JoAnn and I are both managing well now.  She's not kicking me out, but letting me walk away, and with that we'll part as friends.  She said it would have been far easier for everyone, including her if I had understood my problem, and if I had started this transition before we got married.  Mostly because our wedding wouldn't have happened.  I'm moving out on Jan 17th and she's happy with it.  She knows I'm going to be growing again by living on my own, even if it means she also has to start a new life.  A divorce is at least 8 months, or maybe more than a year off, but in that time we'll be free of the stress. She's never liked watching me change, as I ignored all her advice and comments.  So now she doesn't have to worry about it.

While cleaning out wastebaskets to go into the garbage this morning JoAnn asked if I noticed how much hair she's lost and had thrown into her wastbasket since November when I came back to California.  Yea, she's kind of glad I'm going, and wants me to know how much stress I've caused her.   Oh yes, I already knew.

This is just an update.  We aren't ready to kill each other, and we're not sulking or depressed.  And there's no need to reply.

If you read this, thanks.  If not. I guess there's no reason to believe you're seeing this sentence.   

I know it is hard to visualize this but once all the dust settles and the divorce is final a whole degree of freedom comes about. The catapillar turns into a butterfly from a TS womens standpoint.

Big hug! I read it, hon! Hugs, Devlyn

Big hugs.
I read it through the very last sentence.

read it

We all have read it, and it is not your fault.

I read it. You have my sympathy, but I must agree with Katie - a bright new day will eventually dawn.

I too am at the end of a relationship, as my partner of 25 years (we were married) died in November. She was an MtF transwoman and although I never envisaged us getting together, life turns out to be what happens while you were busy making other plans. For Twenty five years she kept my feet on the ground, saw me through the death of my parents, gave a chance to escape the London rat-race and live the good life - and finally as she got ill she gave me the courage to face the vocation I had run away from since school and study medicine.

She was my angel, I owe her a lot, and I will miss her

*hugs* aww hunni, that's sad to hear   still, as Katie basically said: as one door closes, another opens.  And it's good that you're both intending to part ways on amicable terms

Many hugs hunni.  Hope you're ok and remember: the night is darkest right before the dawn xXxXx <333

Quote from: Doctorwho? on December 19, 2013, 01:59:14 PM
I read it. You have my sympathy, but I must agree with Katie - a bright new day will eventually dawn.

I too am at the end of a relationship, as my partner of 25 years (we were married) died in November. She was an MtF transwoman and although I never envisaged us getting together, life turns out to be what happens while you were busy making other plans. For Twenty five years she kept my feet on the ground, saw me through the death of my parents, gave a chance to escape the London rat-race and live the good life - and finally as she got ill she gave me the courage to face the vocation I had run away from since school and study medicine.

She was my angel, I owe her a lot, and I will miss her

please let me say that I am so sorry for your terrible lose. You'll have those great memories to cherish    Your an inspiration for me in transition   Doctor Who

HUGS I don't know what else to say. I hope our paths cross someday and we can share a coffee, stories, and hopefully some laughs. God protect you and guide you. Your friend Kelli

Quote from: Doctorwho? on December 19, 2013, 01:59:14 PM
I too am at the end of a relationship, as my partner of 25 years (we were married) died in November. ..... She was my angel, I owe her a lot, and I will miss her

Dr.
My words can't express what I feel for you, and for the loss of the woman who is still your angel.

And to everyone, a grateful thank you. 
Sometimes we need to do those things that seem absurd, then live from that point forward.

I read it and can't help thinking that you are not ugly this morning.

I also read it. And I understand.

My love