so the other day after having lunch with my mothers side of my family, my uncle came up to me and asked if he could talk to me for a minute, now i haven't had a very close relationship with my uncle he has lived a fair distance away, enough that he only came into town on occasions, well he told me that over the past couple years he has noticed a change in me, that i have been more actively involving myself in family get together s, and that i have been a significantly more positive in that time frame, he said he didn't want to force me to tell him what it was but that he just wanted to tell me that himself and my family that he knew recognized the change and were very accepting of whatever change im going through. the whole time i was really debating telling him the truth, that i have accepted myself as transgender and that i have started my medication to start my new life, but my brain told me that it would be best to wait until i was going full time,

the weird part is it seems that everyone knows and that i feel like im the only person im fooling, i have a best friend that guessed it the other day but i just brushed it off as a joke, i was told by someone on these forums that i have become friends with that in my boy mode pictures on facebook that i "male fail" pretty hard,

im just wondering if anyone else thinks, everyone in my life knows that im trans or if im just looking for what i want to see? and also do you guys think i male fail?

boy mode picture

Now lets see, tall, beautiful woman with prominent breasts.

Ahhhh I think you have a very obvious case of male fail!!!!!!

So where are the "boy mode" pictures? I think you posted the wrong ones baby. UH, yes. Total male fail and everyone is right. I am so jealous of you girls some times. You make it look so easy and effortless. 

Yeah . No. Youre unmistakably female.
No doubt about it.
How do i obtain such prettiness? \(>_<)/

Yup, total male fail.

Don't you get weird looks from people, pretending to be a boy?

Me thinks someone is in denial!!

Yeah.... That's either "male fail" or rapidly approaching it. My advice is, only do what you're comfortable with. Do you feel ready to be completely out? It's your life and only you can live it so, just be comfortable with yourself and and let yourself grow. Things to think about though when decideing to transition socially are, will you be visibly trans? How is your voice? That kind of thing. There's nothing wrong with being visibly trans or having voice that's read as non-cis female but, be sure you're strong enough to cope with reactions of douche bags. After a year of hrt I was at "male fail" but my voice was totally masculine sounding. I hated voice training to the point I was scared to even try but, eventually I decided it was time to put on my big girl pants and figure it out. As soon as my voice "passed" I went full time and never looked back.
My point is, don't rush, it's not a race. Make sure every step you take is considered.
You're doing great x
Happy new year

Absolutly male fail , I dont know if you can help it though ...

I ve failed as a male too haha

Still though, since you havent said anything to your family its possible that they still dont know...

The breasts are a dead give away at this point.  Don't bother lying to cover it up, just come out with it already. Besides, even if they DIDN'T know, you don't want to be just letting everyone know the night before you go full time that you'll be living as a woman for now on. It's better to let it sink in well ahead of the fact.

the second pix is maleopose so learn a littl emore female standing.

one giveaway I used to see when I bothered going to trans friendly clubs was CDs and some TS who stand and walk like gorillas with the shoulder dipping.

Gotta agree with the others I'm afraid hunni - total male fail

I mean, the first pic - you could probably *JUST ABOUT* get away with calling yourself a guy at a heavy metal gig maybe.. possibly.. but probably not like 50% of the time lol but the second pic?  Boobs are a dead giveaway and your face is looking really feminine there too.

For what it's worth though - that top in the second pic actually really looks nice for fem mode.  Can't quite put my finger on it exactly but I think it does nice things for your shoulders and general figure

But yeh, if I saw those pics on FB (especially the second one) my reaction would be along the lines of "hay, she looks like a nice girl", so just tell them already hunni, because it seems they already know lol <333

I have to agree with the others. Absolutely without a doubt a total epic male fail.
But on the positive side it sounds like you will have a great amount of support from family and friends.

A young woman in my group was telling us during a meeting how all her friends at work were treating her differently, being nice, and complimenting her on her looks and changes etc.. She asked if we thought they know what is up. We all reminded her that the only one she thinks she is fooling is herself. A month later at the next meeting she told us she went full-time

im just wondering if anyone else thinks, everyone in my life knows that im trans or if im just looking for what i want to see? and also do you guys think i male fail?



Male fail, absolutely or I think you female succeed!
Perhaps not everyone knows but most are 99.999% sure.


Your hair is beautiful

Quote from: Cindy on December 29, 2013, 12:48:43 AM
Now lets see, tall, beautiful woman with prominent breasts.

Ahhhh I think you have a very obvious case of male fail!!!!!!

I was just going to say the same thing

...I didn't know those were boy mode pictures.

I'm siding with everyone else.

you don't want to be just letting everyone know the night before you go full time that you'll be living as a woman for now on. It's better to let it sink in well ahead of the fact.

I agree.

You know how young birds learn how to fly when their ready. They get nudged off the bird house into the air by a family member.

oh wow i wasn't expecting to wake up to a whopping 17 to zero male fail win, well thanks for all the kind words everyone, i guess now that i think about it i have been getting a lot of stares from people and maybe they are just wondering if im a girl, the good thing is that i have a crazy amount of confidence in dealing with people like that and just ignore them, guess now i just need to turn that confidence on for when i go full time i guess

the only things holding me back right now are my voice and my company startup, i think my business partner knows and i think im gonna come out to him for when the business gets green lit, so i can start a new life in a new business, and also then i will wait for enough capital flow to get my voice surgery and ffs in the same week and go full time at that point, i just want to give myself the best start i can

@kairaja
Good plan.
I have a similar plan but mine involves youtube and videogames. :p