Not sure how I feel about this yet. But I've been posting this morning and my wife asked what I was doing again. First I said nothing. Then I said writing. And she asked if I was writing on my forum. I said yes. Then more questions. So I sent her a link to the SO section of this site. She says she reads things I send her. But I don't think so sometimes. Should I just leave it alone or should I give her some time and ask if she's read anything?

Norma Lynne

You know her better than we do. Her curiosity sounds good. You may find people can only handle so much new info at a time. Sometimes we want to share much more than others can handle listening to.

I would answer her questions directly, rather than sending her somewhere else. Then at least you'd know she would be hearing the answers, right?

Hi Norma Lynn,

Please forgive me, I'm not quite clear about your question. Does your wife already know about you ? Have you come out to her yet ? From your post it sounds a bit like you aren't really talking about it and you are both testing the waters about discussing it. If she is curious then maybe a cup of coffee and a serious discussion might help both of you. IMHO.

Quote from: ana on February 02, 2014, 04:10:09 PM
Hi Norma Lynn,

Please forgive me, I'm not quite clear about your question. Does your wife already know about you ? Have you come out to her yet ? From your post it sounds a bit like you aren't really talking about it and you are both testing the waters about discussing it. If she is curious then maybe a cup of coffee and a serious discussion might help both of you. IMHO.

She knows about me but I know she does not know the extent. I mean she has to know that it is more than just cross dressing. Right now I am sitting here writing this wearing my yoga socks, my skinny yoga pants a cami under my T-shirt and I am wearing her pink hoodie. And I am fully tucked 24/7 and I don't own any guy pants at all, so whoever would look would see a flat tummy area with no bulge. My underwear draw is all female. But no way I would pass since I still have a goatee. And have not started HRT yet. (I am seeing a therapist this or next week)
I'm just so afraid that she has no real clue. Even though we discuss it. But not as much as I would like. I Do and will answer her questions with truth and honesty. Her questions at the time were more about the forum so not wanting to hide anything I sent her the Link. There is a lot of info here so maybe I am trying to spark some questions. But not sure if I want that. Arg! My subconscious made me jump too quickly. Maybe.

Norma Lynne

And I think she might have been reading on this forum before she left to walk the dog. Did not want to ask. But she did say while she was reading this is so you. Lol

It's just a forum. My SO thinks all forums are places for people to "cyber". If you're going to see a therapist and start heading towards HRT and all of that, then maybe it's time you talk before you're hiding your meds and boobs.

Quote from: TiffanyT on February 02, 2014, 05:23:57 PM
It's just a forum. My SO thinks all forums are places for people to "cyber". If you're going to see a therapist and start heading towards HRT and all of that, then maybe it's time you talk before you're hiding your meds and boobs.

That's all fine and well. But I am pretty sure some people talk to therapists first to make sure HRT is the right thing for them first. Although I am pretty sure that is the route am going to go. From what I have read there have been numerous people who have thought HRT was the way they were going, but have found out either it is not the right time or not the direction for them. If that is something she would not be hip to there us no reason to bring it up till I am 100% sure of my direction.

Norma Lynne