Quote from: evecrook on December 08, 2013, 01:37:33 PM
I'm just not sure anymore after view all these posts. Is it legal to have a lesbian relationship with your therapist'    What's the term if you like cute little kitty cats.

I really wouldn't go there.  It's fine to have a friendly relationship with your therapist, but they should be able to give you neutral and detached advice.  Once they become emotionally attached and personally invested in your life, they can no longer really give you reliable advice or run the risk of being biased.  Just my opinion. 

Quote from: evecrook on December 14, 2013, 09:54:12 AM
I don't know if this will help. I know what you mean , but I realized a long time ago that I was pretty much hard core bisexual . I've found love both ways. You just need to find the right person which can be difficult.

Early on before my epiphany and the beginning of my own transition I held a typically narrow view of the proprieties of human sexual relationships, however over time that attitude has been replaced by an entirely different view of human sexuality and the entire rainbow of possibilities which boils down to the idea that there is someone out there for everyone and no-one should have to live their life alone or be criticized for their preferences.

Quote from: Shantel on December 14, 2013, 10:16:57 AM
Early on before my epiphany and the beginning of my own transition I held a typically narrow view of the proprieties of human sexual relationships, however over time that attitude has been replaced by an entirely different view of human sexuality and the entire rainbow of possibilities which boils down to the idea that there is someone out there for everyone and no-one should have to live their life alone or be criticized for their preferences.

That's a great way to look at it and I agree.   Gay, straight, bi or whatever, just follow your heart.  I notice there is a lot of shame in the transgender community for their preferences and it shouldn't be that way.  There is nothing wrong with liking what you like.... well, as long as it's legal, lol.  So many people assume that transgender women are into guys which unfairly forces lesbians to meet certain social expectations.  All I can say is follow your heart and forget the rest.  That's all that matters.

I don't know if there is a person out there for everyone, but I'm hoping you're right because I keep fearing I'll never meet a guy who will accept me.  For some reason, dating has really been on my mind the past few days more than ever.  Yet, I'm still in the beginning of my transition, so things are a little complex and awkward.  Hopefully there is a Mr. right out there for me and I'll find him someday.  Eh....

Quote from: learningtolive on December 14, 2013, 10:57:28 AM
That's a great way to look at it and I agree.   Gay, straight, bi or whatever, just follow your heart.  I notice there is a lot of shame in the transgender community for their preferences and it shouldn't be that way.  There is nothing wrong with liking what you like.... well, as long as it's legal, lol.  So many people assume that transgender women are into guys which unfairly forces lesbians to meet certain social expectations.  All I can say is follow your heart and forget the rest.  That's all that matters.

I don't know if there is a person out there for everyone, but I'm hoping you're right because I keep fearing I'll never meet a guy who will accept me.  For some reason, dating has really been on my mind the past few days more than ever.  Yet, I'm still in the beginning of my transition, so things are a little complex and awkward.  Hopefully there is a Mr. right out there for me and I'll find him someday.  Eh....

odds are in your favor. there's like 7 billion people on the planet

Quote from: learningtolive on December 14, 2013, 10:57:28 AM

I don't know if there is a person out there for everyone, but I'm hoping you're right because I keep fearing I'll never meet a guy who will accept me.  For some reason, dating has really been on my mind the past few days more than ever.  Yet, I'm still in the beginning of my transition, so things are a little complex and awkward.  Hopefully there is a Mr. right out there for me and I'll find him someday.  Eh....

I get that feeling all the time.  It'd be great to have someone to share the journey with, not to mention, the intimacy with having a SO(and i dont just mean sex).  Having someone who loves and cares for me throughout the transition process(a guy or girl or w/e), as well has having someone who regularly makes me feel feminine is a significant ego boost to those of us with very low self esteem.  It seems at times loneliness is pervasive throughout the trans community due to our situation.  Since i let my emotional pallet out of its cage and stopped suppressing them all, ive noticed a person that shows me affection and makes me feel feminine and like a lady, put me emotionally in a place, where no drugs could ever take me, just the best feeling in the world.  My submissive nature has me a bit codependent  i think lol.

Quote from: Sophia Hawke on December 14, 2013, 05:45:05 AM
Try dating gay women.  Sounds like you were dating straight ones.  Im fairly submissive, and i definately understand the need for someone else to either be in control or the aggressor.   I'm attracted to both(but more to "some" guys).  I'm not sure ill ever let go of dating women(even though i kind of want to).  Although, i suppose as long as i find the dominant partner i seek, im not sure i care what gender they are, as long as they treat me like a lady and with respect.

This sounds weird, but lots of my girl friends have been lesbians. Well obviously bi, but mostly not. They liked my feminineness. The one I had the most fun with was almost 6 ft tall, and she liked to be in charge!

So I'm going to go looking for that type again when the time comes.   I'm not into guys at all.

Quote from: RavenMoon on December 14, 2013, 01:22:12 PM
This sounds weird, but lots of my girl friends have been lesbians. Well obviously bi, but mostly not. They liked my feminineness. The one I had the most fun with was almost 6 ft tall, and she liked to be in charge!

This^ im wishy washy on guys, but i have a clear idea what i want with a woman.   

im strictly dickly lmao. only men for me no woman.

Quote from: Sophia Hawke on November 24, 2013, 01:33:59 PM
For starters, women are safer.  I mean TBH  no matter who i sleep with(cause i kinda like guys too), on an emotional level, i find a deeper emotional connection with a woman.  Hormones may however change this.

yes , I myself find woman to be much safer. Not to disrespect men what so ever, I do love them. I know though being on estrogen for a while now my fantasies for woman are still strong and loving , but the fantasies for men are going to places I've never been before. I mean wow, Its like the flood gates just opened.

For me I have only been with women and had embarrassing experiences with men.
However even tho I am putting relationships on hold, thinking about being with a another woman makes me uncomfortable, and I feel like I am leaning more towards men.

I love people for who they are, regardless of gender but I cant help loving them man bears.

So women just make me uncomfortable/jealous, but a relationship with a man makes me anxious 

I'm not quite sure any more, the more I'm on estrogen the more I fantasize about men, but I've been in relationships with men and my thoughts are changing  with estrogen to the point that I want a man, but  need GRS first because that's the intimacy I truly  crave,

Quote from: learningtolive on December 14, 2013, 10:57:28 AM
So many people assume that transgender women are into guys 

Hi Olive,
It's interesting you bring this up.  I was thinking about this while reading all these posts.  It's amazing actually how times have changed.  Back 30 years ago many therapists thought you couldn't be a transgender woman unless you liked males and now years later we realize how upside down that idea was.

BTW, I like woman, but I do imagine sometimes being involved sexually with a man.  My therapist says that may be an expression of me wanting to experience everything a woman could experience.  I haven't started HRT yet, and that may change things.  Who knows.

Take care,
Paige

As being only about 9 months into transition, I am still trying to figure out my orientation, but some reason this isn't much of a priority for me right now. I am really enjoying how I am relating to both men and woman in a new way, without the static of sex messing that up. I am probably way more emotionally connected to women, because I empathize with them, but I suspect that just the right man could do that for me as well. It seems to me that sex is becoming about the person more than just a physical attraction.

Not sure what my orientation is =/. My transition has been second nature to me but my sexuality is the biggest gaze.

At first I always thought that falling for men was wrong, or even to look at them. I did got over that but even now if I get closer to a guy, kiss one, it feels.. like I shouldn't? It isn't that I don't want it but my old past barrier still keeps me from doing a lot with men.

Thing is! Women are beautiful! And I love to have a female sidekick but sexually wise.. I wouldn't feel attracted. But talking about romance I would. I rather kiss a girl than a man =/.

Gosh.. tis complicated +_+.

Evercrook - Yes, I noticed the same thing as well. But, I always say to each his own and its what makes our world a brighter and more colorful place to live in. In my mind I think it is because if one is living as 'male' and then physically transitions to female (their true self), I do not see why the sexual preference would change since it is only the exterior features which are changing and not the mind. The mind was always female.  Makes me conclude that regardless of our outer shells, some of us are bisexual, some lesbian, some heterosexual, on and on....

But what do I know.

Honestly, I think sleeping with a girl would be super boring. >,>
I haven't slept with anyone so my input doesn't count much.
Anyway I'd prefer a Tgirl over anything and I totes got lucky because my gf is one. :'D
It just seems right to me. A man doesn't seem emotional enough but a woman would make me feel like the man in a relationship and I hope to transition someday. So I'm happy I have someone I can look up to and follow in her got steps. :3

Word for lover of cute little kitty cats:   ailurophile petit   

You are right. It does seem that a lot of the members are attracted to women, that's OK. But I'm 100% attracted sexually to hetrosexual type men. Good luck to us all in finding our place in the world.

Currently I am more attracted to women, I am starting to notice things about guys though.