Sometimes we just want to say something and there is no thread for it.

So here it is!

I'm feeling the after Christmas let down stuff, feel fine but Mmmm I don't know, all that effort and today is another day. Life goes on.

For me, it has always been a relief that it is over.  There is so much that goes into one day.  Here in the states, it's interfering with Thanksgiving with stores this year opening before the pumpkin pie is served.  Anyway, another reason that I'm glad it's over is that it was the first without my gf.  She is nearing her post-op stage (SRS next summer).  We haven't spoken in nearly 5 months although I did send her a birthday card this month. 

I'm looking for a better 2014 that is for certain.

While Christmas is always a difficult time for me due to a variety of reasons, I'm glad it's over for another year. I'm finding it troubling the changes E is having on my mind as my body start to transform. Sometimes I love it yet other time he fights back. While it doesn't cause as much anxiety as I had originally feared it still is an interesting discussion going on in my head. Recently I saw myself in the mirror as her and not him. Interesting and surprising. It did make me both happy and sad.

Oh well. Any others here have similar feelings going on inside.

I know I'e been ranting about it a lot, but I'm still very sad that my parent couldn't provide me the only one thing I wanted for Christmas or my birthday. It's not like they would have had to spend any money on it.

Hi sis.  Just saw your post, lots of it going around. We are a bit over it down here too. Tomorrow we can get back to the real world, and really relax rather than the pseudo-relaxation of Christmas.  Love from Andrea and I. xx

In England our Xmas stretches on for at least a week and maybe ten days if a weekend gets in the way (Today's UK headline is UK might get stronger than Germany soon! The guy who wrote that must have been overdosing on Xmas booze!)
Today is Boxing Day from Ye Anciente Custom of bosses giving servants a Xmas box or a bit of extra cash not because of fighting, when I was young relatives used to refere to gifts as Xmas box.
Mainly the day is a lazy one of more food and booze and rubbish telly except for those who have cash to go to the super sales in the retail outlets.
We had frost overnight but its warmed to about 40degrees now so after lunch I'll go walk round with my video camera.
Downstairs people have been really quiet so far after last night's bust-up.

The kids next door playing in their swimming pool, sounds of fun!

11 years 11.30pm

I love you

Boxing day here and I suppose it depends on how you ask me about today.

Ya see, yesterday was great. Mary made son a hand made sweater and he liked it so after that Mary could likely call the rest of the day gravy.

She has looked down and anti Christmas bummed out for a week, so frankly seeing her smile made MY day, and after that I was able to relax a lot more.

Me, my day was mainly up danged early and 'come on we got to do presents as I need to get to mom's so I can make the dinner'. So I was glad the son was up promptly (some years the day here doesn't begin to near noon). My turkey dinner prep helped (previous days I had down all the slice and dice and prelim) so the cooking of the meal was real basic.

The weather was sunny and crisp (which I liked).

Managed to get a ton of baking done, so it felt like Christmas of 20 years ago when mom used to do it all. I have become my mom. My brother is due on 27 from Ottawa so he gets a gift package of the classics he likes and a box of same for my sister to take back with him. so regardless of what gender they perceive me as, I am clearly not the same person the remember (20 years ago the idea I do all the baking would get laughs).

Now as for going out today for Boxing Day sales, if you listen to my feet, it goes something like this 'yooooou stuuuuupid ^%#@$$@ bitch, do you really think I care if you find that ^%$#^%@ night gown you want at half off?
My feet have a different view of the holidays

The silly day is past, yeah it's a holiday meant for a religion I have no connection with, so what, my mom is Christian.
I consider it a great opportunity to bake and have a nice turkey dinner. And they never sell turkeys routinely in the stores otherwise, so you use those dates when you can eh.

We only managed to hack up half the bird, so it means turkey sandwiches (which again my feet don't care about hehe) and turkey soup later in the week (oh stop whining feet), and likely a nice meal new years day still ahead.

And through it all, I have the people I want present, and I won't be spending even a second regretting anyone that doesn't wish to be part of my life not joining in. It just means more cookies and squares and brownies etc etc etc for me

Enjoy life people, because no one is going to do it for you.

Cindy, thanks so very much for the thread.

If I had to make a topic, I would probably title it "How do I behave like a Guy :p"

My childhood friends who I meet like once a year during Christmas and who have no clue about me being trans are giving me hell. I met them (no full time for me yet) today and the entire dinner was about "a guy doesn't talk that way" or "doesn't sit knee over knee".. or "doesn't walk or talk in certain manner".. it was so frustrating to try and act like the way they wanted me to act. I just wanted to beat the stereo type gender behaviour out of their heads..

Please do let me know what do I do? I just feel sooo stuck .. I have transitioned sooo much in looks and behaviour that I no longer remember "how do guys behave" .. guess I need to attend a refresher class or something .. :p :p :p :p

Quote from: karahayes on December 26, 2013, 04:41:29 AM
For me, it has always been a relief that it is over.  There is so much that goes into one day.  Here in the states, it's interfering with Thanksgiving with stores this year opening before the pumpkin pie is served.  Anyway, another reason that I'm glad it's over is that it was the first without my gf.  She is nearing her post-op stage (SRS next summer).  We haven't spoken in nearly 5 months although I did send her a birthday card this month. 

I'm looking for a better 2014 that is for certain.

The Christmas stuff was in stores before Halloween!

Quote from: ssneha23 on December 26, 2013, 09:31:04 AM
Cindy, thanks so very much for the thread.

If I had to make a topic, I would probably title it "How do I behave like a Guy :p"

My childhood friends who I meet like once a year during Christmas and who have no clue about me being trans are giving me hell. I met them (no full time for me yet) today and the entire dinner was about "a guy doesn't talk that way" or "doesn't sit knee over knee".. or "doesn't walk or talk in certain manner".. it was so frustrating to try and act like the way they wanted me to act. I just wanted to beat the stereo type gender behaviour out of their heads..

Please do let me know what do I do? I just feel sooo stuck .. I have transitioned sooo much in looks and behaviour that I no longer remember "how do guys behave" .. guess I need to attend a refresher class or something .. :p :p :p :p

Screw them honey, just be you and move on with your feminine life. Take it from me who once de-transition under familial and societal pressures, you don't want to be back-stepping because it's harder on your heart, body and soul and you needn't stress yourself out pretending just to suit someone else.

I agree with Shantel. It must be hard to get such reactions from friends you've had so long, but don't let them worry you too much. If you only see them once a year, perhaps even consider not seeing them at all. That's harsh, I know. But don't let anybody but yourself control how you walk, talk or sit. That is not someone's else's decision.

Every Christmas there are the usual presentations on television that we like to watch just to get into the spirit of things, "The Christmas Carol", here in the states "The Homecoming," "Miracle on 34th Street" and "A Christmas Story" a hilarious story from a young boy's perspective played by Peter Billingsly. It seems like the money grubbing Grinch made that story a pay per view film only this year. The bastards! 

Quote from: ssneha23 on December 26, 2013, 09:31:04 AM
Cindy, thanks so very much for the thread.

If I had to make a topic, I would probably title it "How do I behave like a Guy :p"

My childhood friends who I meet like once a year during Christmas and who have no clue about me being trans are giving me hell. I met them (no full time for me yet) today and the entire dinner was about "a guy doesn't talk that way" or "doesn't sit knee over knee".. or "doesn't walk or talk in certain manner".. it was so frustrating to try and act like the way they wanted me to act. I just wanted to beat the stereo type gender behaviour out of their heads..

Please do let me know what do I do? I just feel sooo stuck .. I have transitioned sooo much in looks and behaviour that I no longer remember "how do guys behave" .. guess I need to attend a refresher class or something .. :p :p :p :p

What do you do? Take it as a compliment.

Whenever someone tells you you're not doing what a typical guy does, smile sweetly and say "Okay, thanks for letting me know. Very useful information. Honestly, I would be lost without you. Those years spent questioning and studying the whole of humanity weren't wasted at all." Oh, and nod sagely. That all adds to the effect.

Then remember that you're not one, and you're just being yourself. And people are noticing. Which is a good thing. It's an affirmation of who you are.

When, and only when, that treatment progresses to the stage of them actively telling you how, exactly, you're supposed to act... well, then you can smile equally sweetly and tell them to firmly insert several rabid rodents into a convenient orifice and go hide in a hole for several months, wearing nothing but their underwear. Since that's how dictators act.

Don't forget the sage nodding, too. That's very important.

I think it's VERY unfair that my favorite college football team has to play the Alabama Crimson Tide in the BCS Sugar Bowl.

I'll watch, but I won't enjoy it one bit! 

Quote from: Shantel on December 26, 2013, 01:32:13 PM
Every Christmas there are the usual presentations on television that we like to watch just to get into the spirit of things, "The Christmas Carol", here in the states "The Homecoming," "Miracle on 34th Street" and "A Christmas Story" a hilarious story from a young boy's perspective played by Peter Billingsly. It seems like the money grubbing Grinch made that story a pay per view film only this year. The bastards! 

It is shown on TBS or TNT for 24 hours starting 8 pm Christmas Eve.

Also......

PORTIA RULES!

Yep.

I love it when Christmas is done, because that means the New Year, with new hope and (hopefully) better outcomes is about to start!

I've only just begun to realize that "New Year" can happen every day....every day is a New Day, each with its own hopes and outcomes...indeed, one could argue that each hour, each minute, each moment has this kind of opportunity..!

My parting shot for 2013 is the realization that I am truly a woman, and no longer "transitioning" although I still have a few...procedural...things to do yet. I've had the opportunity (in the past month) to experience life, sex, and relationships as a male, and as a female...and I now know that even with the best encouragement I simply cannot be a man.

Happy New Moment, everyone!

I like New Year because there's no pressure about how you should spend it. Nobody cares if someone watches movies and eats popcorn by themselves. If you say that about Christmas there's something wrong with you.

--Jay

Quote from: Shantel on December 26, 2013, 01:32:13 PM
Every Christmas there are the usual presentations on television that we like to watch just to get into the spirit of things, "The Christmas Carol", here in the states "The Homecoming," "Miracle on 34th Street" and "A Christmas Story" a hilarious story from a young boy's perspective played by Peter Billingsly. It seems like the money grubbing Grinch made that story a pay per view film only this year. The bastards! 

Grinch is right! 'A Christmas Story' ranks up there with 'It's a Wonderful Life' for Christmas time viewing, but I missed both of these this year, first time since I don't know when, I preferred listening to just Christmas music this year.