind of know that there should be the vagina (I always thought that one just would have to open the skin that has grown over it and uncover it, so I had a very specific idea where my vagina was in my mental map). I tried to penetrate myself with toys there - of course that did not work but it helped getting me a different kind of orgasm that was more as it is now always. The other thing that worked for me if only a few times was to have a partner that is really really careful. Under that conditions I could close my eyes and rewire my sensations to my inner body map and forget what the body was shaped there - those orgasms were very close to what I experience post op and I think it helped me immensely to recover after SRS as I knew how it should FEEL like now and could get this connected well.

Erhm - oh and another fun thing about women - talking about sex in details  

The prostate  (g-spot ) is more 'accessible' post-op. So much so that the first orgasm I had a few weeks post-op was vaginally. I didn't think that was possible  . It never entered my head to even try 'there' pre-op. Too much prude me.