Years ago when I was attending college, I lived with my aunt and uncle.  Got to know my first and second cousins very well.  Years later when I transitioned, I let them go...thinking they would never understand.  I realize now that I never gave them the chance to accept me or not.  I just judged in my own mind what their response would be.  Given the new year coming, I called a cousin I haven't spoken to for years.  She took my number.  Said she would call back.  All I can do is hope she will forgive me.  And hope she will call and allow me to again be a part of her family.  And if not, I have only myself to blame.  Guess I am just writing to tell others, don't be to quick to write off family.  Give them a chance.  When we transition they too have to transition. 

Here is a BIG HUG baby! I hope they contact you and things can heal. Need to talk just PM anytime. 

*hug*  Thank you for sharing, mowdan... I'm glad you're finding your way and facing this, too. 

I almost made that mistake myself, and am still pushing off telling my dad's side of the family.  I'll get there eventually, but at least my mother knows.  That's the trick... if we treat people as if we know what they will do, we deprive them not only of the chance to hurt us, but also of the chance to surprise us. 

*hug*

This is a sign for me that i should tell my parents before hand instead of writing them off. I have a plan in place to do so too. And you gave me affermation. So cheers to both of us. May the new year enable us to grow, and bless each other with love and understanding.

And hey Emo,  I will tell you, when I came out to my parents, they didn't speak to me for 7 years.  And yea, it was hard.  But there came a time that they came around.  So, in coming out to your parents.  It could be a hard time for a while.  It could be a time where in anger they say things that are hurtful.  That is the hard part of transitioning.  Finding strength within to be yourself and hang on.  I pray it goes well for you when you come out.  And keeps us posted.  I have dealt with the hard family crap.  If you need, feel free to pm me.  I've been dealing with this crap since 2000.  So I am an old dog. 

My family didn't want much to do with me so going back to them didn't make any sense. If you are young and family ties are there, then it does make sense.
I agree that you shouldn't write off those that love you without giving them a chance, that includes spouses and children.

Thank you mowdan.
Im going to mentally prepare myself for this. Theyre kind of forceful. But i have to do this if im going to move through my life. I dont want to go through it but the longer i wait, the worse its going to get.
I will definitely keep you posted. For moral support if anything.
And the pm offer goes for you too.