Quote from: ZoeM on December 13, 2013, 10:02:15 AM
...There's room for both, and saying 'not following gender norms is OK' should not automatically lead to 'following gender norms is not OK.' Let macho men and feminine women have their place in society. Don't destroy the old just because we've found a new.
That's pretty much the point Bob is trying to make too. Remember that this video is in response to the recurring backlash against the "Pink Aisle" / "Princess Culture" etc. He even explicitly says that:
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...I think it's important that the very positive anti-pink-aisle message that 'traditionally feminine things can be enjoyed by all' is not mis-applied or mis-heard as the rather more negative 'traditionally feminine things are *BAD*'
I don't think Bob is saying that having movies like 300 is a bad thing, but rather he's just highlighting how the notion of "masculine = good, feminine = bad" often tends to show up. Exactly because it's a hyper-masculine movie is the reason why it serves as an obvious first example to demonstrate the point, which then serves as a springboard to point out the same sort of thing going on in movies you wouldn't immediately expect - in this case, the Hunger Games - which are held up (and rightly so, imho) as being pro-girl-power stories. Again, I don't feel he's saying this is bad, he's just pointing out that the trope "masculine = good, feminine = bad" is dug in deep and isn't an easy thing to break down.
Are there hyper-masculine bad guys in the Hunger Games? Yeh for sure. But *MOST* (or at least "the most prominent") bad guys are hyper-feminine. You raise a good point with Peeta being a feminine good guy (and I certainly agree with you there), but even there look at his role - he's portrayed as being (comparatively) weak, subordinate, the one who needs saving. He's pretty much filling the "princess trapped in a castle" role, even so far as admiring Katniss from afar and being in love with her without ever having actually spoke to her (just like the princess dreaming of Prince Charming without ever having actually met him - a joke which was highlighted in the Shrek films of course). So yeh I agree with you that he's a feminine good guy, but even then he's still not portrayed in the most positive of light (not as negative as the bad guys of course, but there's still a subtle undertone of "pft, you wouldn't want to be this pitiful example of a person, would you?" woven into it). ...At least that's how it comes across in the movies. I've never read the books so maybe things come across differently there lol.
I agree that Beauty and the Beast is a good counter-example where femininity is shown in a positive light, but that's part of the "Princess Culture" which others are striking out against and are saying is "bad" because it reinforces the gender stereotypes. Bob's point (which I agree with) is basically that that sort of thing isn't bad, and is actually ok if chosen freely.
Just to throw something else into the mix: I think Gandalf from LoTR / The Hobbit is actually probably one of the best examples of a feminine good guy. He's kind, compassionate, loving and caring. While he's not the "leader" (usually seen as a male trait) like Aragorn is, he does subtly guide things from the background (much like the traditional image of a nation's leader being influenced by his wife), and he's not violent or aggressive 90% of the time (only fights when he has no other choice, and even then he tends to do it with brains rather than brawn). I'd say those are all traditionally feminine traits, but unlike Peeta from the Hunger Games, Gandalf can certainly not be accused of being "weak" or "subordinate" or "needs saving" (he fought off a freaking Balrog single-handedly for gods sake!

). I've always associated Gandalf with my own mum funnily enough, but until I started thinking about things in this way I didn't really understand why. Now I see it's because he fills that "Guardian Angel" sort of a role (just like mum does

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