Hi.
I have been looked around the forum for a while, and it has truly inspired me to change and deal with the big issue in my life. However I have a nagging doubt that at 48 I have simply left it to late? My height at over 6 feet does not help, nor my weight at 225lb (albeit that is droopy rapidly down from 245 at new year). The before and after thread is truly inspirational but are these just exceptional changes. Won't I just end up looking like a freak?

Hi Paula, welcome to Susan's.


In a word No. It is not too late and you will not look like a freak. Many older than you have done very well.

I'm glad you found us. There is a lot of information in these pages including what it was like for older transitioners like you.feel free to read around, ask questions or even join in the frivolity of the games threads.

Hi Paula

I'm 45 and 6'1".  I struggled with exactly the same worries as you. To some extent I still do, but I've decided that I have to give a shot or what else is there?

Welcome to Susan's and good luck on your journey

Hi Paula 

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Joan,

Thanks, that's how I reached my decision, I had little choice, but having made it lost 22lb and started laser I have a crisis of confidence. How has it progressed for you, how far along are you? If you don't mind me asking. On plus side I have full head if hair ( almost)

I'm 52, been living full time since June, and loving it. Wish I'd done it at 48...

Suzi is further alongside than I am so she can probably give your more pointers.

For what it's worth I've gone from about 210lbs to 180 in 9 months and started laser like you 3 months ago.  I found a therapist early in December and started hormone therapy early in January.   I don't plan on being full time for a while yet.  I have a receding hairline, so I have to wear a wig.

Like you I went through a 'what on earth am I doing?' period and managed to get through it and out the other side with more confidence than before. I started going out as Joan in November, and though I stand out the majority of people are much too wrapped up in their own lives to care that much about mine. Realising this was a pretty big step and quite a weight off the shoulders.

I don't know...moving forward with this wasn't something I could avoid, and at first I wanted to be perfect and passable, and then I realised this was going to be difficult so I lowered expectations and it felt easier.  It also all became a lot more fun, and life is more fulfilling than it has ever been before.

I expect more bumps and crashes along the way, but on the whole I'm happy with where I am and where I'm going to.

I hope that helps

Started at 55 after cutting weight for a year, from  178 to 138.  Not too late.  Good shrink is important  to help with the journey, and we have to be very careful medically, at least I did.

Wish I would have started earlier, but I started in my mid 40's also    I'm 52 now

It's never too late

Hugs

I thought 47 was the deadline...

Is that a joke?

Joan thanks again.

Not been out yet he're (UK) although it's cold and that does provide the opportunity to cover up and hide a bit. I thought I would start with tackling weight issues and laser. I have lost that 22lb since Jan 1st 2014. Not started hormones yet because:

1 harder to get here in UK than us ( I think)
2 want to get hold of weight issue first, I am told this is a better plan, reckon I can get down to 180lb by summer, then start on hormones hopefully

I hate explaining my jokes...

(Tori kicks a rock...)

Well I am nearly 48 so that makes me under the wire ;-)

OK!

Now, what was your question?

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Quote from: Tori on February 03, 2014, 06:04:42 AM
I thought 47 was the deadline...

No it's 97 or even later.  Supposedly some of the physical results can be different such as less boob, but I would contend the huge emotional boost from Estrogen plus knowing your body is starting to be in sinc with your self perception makes that acceptable.

For my with my dysphoria I am ok as long as I am comfortable in my own skin and wiring.  And that means transition even if hidden from the worlds views.  I know whats under the hood.  I love whats under the hood.  And I have solid A's and if percentages mean anything I could get some gorgeous B's out of this.  My issues are with my skeleton.  Shoulders are too big.

Easier for me I don't have to try to pass.  I admire anyone with the guts to do it

Will I just end up looking like a freak?

Do I?

Vanity?

Really?

No!

I started at 47 years old and went Full Time after only 5 months. You can do it and be successful baby!