Quote from: retransition on January 30, 2014, 12:56:39 AM
This is in part a response to a topic that was touched on in another post -
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,148651.msg1347126.html#msg1347126
Right now I am re-examining everything I have come to believe about "gender", even its very existence. I am post-op MTF who now identifies again as male. Is my gender strictly self-defined? Is my gender what society treats me as? Does the fact that some will see me as "less than a man" due to my medical history matter in how my gender need be defined? Because my gender is interpreted differently by different people and I still find myself being "fluid" in my gender presentation (even if it is just a split second reaction to someone calling me "ma'am"), does that make me "genderqueer"? I don't know.
I think the term "gender" varies in its usage and meaning depending on who you ask or when. Context matters. If you ask the average person in the street, they will probably say gender is the same as sex. If you ask a sociologist performing research, then the term "gender" will refer to the social roles and expectations around sex, but not the same as biological sex (page 2 of this link addresses that
http://libcom.org/files/Mary%20Holmes%20What%20is%20Gender%20Sociological%20Approaches.pdf). Trans* people tend to use "gender" as referring to a person's gender identity, i.e., sense of being male or female or something else. "Genderqueer" being one term used to describe certain kinds of gender identity.
I suppose that the question of what gender people would assign you to depends on how they define gender. To the average person, the answer might depend on your biological sex status. To a sociologist, it might depend on the roles you are expected to fill. To a trans* person! the answer might be that you are what you say you are. You say above that you identify as male, so to a trans* person, that would be what your gender is. Whether you are genderqueer would depend on whether you identify in that way.
Quote from: retransition on January 30, 2014, 12:56:39 AM
I do feel that there is a biological boundary between the male and female sexes. There are a few exceptions to this binary that occur, but the fact that the binary is only 99% (or whatever it is) as opposed to 100% does little to dissuade me from feeling that this is a legitimate binary.
I suspect that most people would agree that there is a biological sex binary (subject to certain individuals who blur those lines due to numerous different kinds of intersex conditions). But the question is how does this apply to gender? To the average person, they would be assumed to be the same. To our hypothetical sociologist, it might be that some people live in a social gender different from their biological sex. To a hypothetical trans* person, the answer might be that gender and sex are different things that are more or less independent of one another. The sex binary might be legitimate because it's biological reality. But that would not necessarily mean that the gender binary is legitimate because one might identify outside of the person's biological sex, and might not even identify within either of the two binary categories.
I make a good example of someone who can blur things a bit. If I dress the part, take T, cut my hair, etc. then I can give a good impression of being male with only my voice and manner raising questions. If I dress the part, take E, let my hair grow, etc. then I give an even better impression of being female. If I make little effort and don't take any hormones at all, then I get things like the first question I was asked when I saw a doctor about trans* hormone treatments ("ummmmmmm....can I ask in which direction?"). Apparently I can be pretty ambiguous even while being required to wear a suit and tie while presenting male at work. Not something I like to go into in a lot of detail, but apparently I am biologically a little odd.
Quote from: retransition on January 30, 2014, 12:56:39 AM
I think that a lot of what we call "gender" (and I still do believe there is such a thing) exists to help our species procreate. I can't get into it too deeply here, but I think that the patriarchy at one point probably served its purpose, at the expense of women, to help our species survive.
Hmmmmm....several things I could say here.
It is interesting how in hunter gatherer societies, there seems to be a nigh universal division of labor (i.e. sociological gender) based on biological sex. Men hunt and fight wars. Women are the gatherers and tend the home. Some societies may provide a way for a person to switch between gender roles. It seems that it does help society to procreate (the one who bears and raises children is less exposed to danger) and it has a basis in physical strength differences between sexes as well. But I don't think one would hear about "the patriarchy" in those societies.
The idea of "the patriarchy" is a pretty new one. It seems to arise in post-industrial societies when a similar division of labor is maintained despite being rendered obsolete by social change. For example, although not many people in such a society will hunt for subsistence, the job of going out into the workplace and "bringing home the bacon" is still seen as a man's job. The job of tending the home and raising children is still seen as a woman's job.
When one looks at how this benefits or harms men and women, the tendency is to point at the workplace, recognize inequality between men and women in the workplace, and conclude that women are oppressed by "the patriarchy." But this way of thinking is, in my opinion, overly simplistic and narrow. It is subject to criticism for disregarding the entire rest of life. It also fails to consider distinctions between class, gender conformity, and other issues that may have a much greater impact on a person than gender. It also paints with such a broad brush that it becomes meaningless because the experiences people have vary widely depending on their personal experiences. I may draw some heat for saying that, and I'm only willing to spend a little bit of time arguing the issue, but most who study the issue beyond a sort of pop feminism (psychologists and sociologists, for example) seem to agree with me.
This is a very long way of suggesting a deeper and more nuanced look at "the patriarchy" and whether it is at "the expense of women." The answer, I suspect, is that gender based social expectations have a major, major impact on our lives, but that the ways in which they benefit or harm people largely depend on what setting you are considering and on numerous factors that may often overwhelm simple maleness or femaleness. I've written elsewhere on my experience of wondering why I never seemed to experience the things that some described as "male privilege" even while living as male, and how I do now experience things that I recognize as "female privilege" now, and how the difference had to do with my ability to comply with social gender norms.
Quote from: retransition on January 30, 2014, 12:56:39 AM
However, as we move closer to social equality of the two sexes (we are still a LONG ways off) and intercourse is no longer necessary for procreation how much of gender do we really need? Should any of it be retained? Is now something we choose and we can make up our own rules? I am not sure of any of this. But these are questions that society is still navigating in many different areas besides just the trans ones we talk a lot about here.
I agree.
Quote from: retransition on January 30, 2014, 12:56:39 AM
In my case I got to the point that gender (at least as it applied to myself) was something that I didn't care that much about anymore. But I can't totally run away from it because in many (not all) interactions with other people, their perception of my gender will have an influence upon how we interact.
I guess right now some would consider me "genderqueer" (I didn't even know exactly what that term meant until a few months ago.) Since I am male sexed, to whatever degree gender still matters I still feel more comfortable identifying as male gendered. It feels like my truth.
Anyone else think about these sorts of things?
When you are me, you spend a lot of time thinking about them. Gender still matters to me though. I like being on the right side of it. I often describe it as feeling like coming home after a long trip. That feeling of things being where you left them and right where they belong is a pretty apt way of describing how it feels to me.