ok well i dated this guy for about a month and he has a twin brother and I was the first transgender he ever been with, but this guy i dated still had feelings for his ex  so he left me for her. well his twin brother msged me the other day on facebook and now his twin wants to go on a date wit me. Justin which is the guy I was dating that left me for his ex dosnt want me to talk to his brother cause 1. he thinks its messed up  since me n him dated and 2.he dosnt want him to know im transgender cause he dosnt know how he will take it. So how can Ik if his brother is attracted to transgenders without actually saying im transgender?

Edit: I also want to add that they are very bad/street like the guy I dated went to jail for armed robbery and just got out a month ago, and his twin brother is no better cause his twin brother and some of his friends jumped someone just for weed.

I'd probably stay away from that one, it could turn into issues (on their end) and drag you into it and through the mud. I don't see an issue with talking to him but anything other than... well.   that's my opinion

Yeah, potentially complicated and messy that one. Dating an ex's sibling is often tricky at the best of times. You're a gorgeous woman, I imagine you'd have plenty of other potential suitors out there...that might be a better option.

just my opinion, but what benefit is there in dealing with guys with that kind of attitude for fellow human beings

I am sorry your relationship ended.

Fortunately for you, this really is not a trans issue.

Unfortunately, the odds of it working with the twin are very slim. Chances are much greater that it will drive a wedge between the two of them and you will be the wedge.

And then, it could become a trans issue.

In the long run, both brothers would likely appreciate your decision not to date the twin. On the other hand, in the long run they probably would both blame you if you got in the way of their sibling bond... even if they each wanted to date you at one point in time.

I doubt many here will condone (support) your idea. But it is your life.

Good luck.

OK, here goes. 

Run away as fast as you can from these dirtbag losers.  They will eventually drag you down with them, and the last thing you want is to be locked up in a jail cell with even scarier people.  Pretty girls and men's lockups don't mix well.

Maybe try dating guys with brighter prospects for the future an an ambition to be successful in life? 

In 10 years, where do you think these people will be?   I'd be looking at guys who aspire to something a lot better than "inmate" or "thug".  Who knows, you could be with a doctor, attorney or accountant instead.

Nice house or big house?  This one's easy.

In the words of Dr. Wayne Dyer "When you see a pile of dog manure in the road you walk around it." I can smell that pile all the way from South Korea.

Advice? Walk away and don't look back. Sounds like these guys are in a dark place and that your guardian angel was doing his job when he went back to his ex.

This sounds like an extremely dangerous situation. Don't do it.

Oh noes!

You had not added the edit before I started to type my last post.

Run away from them. Do not walk. Do not look back.

I doubt anyone here would suggest differently and now there is a significant chance of violence? I do not know if we would be allowed to encourage you to date the twin if we wanted to.

Ya definitely stay away. Not worth the time of day to even try to figure out

As a woman, you definitely don't need to get mixed up with that type in the first place, as a trans woman, it could end up a bit worse if you are with a guy like that when they get nailed for doing something illegal.  You're young, now is the time to learn how to make good decisions and the good decision in this instance is to stay the hell away from them and their type, period.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on January 31, 2014, 01:06:17 PM
ok well i dated this guy for about a month and he has a twin brother and I was the first transgender he ever been with, but this guy i dated still had feelings for his ex  so he left me for her. well his twin brother msged me the other day on facebook and now his twin wants to go on a date wit me. Justin which is the guy I was dating that left me for his ex dosnt want me to talk to his brother cause 1. he thinks its messed up  since me n him dated and 2.he dosnt want him to know im transgender cause he dosnt know how he will take it. So how can Ik if his brother is attracted to transgenders without actually saying im transgender?

Edit: I also want to add that they are very bad/street like the guy I dated went to jail for armed robbery and just got out a month ago, and his twin brother is no better cause his twin brother and some of his friends jumped someone just for weed.

Angel,
They are dirt bags. Just because you are trans doesn't mean you aren't worth a loving and respectful partner.  Don't waste time with their likes and go find a nice rich geek who will love and worship you!

Hugs

Kay

I agree with most other girls here: Stay away from these dirtbags! They'll only bring you down with them and they will go down -their type always do. I would politely tell the one that texted you that you have moved on and are dating someone else.

Sounds like a solid case of "run, run, away" to me. Totally. You deserve better and there is better out there.

I would, if I were you, examine why you want to date your ex's twin. Are you having trouble letting go maybe and this is the ultimate rebound?

Jane

Quote from: JaneNicole2013 on January 31, 2014, 10:34:45 PM
Sounds like a solid case of "run, run, away" to me. Totally. You deserve better and there is better out there.

I would, if I were you, examine why you want to date your ex's twin. Are you having trouble letting go maybe and this is the ultimate rebound?

Jane

bingo. im having trouble letting go and wen he msged me I was like omg basically another version of Justin lol, but Justin told him I was transgender a few hours ago cause he found out we were talking still and now the twin stopped talking to me and told me "im not into that bye". so looks like I wont have to worry about what to do now lol.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on January 31, 2014, 10:49:55 PM
bingo. im having trouble letting go and wen he msged me I was like omg basically another version of Justin lol, but Justin told him I was transgender a few hours ago cause he found out we were talking still and now the twin stopped talking to me and told me "im not into that bye". so looks like I wont have to worry about what to do now lol.

That's probably a good thing, although break ups are never easy. After my last one I took some serious time off dating (about three years) and am much better for it. I am in a relationship now that far exceeds any others I've had as well as an expectations I may have had.

Jane

Cut the ties completely and move on.  You can do better. Don't be afraid of not being in a relationship for awhile. 

figured I check this side of the forum out and saw this post....basically get away from it...seems like they will just cause you trouble...figure out what you did like about Justin and find it with another guy...hope everything goes well for you