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Started by kaylagirl0806, December 15, 2013, 04:18:27 PM

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kaylagirl0806

Thank you for the tips! Is there a specific cut of jeans that would be best? Any other suggestions of clothes are still good too :)
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Christine167

Quote from: kaylagirl0806 on December 17, 2013, 11:45:52 AM
Thank you for the tips! Is there a specific cut of jeans that would be best? Any other suggestions of clothes are still good too :)
Well I'm a fan of skinny and boot cut jeans. I really like the way they feel on me. Nice and snug.
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kaylagirl0806

Sounds like a good option :) I'd like mine to be snug.
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Blastradius

I like the super skinny jeans from hottopic. After I started wearing the guys skinny jeans one day I just wore my girls skinny jeans to school and nobody knew the difference, so if you don't mind having a little patience some things can be eased into so that no one will notice. Also I got some Converses, which since they are all unisex nobody can really say anything (I got neon green pink ones) and I also got girls socks, which my parents asked about and I told the the truth that girls socks are waaaay cheaper then guys socks (it's so unfair :P.) And now I look like an emo/punk rocker with really colorful shoes. :P And I love aeropostale's V-neck t-shirts they are soft. :)  One other thing make sure you understand the size conversions for stuff before you go on a shopping spree. <3
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kaylagirl0806

Thanks Blastradius! I'll definately look into those aeropostale shirts and some girls socks(;
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kaylagirl0806

In regards to Aeropostale t shirts, a couple of years ago, I had an aeropostale shirt that I got from a Plato's closet that i'm pretty sure was a girls shirt(The label inside was all cursive and feminine) but my parents had no idea because it was in the guys section. It was my favorite shirt ;D
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franie

 I assume that you are not yet on hormones. When you start on HRT  You will soon find  that when wearing T shirts your breasts will show(not a bad thing),but you will be seen as female. as you can see in my profile pic.
I have been on estrogen and progesterone  for 24 years and sprio off and on but not for about 8 years. I have not totally transitioned yet but since  my breasts are very noticeable  36 I it is pretty much impossible not be seen as female. Just went full time. :) Yes I still do yard work!
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ssneha23

I haven't come out yet and so appear in public as male.  However, I have taken to wear skinny jeans and solid colour T-shirts, especially in black, red, sky blue, purple ..This like 60-70 % of the time allows me to pass as a girl without raising too many questions from friends and family ..   
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kaylagirl0806

I can't wait to start on hormones then! I really wish I had breasts :embarrassed:
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kaylagirl0806

On another note, does anybody have suggestions of something feminine I could wear to bed? Also, any other ideas for daily wear that I can start slowly replacing my boy wardrobe with ;)
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kaylagirl0806

I love this top :) Is it too risky?
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Ashey

Quote from: kaylagirl0806 on December 18, 2013, 07:50:22 PM
I love this top :) Is it too risky?

Well, the sleeves are more fitted than a guy's shirt probably would be. The neckline is not only quite low, but rounded. You likely wouldn't see that on a guy's shirt. Can't tell about the cut or fit though, but I'm going to guess it would also have a 'female fit' to it. All these things will probably give it away, unless you can pull off looking very 'gay'. Some people can look at a guy casually wearing some women's clothes and think 'oh, he's just gay'.. so I would think it depends on a lot of factors, like how you portray yourself (behaviours and whatnot) as to how people would treat you wearing that top. If you seem masculine enough, I'm sure some eyebrows would be raised, and questions asked..
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kaylagirl0806

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Stella Stanhope

Hey kaylagirl0806!

Hows it going with the new wardrobe. Such really good suggestions here, yes Vans, spiffing idea as well! Young fashion can be very adaptable and androgynous, too.

As for jeans, skinnies are a great start, especially when they seem to make your ankles seem smaller (they seem to make mine look smaller). Flared jeans are also now associated with a feminine silhouette (despite their unisex appeal in decades past). High-waisted jeans made for females are also good, as they are a specific shape and tend to pull in the waist a little, whilst appearing to reduce the height of the chest at the same time.

Fabrics! Very important. Some fabrics are exclusive to one gender. Shiny fabrics almost are the preserve of women, as are nylon and man-made fibres in bright colours. I have some women's trouser suits which are juuuuuuust about passable as a male wardrobe, unless you look closely. The fabric tends to shimmer slightly, its much softer and clings to the skin a little when there is movement, (which feels absolutely gorgeous!), so very different to male fabrics which do not have that sensual appeal, as men are not meant to have such appreciation for such tactile experiences (I don't believe men do not have such appreciations, despite the fact that women's skin can be more sensitive). There's a definite difference with the colour and texture of male and female jeans as well. Female jeans (at least with young fashions) tend to be softer to the touch, and with a more delicate or bolder colour, whilst men's jeans tend to be more workmanlike, generally and with a subtly different colour variation.

It can take a while to build an androgynous wardrobe that can both allow you to "pass" as male, whilst still allowing you to feel feminine. I've just about gotten there :p After much experimentation at cheap trendy shops like the UK's Primark. I now have a wardrobe that's got clothes that are passably male but with overtly female flourishes. Its a VERY fine balance and I can see people look me up and down, see the feminine elements and raise their eyebrows, but then see the fact I'm not wearing - for instance - an an obvious blouse, heels, or a skirt. So the result is that they just view me as eccentric :p And don't question the gender.

Feel free to message me if you like. I'm not an expert and I happily make fails (all part of the experimentation), but I worked at a department store and dressed the male and female mannequins so that really helped me to design a feminine yet masculine wardrobe.


   

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Miranda Catherine


I think boatneck and v neck t-shirts with 3/4 sleeves is a good start. It's pretty feminine but I think you could get away with it. Some of the other girls mentioned jewelry, which can be androgynous too, but Kayla, you don't even have to mention being transgendered when you talk to your parents about needing a psychologist. Tell them your depression is getting worse and if they ask you, you can tell them the truth, but you don't have to. The point is getting to a therapist so you can talk to him/her about your need to be female. From the sound of it you're not a cross dresser, but trans. Little things like having little bits of pink on your tennis shoes that you buy on the girl's side of the shoe store, pantyhose, and most of the things others have told you will help. Girls flannel PJ's feel really feminine but you can get white or yellow, they don't have to be pink. How about getting your ears pierced? That was the first thing I did and it was wonderful. You could get your hair cut at a salon where there are often sympathetic cis-women, gays and androgynous guys who'd know what to buy and where, how to cut your hair to make it passable as a male but fixable to female too. Just tell them you've got parents that grounded you for shaving your legs and that you're not looking to make a statement, you're looking to FEEL feminine. Good luck and God bless you, Kayla. Mira
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kaylagirl0806

I did it :( I purged and now I regret it. Am now trying to replenish my feminine items. I have six pairs of panties, dove deodorant, compact makeup, (I think it's in the wrong shade though :() and eyelash curlers. I've made a resolution to myself for this year to be true to my female desires :) Any suggestions for things to buy or do are very welcome :)
Love you all!,
Kayla
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